VIRTUES OF ABDULLAH IBN OMAR RA

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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

مَنَاقِبِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ  رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا

We already have studied the biography of Abdullah Bin Omar R.A in another post. So today we will discuss insha’Allah his virtues with reference to Sahih Al-Bukhari from Kitab ul Munaqib.

حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ نَصْرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ، عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ سَالِمٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ كَانَ الرَّجُلُ فِي حَيَاةِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِذَا رَأَى رُؤْيَا قَصَّهَا عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَتَمَنَّيْتُ أَنْ أَرَى رُؤْيَا أَقُصُّهَا عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم، وَكُنْتُ غُلاَمًا أَعْزَبَ، وَكُنْتُ أَنَامُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ عَلَى عَهْدِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَرَأَيْتُ فِي الْمَنَامِ كَأَنَّ مَلَكَيْنِ أَخَذَانِي فَذَهَبَا بِي إِلَى النَّارِ، فَإِذَا هِيَ مَطْوِيَّةٌ كَطَىِّ الْبِئْرِ، فَإِذَا لَهَا قَرْنَانِ كَقَرْنَىِ الْبِئْرِ، وَإِذَا
فِيهَا نَاسٌ قَدْ عَرَفْتُهُمْ، فَجَعَلْتُ أَقُولُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ النَّارِ، أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ النَّارِ‏.‏ فَلَقِيَهُمَا مَلَكٌ آخَرُ فَقَالَ لِي لَنْ تُرَاعَ‏.‏ فَقَصَصْتُهَا عَلَى حَفْصَةَ‏.‏
 
فَقَصَّتْهَا حَفْصَةُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ‏ “‏ نِعْمَ الرَّجُلُ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ، لَوْ كَانَ يُصَلِّي بِاللَّيْلِ ‏”‏‏.‏ قَالَ سَالِمٌ فَكَانَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لاَ يَنَامُ مِنَ اللَّيْلِ إِلاَّ قَلِيلاً‏.‏
 
Narrated Ibn Omar: If a man saw a dream during the lifetime of the Prophet (ﷺ) he would narrate it to the Prophet. Once I wished to see a dream and narrate it to the Prophet (ﷺ) I was young, unmarried and used to sleep in the Mosque during the lifetime of the Prophet. I dreamt that two angels took me and went away with me towards the (Hell) Fire which looked like a well with the inside walls built up and had two side-walls like those of a well. There I saw some people in it whom I knew. I started saying, “I seek Refuge with Allah from the (Hell) Fire, I seek Refuge with Allah from the (Hell) Fire.” Then another angel met the other two and said to me, “Do not be afraid.” I narrated my dream to Hafsa (R.A) who, in her turn, narrated it to the Prophet(ﷺ) . He said, “What an excellent man `Abdullah is if he only observes the night prayer.” Salim, (a sub-narrator) said, “Abdullah used not to sleep at night but very little henceforward.”
(Sahih Al-Bukhari 3738 -3739)
حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ وَهْبٍ، عَنْ يُونُسَ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ سَالِمٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، عَنْ أُخْتِهِ، حَفْصَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَهَا ‏ “‏ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ‏”
 Salim reported from Ibn Omar from his sister Hafsa RA, that the Prophet (ﷺ) had said to her, Abdullah is a pious man.”
(Sahih Al-Bukhari 3740)

What did we learn from above Ahadith?

– We see how positively  Prophet ﷺ spoke about Abdullah bin Omar RA before advising him, even though the dream was very      frightening. A positive talk helps others to overcome their anxiety.

–  Abdullah b. Omar RA changed himself as soon he heard Prophet’s ﷺ advice. Sahabah were honest in their ‘Sami’nawaata’naa (We have heard and obeyed)

– Also, we have seen the importance of Tahujjud (night) prayer in the hadith.  The best prayer after fard is tahajjud. Similarly, Duha prayer (The Supererogatory Morning Prayer) also carries immense rewards. It is also called Sharuq prayer (the only difference is of timings).

– Do you know that every prostration increase ranks of the person? the more you prostrate, the more you raise your ranks in paradise insha’Allah until we reach the highest level, Jannat Al-Firdaws (Paradise).

–  Secondly, it helps to deal with depression and opposition as well.  When Prophet ﷺ was criticized by his opponents, Allah SWT advised His Messenger:

 “And We already know that your breast is constrained by what they say. So exalt [ Allah ] with praise of your Lord and be of those who prostrate [to Him].”

(Surah Al-Hijr: 97-98)

– These prostrations will help you to get rid of the constriction you feel in your heart: any emotional, psychological suffering. Moreover,  Allah SWT will put respect for you in the hearts of those who are special to Him SWT. He got the love in the court of Allah SWT, in the court of angels and on the earth Allah SWT will put love and respect for him in the hearts of his beloved slaves.

What is required on our side?

To Strengthen our relationship with Allah: correct your relationship with Allah, and Allah will correct all your affairs. Do as it is described in Quran and demonstrated by RasoolAllah ﷺ .


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ABDULLAH BIN OMAR

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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

Abdullah ibn Umar was born in Mecca one year before the Prophethood of Muhammad ﷺ۔ He was the son of Umar ibn al-Khattab and Zaynab bint Madhun.His full siblings were Hafsa  R.A (wife of Prophet ﷺ) and Abdulrahman.

Name and Lineage:

 His full name was  Abdullah bin Omar bin Al-Khattab Al-Qureshi Al-Ad’wi عبد الله بن عمر بن الخطاب القرشي العدوي . His Kunya was Abu Abdur Rahman أبوعبد الرحمن . He embraced Islam in childhood along with his father.

First Battle:

 صغار صحابی – Of the younger companions: Abdullah Ibn Umar RA determination to fight for the course of Islam begins at the tender age of 13 years old. He first presented himself for the battle of Badr, not allowed then came for the battle of Uhud, but again Prophet ﷺ sent him back due to his young age.

حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي نَافِعٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَرَضَهُ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَهْوَ ابْنُ أَرْبَعَ عَشْرَةَ سَنَةً، فَلَمْ يُجِزْنِي، ثُمَّ عَرَضَنِي يَوْمَ الْخَنْدَقِ وَأَنَا ابْنُ خَمْسَ عَشْرَةَ فَأَجَازَنِي‏.‏

Narrated Ibn `Umar رضی اللہ عنہماthat Allah’s Messenger ﷺ called me to present myself in front of him on the eve of the battle of Uhud, while I was fourteen years of age, and he did not allow me to take part in that battle, but he called me in front of him on the eve of the battle of the Trench when I was fifteen years old, and he allowed me (to join the battle).”

ہم سے عبداللہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ ہم سے ابواسامہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے عبیداللہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے نافع نے بیان کیا ، انہوں نے کہا کہ ہم سے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے بیان کیا کہ احد کی لڑائی کے موقع پر وہ رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کے سامنے ( جنگ پر جانے کے لیے ) پیش ہوئے تو انہیں اجازت نہیں ملی ، اس وقت ان کی عمر چودہ سال تھی ۔ پھر غزوہ خندق کے موقع پر پیش ہوئے تو اجازت مل گئی ۔ اس وقت ان کی عمر پندرہ سال تھی ۔

(Sahih al-Bukhari 2664)

You would be thinking that Ibn Omar would have very extraordinary potential. You are not completely wrong, but it is also note-worthy that any fourteen or fifteen-year-olds who develops strong relationships and receives adequate opportunities can have a sense of hopeful purpose, express caring values, also can actively be engaged at school, home etc. It can slowly make one able to take on leadership roles.
As a parent,  we  should not pity them and let them waste the time. We should motivate them by recognizing their potential. When they finally understand how something benefits them, they will do it long term. If the reason your child does something is only because it’s important to you, that is short term motivation and that will end. The reason also needs to be important to your child, not just important to you. Ibn Omar was persistently presenting himself for the battles as he knew benefits. Finally, he got permission to join the ranks of the men not only for the digging of the trench but for the battle when it came.

The way how we treat our children does affect them, we see how gentle Prophet ﷺ was with everyone. His way of teaching was effective and influential. The Prophet would not speak in a way that would break anybody’s heart۔

Mujahid reported that Ibn Omar was present at the occasion of the Conquest of Makkah, he was twenty years old at that time. He had a stubborn horse and a heavy spear, so he went to cut some grass for his horse (while cutting grass in Makkah is forbidden), so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ (lovingly stopped him), that O Abdullah, O Abdullah!

(Musnand Ahmed: 4600)

His Great Status:

From the time of his Hijrah till the time of his death more than seventy years later, Abdullah ibn Omar distinguished himself in the service of Islam and was regarded among Muslims as “the Good One, son of the Good One”. He was known for his knowledge, humility, generosity, piety, truthfulness, and his constancy in acts of Ibadah.

حَدَّثَنَا مُعَلَّى بْنُ أَسَدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ رَأَيْتُ فِي الْمَنَامِ كَأَنَّ فِي يَدِي سَرَقَةً مِنْ حَرِيرٍ لاَ أَهْوِي بِهَا إِلَى مَكَانٍ فِي الْجَنَّةِ إِلاَّ طَارَتْ بِي إِلَيْهِ، فَقَصَصْتُهَا عَلَى حَفْصَةَ‏.‏ فَقَصَّتْهَا حَفْصَةُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّ أَخَاكِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ‏”‏‏.‏ أَوْ قَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ‏”‏‏.‏

I saw in a dream a piece of silken cloth in my hand, and in whatever direction in Paradise I waved it, it flew, carrying me there. I narrated this (dream) to (my sister) Hafsa and she told it to the Prophet (ﷺ) who said, (to Hafsa), “Indeed, your brother is a righteous man,” or, “Indeed, `Abdullah is a righteous man.”

(Sahih al-Bukhari 7015, 7016)

His Knowledge:

A scholar and jurist: 

كان من فقهاء الصحابة ومتقيهم وزهادهم  He was of the knowledgeable, righteous, ascetic Companions.

وكان أحد العبادلة الأربعة المشهود لهم بالفضل والعلم، حتى أن اجتماعهم على رأى يعد حجة ويقال فيه:هذا قول العبادلة

(لمحات تربوية من سيرة الصحابي عبد الله بن عمر)

Abdullah bin Omar was one of the four famous ‘Abadilah’ (i.e., Abdullah b. Omar, Abdullah b. Abbas, Abdullah b. Mas’ud and Abdullah b. Amr b. Aas), whose knowledge and excellence is established, so much so that their agreement over a matter is considered proof and it was said,‘This is the statement of the Abadilah)

وهو من المكثرين من رواية الحديث عن النبي ﷺ، روى ألفاً وستمائة  وثلاثين حديثاً عن رسول الله تفرد البخاري منها بنحو من ثمانين حديثاً، ومسلم بنحو واحد وثلاثين حديثاً.

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

He is of those who narrated many ahadith from the Prophet ﷺ  i.e 1630 ahadith. In Bukhari alone, there are 80 narrations, and in Muslim, there are 31. Abdullah was extremely cautious, even afraid, of reporting the sayings of the Prophet. He would only relate a hadith if he was completely sure that he remembered every word of it.

Similarly, he was extremely cautious and reluctant to make legal judgments (fatwas).’ Once someone came to him asking for a judgment on a particular matter and Abdullah ibn Umar replied: “I have no knowledge of what you ask.” The man went on his way and Abdullah clapped his hands in glee and said to himself: “The son of Umar was asked about what he does not know and he said: I do not know.”

The people used to feel at ease with his legal verdicts, because Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was so strict in following what Rasulullah ﷺ had said and when delivering verdicts, he would always refer to the Book of Allah SWT and if he did not find what he wanted, he would refer to Sunnah of Rasulullah ﷺ and if he did not find what he sought there, he would refer to the juristic reasoning of the Companions, and he would follow them if they were unanimous in their view. However, if they differed, he would choose from among their opinions what seemed right to him.

Because of this attitude, he was reluctant to be a judge (qadi) even though he was well qualified to be one. The position of qadi was one of the most important and esteemed offices in the Muslim society and state bringing with it an honor, glory and even riches but he declined this position when it was offered him by the Khalifah Uthman. His reason for so doing was not that he underestimated the importance of the position of qadi but because of his fear of committing errors of judgment in matters pertaining to Islam. Uthman R.A made him agree not to disclose his decision lest it might influence the many other companions of the Prophet who actually performed the duties of judges.

A great Follower of Prophet  اِتباعِ رسول ﷺ :

عن عائشة قالت ما كان أحد يتبع آثار النبي ﷺ في منازله كما كان يتبعه بن عمر۔ 

Aisha R.A reported, “No one followed the Messenger of Allah (s) in his footsteps like Ibn Omar”.

[طبقات ابن سعد]

Abdullah Ibn Umar RA, continued to demonstrate his love for Rasulullah ﷺafter his demised and whenever Rasulullah ﷺ was mentioned, his eyes would fill with tears; Asim bin Muhammad Al-Amri RA narrated from his father that he said: ”Whenever l heard Abdullah Ibn Umar RA mention Rasulullah ﷺ, he would weep.

We can see with the following hadith that he was very keen observer. He was always eager to know about the actions of Prophet ﷺ

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو النُّعْمَانِ، وَقُتَيْبَةُ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَدِمَ مَكَّةَ، فَدَعَا عُثْمَانَ بْنَ طَلْحَةَ، فَفَتَحَ الْبَابَ، فَدَخَلَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَبِلاَلٌ وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ وَعُثْمَانُ بْنُ طَلْحَةَ، ثُمَّ أُغْلِقَ الْبَابُ، فَلَبِثَ فِيهِ سَاعَةً ثُمَّ خَرَجُوا‏.‏ قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَبَدَرْتُ فَسَأَلْتُ بِلاَلاً فَقَالَ صَلَّى فِيهِ‏.‏ فَقُلْتُ فِي أَىٍّ قَالَ بَيْنَ الأُسْطُوَانَتَيْنِ‏.‏ قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَذَهَبَ عَلَىَّ أَنْ أَسْأَلَهُ كَمْ صَلَّى‏.‏
 Ibn `Umar said, “The Prophet (ﷺ) arrived at Mecca and sent for `Uthman bin Talha. He opened the gate of the Ka`ba and the Prophet, Bilal, Usama bin Zaid and `Uthman bin Talha entered the Ka`ba and then they closed its door (from inside). They stayed there for an hour, and then came out.” Ibn `Umar added, “I quickly went to Bilal and asked him (whether the Prophet (ﷺ) had prayed). Bilal replied, ‘He prayed in it.’ I asked, ‘Where?’ He replied, ‘Between the two pillars.’ “Ibn `Umar added, “I forgot to ask how many rak`at he (the Prophet) had prayed in the Ka`ba.”
ہم سے ابوالنعمان محمد بن فضل اور قتیبہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا کہ ہم سے حماد بن زید نے ایوب سختیانی کے واسطہ سے ، انھوں نے نافع سے ، انھوں نے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما سے کہ نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم جب مکہ تشریف لائے ( اور مکہ فتح ہوا ) تو آپ نے عثمان بن طلحہ رضی اللہ عنہ کو بلوایا ۔ ( جو کعبہ کے متولی ، چابی بردار تھے ) انھوں نے دروازہ کھولا تو نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ، بلال ، اسامہ بن زید اور عثمان بن طلحہ چاروں اندر تشریف لے گئے ۔ پھر دروازہ بند کر دیا گیا اور وہاں تھوڑی دیر تک ٹھہر کر باہر آئے ۔ ابن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ میں نے جلدی سے آگے بڑھ کر بلال سے پوچھا ( کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے کعبہ کے اندر کیا کیا ) انھوں نے بتایا کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اندر نماز پڑھی تھی ۔ میں نے پوچھا کس جگہ ؟ کہا کہ دونوں ستونوں کے درمیان ۔ عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ یہ پوچھنا مجھے یاد نہ رہا کہ آپ نے کتنی رکعتیں پڑھی تھیں ۔ 
(Sahih al-Bukhari 468)

Keen observation is all about alertness, focus, and attention. It is a mind game.You have to be childlike who is curious enough to remember small details which others skip.Also, your mind should be active all the time.To attain this quality, it is important to pay attention to every single detail.

Abdullah R.A would observe and scrutinize closely every saying and action of the Prophet ﷺ in various situations and he would practice what he observed closely and with devotion. For example, if Abdullah saw the Prophetﷺ performing Salat in a particular place, he would later pray in the same place. If he saw the Prophet ﷺ making g a supplication while standing, he would also make a dua while standing. If he saw him making a dua while sitting, he would do the same. On a journey, if he saw the Prophet ﷺ descend from his camel at a particular place and pray two rakats, and he had occasion to pass on the same route, he would stop at the same place and pray two rakats.

Bearing hardship in order to follow the way of the Prophet ﷺ:

عن الطفيل بن أبي بن كعب: أنه كان يأتي عبد الله بن عمر، فيغدو معه إلى السوق، قال: فإذ ا غدونا إلى السوق لم يمرّ عبد الله بن عمر على سقّاط ولا صاحب بيعة، ولا مسكين، ولا أحدٍ غلا يسلم عليه قال الطفيل: فجئت عبد الله بن عمريوماً. فاستتبعني إلى السوق. فقلت: ما تصنع بالسوق؟وأنت لا تقف على لبيع ولا تسأل عن السلع، ولا تسوم بها، ولا تجلس في مجالس السوق، فاجلس بناها هنا نتحدث. فقاللي عبد الله: “يا أبابطن! ( وكان الطفيل ذابطن)- إنما نغدو من أجل السلام[نسلم] على منلقينا”.

(صحیح الادب المفرد: 774)

At-Tufail bin Ubayy bin Ka’b reported: he used to visit ‘Abdullah bin Omar in the morning and accompany him to the market. He says: when we went to the market, ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar offered greetings of peace to every one he met on the way, be they sellers of petty goods, traders or poor people. Tufail says: One day when I came to Ibn ‘Omar, he asked me to accompany him to the market. I said to him: “What is the point of your going to the market? when you do not stand on sale, nor ask about articles, nor offer a price for them, nor sit down in any gathering of market. So sit down here with us and we will talk.” So ‘Abdullah said to me: “O Abu Batn (belly)! (Tufail had a large belly), we go to the market to greet everyone we meet.

When you greet someone in Arabic you don’t say, have a nice day, you say “peace be with you,” which is the essence of this religion. Peace is not only something that we get, it is an ongoing objective…

[757/ عن بشير بن يسار قال: ما كان أحدٌ يبدأ أو يبدر ابن عمر بالسلام . [صحيح الأدب المفرد: 982

Bashir ibn Yasar said, “No one preceded or got ahead of Ibn Omar when giving the greeting.”

Thus, he was following the teachings of Prophet ﷺ and his actions clearly explain that how much he loved to spread love and brotherhood. So, Ibn Omar never missed his chances of gaining reward by reviving sunnah of Prophet ﷺ.

Noble character:

عن سالم بن عبد الله قال: ما سمعت عبد الله لاعناً أحداً قط، ليس إنساناً. وكان سالم يقول: قال عبد الله بن عمر: قال رسول الله ﷺ : لا ينبغي للمؤمن أن يكون لعاناً

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 235]

Narrated Salim ibn ‘Abdullah, he said, “I never heard ‘Abdullah ever curse anyone, not even humans.” Salim used to mention that ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “It is not fitting for a believer to be a curser.”

Salim was his son. He was also a great scholar, a narrator, at the top compared to his other children. His son Salim testified to his father’s noble character. Here we learn some good aspects from children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing.

Here we learn some aspects of children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing. Secondly, it is also important to discipline them. When it comes to disciplining children, there is no quick fix and no magic bullet. Our own behavior does give our children the pattern for how we want them to end up.

[ عن نافع قال: ” كان ابن عمر يضرب ولده على اللحن”. [صحیح†الادب المفرد: 680

* Nafi’ said, “Ibn ‘Umar used to strike his son on a bad tune.”

Thus, it is expected that the children may commit unintentional mistakes, which should be corrected, rather than ignored. We consistently need to show them the right behavior. Similarly, it is important to help children learn to be organized and manage their time.

عن نافع”أن عبد الله بن عمر كان إذا وجد أحداً من أهله يلعب بالنرد ضربه، وكسرها”.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 965]

Nafi’ narrated that if ‘Abdullah ibn Omar found any of his family playing with dice (backgammon/ cube), he would beat them and break the board.

It’s not like that he was a very harsh person, but he actually knew how to usefully utilize time and talents. We should not forget this rule for ourselves in order to be a good role model and more productive. If our kids see us following our own rules, then they will be more likely to follow.

Hard worker:

He never felt ashamed to work from his hands, it is a true example how hard working he was that he built his house without any help or labor.

عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ رَأَيْتُنِي مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَنَيْتُ بِيَدِي بَيْتًا يُكِنُّنِي مِنْ الْمَطَرِ
[ وَيُظِلُّنِي مِنْ الشَّمْسِ مَا أَعَانَنِي عَلَيْهِ أَحَدٌ مِنْ خَلْقِ اللَّهِ [صحیح البخاری: 6302

Narrated Ibn Omar: During the life-time of the Prophet ﷺ I built a house with my own hands so that it might protect me from the rain and shade me from the sun; and none of Allah’s creatures assisted me in building it.

His Asceticism:

Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was extremely ascetic regarding the life of this world; we have seen how he refused appointments as an administrator and a judge. And he was not happy with his wealth unless he gave it to charity.

[قال بن مسعود إن من أملك شباب قريش لنفسه عن الدنيا لعبد الله بن عمر [تهذيب التهذيب 

Ibn Masud said, “Of the youth of Quraysh Abdullah bin Omar disciplined his nafs the most”.

[قال جابر ما منا أحد أدرك الدنيا إلا مالت به ومال بها إلا بن عمر[تهذيب التهذيب

Jabir (r) said, “There was none of us who got some dunya except that the dunya made him incline towards it, and he made the dunya incline towards it, except Ibn Omar”.

On one occasion, the slave of Abdullah bin Omar R.A arrived from Iraq and he came to give salutations to him and he said: ‘I have brought you a gift. Abdullah Ibn Omar asked: ‘And what is it?’ He replied: ‘Jawarish.’ He asked: ‘And what is Jawarish?’ He said: ‘It helps the digestion of food’. Abdullah Ibn Umar RA said: ‘I have not filled my stomach with food for forty years, so what will I do with it?’

Intelligent and Respectful:

عن ابن عمر قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم “أخبروني بشجرة مَثَلُها مثَلُ المسلم، تؤتي أكلها كل حين بإذن ربها، لا تحُتُّ ورقها”فوقع في نفسي النخلة، فكرهت أن أتكلم، وثم أبو بكر وعمر رضي الله عنهما، فلما لم يتكلما.قالالنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم “هي النخلة”. فلما خرجت مع أبي قلت: يا أبت! وقع في نفسي النخلة. قال: ما منعك أن تقولها؟لو كنت قلتها، كان أحب إلي من كذا وكذا. قال: ما منعني إلا لم أرك، ولا أبا بكر تكلمتُما، فكرهت.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 276]

Ibn Omar said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘Tell me which tree is like the Muslim? It gives fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord and its leaves do not fall.‘ (Ibn Omar says that) It occurred to me that it was the palm tree, but I did not want to speak as Abu Bakr and’Umar, رضی اللہ عنہما were present. When they both did not speak, the Prophet ( صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, ‘It is the palm tree.’ When I left with my father, I said, ‘O my Father, I thought that it was the palm tree.’ He asked, ‘What kept you from saying that? If you had said so, I would have preferred that to such-and-such.’ He said, ‘What kept me from doing so was that I did not see you or Abu Bakr speak, so I did not like to speak out.’”

 There were elders in the gathering so out of respect he remained quiet. Also, it shows that he was a patient listener and he knew when to speak. Similarly, he didn’t try to impress gathering by showing off his knowledge. It indicates his maturity in front of his seniors.

His Worship:

Consistent in the night prayer

He was once described as the “ brother of the night.” He would stay up at night performing Salat, weeping and seeking Allah’s forgiveness and reading Quran.

[ قَالَ سَالِمٌ فَكَانَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لَا يَنَامُ مِنْ اللَّيْلِ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا [صحیح البخاری: 3738

Salim said, “Abdullah used not to sleep at night but very little.”

Frequently performed Hajj Umrah and gave charity

Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A used to worship Allah SWT much and he was God-fearing; he would stand in prayer at night often and he would fast frequently and he performed Hajj many times and remembered Allah always.

ابن عمر –رضي الله عنهما-حج ستين حجة، واعتمر ما يقرب من ألف عمرة، فكان مولعاً بالبيت
وحَمل على ألف فرس في سبيل الله، يعني: يحمل الناس في سبيل الله للجهاد، وكان كثير الإنفاق
والصدقة

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

Abdullah b. Omar performed 60 Hajj, and performed more than 1000 Umrahs, and he dearly loved the House of Allah, and he mounted (people on) 1000 horses in the way of Allah. He would give much in charity.

Spent a lot in the way of Allah

He was kind and generous and would not refuse any petitioner and he would distribute charity as one who did not fear poverty, seeking thereby the reward which is with Allah, as he preferred the life of the Hereafter over the life of this world.

كان كثيراً ما يتقرب إلى الله بما يعجبه من ماله

Often he would be eager to draw close to Allah through the wealth that he loved.

 لما نزلت : لن تنالوا البر حتى تنفقوا مما تحبون أعتق جارية عنده كان يحبها لله تعالى

When this verse was revealed he gave away his slave woman whom he loved.

Ibn ‘Umar would not eat unless there were poor and needy persons sitting with him at his table who would eat with him.

عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ لَا يَأْكُلُ حَتَّى يُؤْتَى بِمِسْكِينٍ يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَدْخَلْتُ رَجُلًا يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَكَلَ كَثِيرًا فَقَالَ يَا
نَافِعُ لَا تُدْخِلْ هَذَا عَلَيَّ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلميَقُولُ الْمُؤْمِنُ يَأْكُلُ فِي مِعًى وَاحِدٍ وَالْكَافِرُ يَأْكُلُ فِي سَبْعَةِ أَمْعَاءٍ
[5393: صحیح البخاری:]

Narrated Nafi`: Ibn `Umar never used to take his meal unless a poor man was called to eat with him. One day I brought a poor man to eat with him, the man ate too much, whereupon Ibn `Umar said, “O Nafi`! Don’t let this man enter my house, for I heard the Prophet ﷺ saying, “A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with a little food), and a kafir (unbeliever) eats in seven intestines (eats much food).

This Hadith does not indicate that eating to one’s fill is something prohibited. Actually, it is not prohibited; rather, scholars stated that it is prohibited to eat more than one’s fill because it is a form of extravagance and causes harm in most cases.

His Love and Focus for Quran:

In the stillness of the nights, he would remember Allah SWT much, perform Salat and read the Quran and weep. Like his father, tears came readily to his eyes especially when he heard the warning in the verses of the Quran.

عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا إِذَا قَرَأَ الْقُرْآنَ لَمْ يَتَكَلَّمْ حَتَّى يَفْرُغَ مِنْهُ فَأَخَذْتُ عَلَيْهِ يَوْمًا فَقَرَ أَ
سُورَةَ الْبَقَرَةِ حَتَّى انْتَهَى إِلَى مَكَانٍ قَالَ تَدْرِي فِيمَ أُنْزِلَتْ قُلْتُ لَا قَالَ أُنْزِلَتْ فِي كَذَا وَكَذَا ثُمَّ مَضَى

[صحیح البخاری : 4526]

Narrated Nafi`:Whenever Ibn `Umar رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا recited the Qur’an, he would not speak to anyone till he had finished his recitation. Once I held the Qur’an and he recited Surat-al- Baqara from his memory and then stopped at a certain ayah and said, “Do you know in what connection this ayah was revealed?” I said, “No.” He said, “It was revealed in such-and-such connection.” Ibn `Umar then resumed his recitation.

Ibn Al-Musayyab said: ‘If I were to testify that anyone was one of the people of Paradise, it would be Ibn Omar.’ And it was said to Nafi: ‘What did lbn Omar use to do in his house?’ He replied: ‘You cannot do it; he used to perform ablution for every prayer and read the Quran between the ablution and the prayer’.

Strict in teaching people:

عن عطاء بن أبي رباح؛ أن رجلاً كان يمدح رجلاً عند ابن عمر، فجعل ابن عمر يحثُ التراب نحو فيه، وقال:
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ” إذا رأيتم المداحين، فاحثوا في وجوههم التراب”.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 259]

‘Ata ibn Abi Rabah reported that a man was praising another man in the presence of Ibn Omar. Ibn Omar began to throw dust towards his mouth. And he said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘When you see those who praise people, throw dust in their faces.’”

It is customary to compliment people you admire and want to befriend, but there are differences between a compliment meant to flatter and a compliment to express appreciation. The motives behind flattery can sometimes be selfish, while the motive for showing appreciation is gratitude.

To praise someone and to take it to an extreme and to describe him in a way that he is not worthy of. This is prohibited and it is lying and deception. For example mentioning a leader or minister or someone of this rank and extolling him and describing him with praiseworthy characteristics which he does not possess. This is not permissible and is harmful to the one being praised. That’s what Ibn Omar was pointing by his actions.

عن سعيد المقبري قال: مررت على ابن عمر ومعه رجل يتحدّث، فقمت إليهما، فلطم في صدري، فقال : “إذا
وجدت اثنين يتحدثان فلا تقم معهما، ولا تجلس معهما، حتى تستأذنهما “. فقلت: أصلحك الله يا أبا عبد
[ الرحمن! إنما رجوت أن أسمع منكما خيراً. [صحیح الادب المفرد: 893

Sa’id al-Maqburi said, “I passed by Ibn ‘Umar who had a man with him with whom he was conversing. I went and stood by them, and he struck me on the chest and said, ‘When you find two men conversing, do not go up to them nor sit with them until they give you permission.’ I said. O Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! ‘May Allah make you prosper. I hoped that I would hear something good from you.’”

It’s against etiquettes to interrupt or try to hear someone’s private conversation. While the person who was passing by and stood by Ibn Omar, didn’t have bad intention. But since it was very rude, so he mentioned him to avoid whether how good one’s intentions are.

One who called himself to account:

عن زاذان أبي عمر، قال: كنا عند ابن عمر، فدعا بغلام له كان ضربه فكشف عن ظهره، فقال: أيوجعك؟ قال  لا. فأعتقه، ثم رفع عوداً من الأرض فقال: ما لي فيه من الأجر ما يزن هذا العود؟ فقلت: يا أبا عبد الرحمن ! لم تقول هذا؟ قال: سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول – أو قال – من ضرب مملوكه حداً لم يأته، أو لطم وجهه، ( وفي لفظ: ” من لطم عبده أو ضربه حداً لم يأته فكفارته أن يُعتقه”.

[ صحيح الأدب المفرد: 133]

Abu ‘Umar Zadhan said, “We were with Ibn Omar when he summoned a slave of his whom he had beaten and he uncovered his back. ‘Does it hurt?’ he asked. ‘No,’ he replied. Then he set him free. He picked up a stick from the ground and then said, ‘I do not have a reward (for him) worth as much as the weight of this stick.’ I asked, O ‘Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! why do you say this?’ He said, ‘I heard the Prophet ﷺ, say,The expiation of someone who beats a slave more than he deserves or slaps his face is that he must set him free.”

Abdullah Ibn Omar was honest himself. His actions  reflect that when you hold yourself accountable to doing the things you know you should do, you will distinguish yourself from the crowd. In the same manner, if you want to advance your life personally or professionally, you must hold yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals.

Martyrdom:

In the year of martyrdom, he was in Makkah during the days of Hajj and Abdul-Malik bin Marwan was the Umayyad Caliph at the time and he had sent Al-Hajjaj bin Yusuf Ath-Thaqafi to lead the Hajj. The Hajj pilgrims were gathered around Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A, for in the hearts of the people, he has a high rank. And they had left Al-Hajjaj, although he was in charge of the Hajj.

مات بمكة في قصة مشهورة معروفة، فقد وقع له مع الحجاج شيء من المخاصمة، وكان الحجاج فيه صلف وعنت وظلم، فتكلم عليه الحجاج، فقال له ابن عمر: أنت سفيه، وتكلم عليه بنحو هذا، فأمر أحد جنوده فوضع له سماً في زج الرمح، فكان يطوف بجانبه ويزاحمه، ويفتعل الزحام معه حتى جرحه في رجله، فتسمم فمرض، وعاده الحجاج في بيته، فلم ينظر إليه، ولم يكلمه، ولم يرد عليه، ومات بعد أيام -رضي الله تعالى عنه وأرضاه- وقد عمّر كثيراً، وكان عمره ستا وثمانين سنة.

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

He passed away in Makkah. He had a disagreement with Hajjaaj ibn Yousuf and Hajjaaj had much hate, rebellion, and injustice in himself…. Hajjaj ordered his soldier (to kill Abdullah) so he applied poison on the tip of a spear, and followed him in Tawaf. He would bump into him during Tawaf, and eventually poked him with the spear in his foot. The poison entered his body and he fell severely ill…. after a few days he passed away.

He was buried in the graveyard of the Muhajirun in Fakh Dhi Tuwa may Allah SWT have mercy on him. He died in the year 73 AH, aged eighty-six years, may Allah have mercy on him.

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with him (R.A)” each time Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


* Nafi’ was Ibn Omar’s freed slave

 References:

SAHIH BUKHARI – KITAB UL MUNAQIB

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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

Belief in the good character and virtue of the Sahaabah (companions of Prophet ﷺ) is the belief of Muslims. That is because Allah has praised them in His Book and they were also praised by the Prophetﷺ  as is narrated in the books of Sunnah.

The leader of mankind, the foremost among the Messengers and Prophets, also testified to their virtue. He was a witness over them during his lifetime; heﷺ saw their sacrifices and their sincere resolve, and heﷺ spoke immortal words of the honor of his companions and his love for them. We will insha’Allah cover ahadith from Kitab ul Munaqib of Sahih Bukhari to describe the virtues of the Sahaabah.

In this Book, Imam Bukhari has not just recorded legal matters, but also the details of the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ. These were the people who were taught and trained by the Messenger of Allah. There is great learning for us in their lives.

In Surah Fatihah, we ask for الصِّرَاطَالْمُسْتَقِيمَ, which is the way of those whom Allah SWT has favored

صِرَاطَ الَّذِينَ أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيْهِمْ

Also, it is described in Surah Nisa, Ayah 69:

وَمَن يُطِعِ اللَّهَ وَالرَّسُولَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ أَنْعَمَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِم مِّنَ النَّبِيِّينَ وَالصِّدِّيقِينَ وَالشُّهَدَاءِ وَالصَّالِحِينَ ۚ وَحَسُنَ أُولَٰئِكَ رَفِيقًا

And whoever obeys Allah and the Messenger – those will be with the ones upon whom Allah has bestowed favor of the prophets, the steadfast affirmers of truth, the martyrs and the righteous. And excellent are those as companions.

اور جو لوگ خدا اور اس کے رسول کی اطاعت کرتے ہیں وہ (قیامت کے روز) ان لوگوں کے ساتھ ہوں گے جن پر خدا نے بڑا فضل کیا یعنی انبیاء اور صدیق اور شہید اور نیک لوگ اور ان لوگوں کی رفاقت بہت ہی خوب ہے

(Surah Nisa :69)

It is for our benefit that we must know about the lives of the Siddeeqeen – The Truthful (Among them companions), and the Shuhadaa. Here it is important to note that there are two meanings of the word  ‘Shuhada‘.

  1. Martyrs                                        2. Ulama: scholars, because they testify to the truth

So if we want to be on the straight path, we must know the way of those whom Allah was pleased with.

Here is a list of some companions, insha’Allah we will study about them RadhiAllahu’anhum (Allah is pleased with them) in the light of Sunnah and historical evidence to understand their virtues.

  1. Abdullah bin Omar  – His Virtues in Kitab ul Munaqib
  2. Ammar bin Yasir
  3. Hudhayfah Ibn al-Yaman
  4. Abu Ubaydah Ibn Al-Jarrah
  5. Hassan Ibn Ali
  6. Hussain Ibn Ali
  7. Bilal Ibn Rabah

Compiled on the basis of Urdu Lectures of Ustadhza Farhat Hashmi

Sahih Bukhari – Kitab Ul Munaqib 

Masters of the youth of Paradise

Very Well-explained …..

Quest for Paradise

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The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Husayn is part of me and I am part of him. May Allah love those who love Husayn. Husayn is one of my grandsons.” [al-Tirmidhi (3775), Ibn Maajah (144) and Ahmad (17111) – classed as hasan by at-Tirmidhi and al-Albaani]

Al-Husayn ibn ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) was killed on the day of ‘Ashoora’, he was killed by the transgressing, wrongdoing group. Allah honoured al-Husayn with martyrdom, as He honoured other members of his family; He honoured Hamzah and Ja‘far (may Allah be pleased with them) with martyrdom, as well as his father ‘Ali and others (may Allah be pleased with them all).

His martyrdom was one of the means by which Allah raised him in status, for he and his brother al-Hasan will be the leaders of the youth among the people of Paradise…

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AISHA BINT ABI BAKR – THE MOTHERS OF BELIEVERS

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In the Name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, All- Merciful

Aisha radiullahu-anha, a respected name of a noble woman who was an intelligent, brave and knowledgeable scholar of Islam. A personality who requires almost no introduction. She is renowned as a “ Mother of Mo’mineen ”, the beloved wife of the last messenger Muhammad ﷺ and the daughter of the first caliph of Islam Abu Bakr Siddique (R.A).

Abu Bakr (R.A) was the first Person in men who accepted Islam and remained side by side to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ during the early times of Tribulations and Hardships; when Islam was going through its Introductory stages in Makkah.

She was Sister of a Courageous Lady of Islam Asma (R.A) who kept the secret of Prophet ﷺ Migration to Madina with Abu Bakr (R.A) and was amongst those who accepted Islam first.

‘Aisha (R.A) was Daughter of Righteous Mother Umm-e-Rumman (R.A) who was praised by Prophet ﷺ. At the time of her Death, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ entered her (R.A) grave and asked Allah (S.W.T) to forgive her by saying,

” O Allah, you know well what Umm-e-Rumman suffered for the sake of you and your Messenger”

Life before marriage:

‘Aisha (R.A) was born in Makkah in around 613 or 614 CE. She had lots of Significant qualities and special Blessings of Allah in regards to the progress of the religion Islam. She was chosen by Allah (S.W.T) as a leader for Muslim ummah to convey correct and authentic Knowledge. Since Islam was a newly grown flower that needed fresh water to keep it blossoming. It was possible due to the sacrifices and efforts of devoted people who would benefit others with their knowledge and wisdom.

‘Aisha was educated in early childhood by her father.  She was raised in a Muslim family being born a Muslim. As the daughter of Abu Bakr (RA), she had the same strength and characteristics of leadership as her father. It was her unique virtue in early times of Makkah when people were accepting Islam. It was rare to have a complete Muslim family during that age of Islam. ‘Aisha (R.A) was among those who acknowledged Islam by birth. She grew up at a time when teachings of Islam were fresh and new which is a major factor of her becoming a great scholar of Islam. ‘Aisha (R.A) Narrates about herself:

‘Aisha (R.A) Narrates about herself:

“I never saw my parents practicing anything other than Islam”

‘Aisha (R.A) as a Wife:

Another blessing of Allah (S.W.T) on her was being the youngest and the only virgin wife of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.The marriage of ‘Aisha to Prophet is nothing less than the best love story ever written. An important thing to clarify here is that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not marry Aisha (R.A) when she was an immature little girl. Her parents offered their daughter in marriage to Prophet, as was customary in their culture at the time. However, the Prophet ﷺ, did not accept this and they waited for a few of years, and then again offered their daughter to him in marriage.

From the hadeeth narrated by Aisha herself, it appears she was at the age of 6 when her mother came to her while she was playing outside. Her mother took her into their home where her father, who was a lifelong best friend of Prophet ﷺ , was sitting with him, and the offer of marriage was being discussed. She then tells us she went back outside. This was at the age of six.

Cleary she was offered to him in marriage, but obviously, it was not accepted until some years later, when she again narrates a similar incident and at that time she was married to the Prophet ﷺ. She tells us they had consummated the marriage when she was old enough and ready (and she tells us she was very pleased about the whole entire thing). It shows that the girl must be old enough to have children and to be able to determine what her will is.

The early years of their marriage began quite innocently. Although ‘Aisha was a young bride, she carried on with the many joys of childhood and fortunate for her, as she had a husband gentle and kind enough to understand this. When she first came to live in the Prophet’s household as a young girl, a strong and lasting friendship grew up between her and Sawdah (R.A), and Sawdah took care of her along with the rest of the household.

Rather than throwing all the responsibilities of a wife on her at once, the Prophet made the marriage and its duties a gradual process for Aisha and ensured that she made a smooth transition into her new life. ‘A’isha was also content to manage his household.

He ﷺ taught her wisdom, manners, etiquette, public dealings, economic and domestic laws and ways of living in very light and natural ways. She also owned the honor of being the most beloved wife after Khadija (R.A). Once he ﷺ was asked by a companion “Who do you love the most in the world?” He responded by saying “ ‘Aisha”. She was regarded as superior over other women after Maryam (A.S), Asia (A.S) and Khadija (R.A). He ﷺ also said on a certain occasion,

“The excellence of ‘Aisha over other women is like the excellence of Tharid (a type of food) over other types of food”. 

This great love was limitless. It transcended material feelings to things that are higher and more sublime: the soul, the heart, and the mind. The emotional example of this love reflects the picture of the distinctness in the Prophetic household and in the heart. It then preserved this uniqueness in order to present it as a lively and wonderful model for us.

Brilliant Student & Great Scholar:

A crucial dimension to their equation was the student-teacher relationship they shared. ‘Aisha’s enthusiastic and inquisitive nature made her one of the foremost students of the Prophet.

She was devoted to learning Islam keenly from its beginnings. Her intelligence and curiosity for knowledge played an important role for her being a great Muslim woman scholar. Her marriage to our Prophet ﷺ led to further moral and intellectual growth, maturity and depth. She received so much Islamic knowledge through the words and actions of the Prophet, that she transmitted faithfully throughout the years of her life to the believers. For instance, once she asked the Prophet ﷺ about neighbor’s rights. She said,

“O Allah’s Apostle! I have two neighbors and would like to know to which of them should I give presents”.

He ﷺ replied,

“ To the one whose door is nearer to yours”.

We can see how much she had the desire to learn. Aisha bint Abu Bakr was the voice of authority for many of the hadith known today and she was responsible for the transmission of thousands of sayings after the Prophet’sﷺ death.  She is known to have narrated 2,210 Hadith. Those are a treasure for the guidance of Muslim Ummah. She served Muslims for 44 years after the Prophet’s ﷺ death. Islamic scholars acknowledge her remarkable efforts for Islam. Imam Zuhri, a leading jurist says:

“ ‘Aisha (R.A) was the most learned person among the people, senior and learned companions used to consult her.”

Her being a major part of some of the milestone events, left a huge impact on her personality by enhancing  wisdom and light of truth in her.

Dear reader, here we can see how much Islam encourages us to seek knowledge and to value education regardless of gender. We should offer girls and women the opportunity to learn the religion as well as what will benefit them among the worldly sciences.

Another point to be noted, that the prominence of ‘Aisha in the most reliable of hadith and her playing a role in the important political developments of her time are clear attestations to the fact that Islam does not seek to lock women behind closed doors. Those who have been confined today, are women who have been imprisoned in the name of religion and confined by the cages of prejudice.

Aisha (R.A) and Prophet ﷺ – A Romantic Couple:

It is important to keep the romance alive once the relationship is officialized through nikah/marriage, because without this effort, the marriage will go stale. There will be no emotional fulfillment in your life after marriage without romance. And before nikah, romance will lead to haram only. It is more of your responsibility and your spouse’s right, that s/he enjoy romantic gestures from your end. To elaborate it, we can see how romantic this couple was!

Messenger of Allah like to eat and drink from his wife – Aisha’s  (R.A) used plate and cup without feeling uncomfortable. He also had eaten meat that was bitten by ‘Aisha. (Sahih Muslim, 300)

From ‘Aisha RA, she said,

“I used to drink from the same glass even when on menstruation, and the Prophet pbuh take the glass and put his mouth in same spot where I put my mouth, and then he drank.”

(Sahih Muslim 300)

Prophet ﷺ once raced her and she won. This was an example of the fact that it is okay and in fact your responsibility and right to have fun with your spouse and arouse romance. On some later day, the Holy Couple happened to again cross that path and they raced again and this time, the Prophet ﷺ won, and he cheekily said to his wife “Tit for Tat.

She used to hide behind Prophet’s back to protect herself from her father Abu Bakr (R.A), if he got angry on her some innocent mistake due to her being very young.  She was obedient towards her Husband and was understanding to please him. It was the blessing of this beautiful relationship where love for each other was abundant. ‘Aisha (R.A) was an example of a pious wife. She was very cautious about having anyone to enter her house in the absence of Prophet ﷺ. It was her simplicity and comfortable presence that keep him relaxed in her company.

Photogenic Memory:

‘Aisha’s early life in Madinah also had its more serious and anxious times. Once her father and two companions who were  staying with him fell ill with a dangerous fever which was common in Madinah at certain seasons. One morning ‘Aisha went to visit him and was dismayed to find the three men lying completely weak and exhausted. She asked her father how he was  and he answered her in verse but she did not understand what he was saying. The two others also answered her with lines  of poetry which seemed to her to be nothing but unintelligible babbling. She was deeply troubled and went home to the  Prophet saying:

” They are raving, out of their minds, through the heat of the fever.”

The Prophet asked what they had said and was somewhat reassured when she repeated almost word for word the lines they had uttered and which made sense although she did not fully understand them then. This was a demonstration of the great retentive power of her memory which as the years went by were to preserve so many of the priceless sayings of the Prophet.

Surviving Hardships:

There was something quite distinct about ‘Aisha (R.A) which drew the Prophet ﷺ so close to her. Her quality of being content regardless of circumstances helped her overcome many challenges she faced as the Prophet’s wife.

There was a time in the Prophet’s home when they had no fire or food for cooking and they simply lived off of dates and water. Yet ‘Aisha went through this hardship and showed the mark of a true companion — one who can offer unrelenting support even under the most trying circumstances. ‘Aisha endured poverty and hunger with the Prophetﷺ.

Once the Prophetﷺ stayed away from his wives for a month because they had distressed him by asking him that which he did not have. This was after the Khaybar expedition when an increase of riches whetted the appetite for presents. Returning from his self-imposed retreat, he went first to Aisha’s apartment. She was delighted to see him but he said he had received revelation which required him to put two options before her.”Do not make a hasty decision,” he said, “and consult your parents first.” He then recited the ayahs of Surah Al-Ahzab:

O Prophet, say to your wives: ‘If you desire the life of this world and its adornments, then come, and I will make you content, and I will release you with a fair release. But if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the next world, then truly Allah has prepared an immense reward for those of you who do good.’ (Qur’an  33:28-29)

Her reply was:

“Is there any need to consult my parents?” . “Indeed I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the next world.”“Indeed I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter,”

And her response was followed by all the other wives. It was during the course of their marriage that, amongst others, the battles of Badr, and Uhud, and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch) were fought. These were the three major battles against the Quraish, that shifted the balance of power out of the hands of the disbelievers and into the hands of the Muslims. Although she was still very young, Aisha participated in them all, bringing water for the Muslims warriors, and helping to look after the wounded. She witnessed life, and she witnessed death – both in the way of Allah and in the way of the disbelievers – and she understood both. Indeed one of the meanings of her name, Aisha, is

It was during the course of their marriage that, amongst others, the battles of Badr, and Uhud, and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch) were fought. These were the three major battles against the Quraish, that shifted the balance of power out of the hands of the disbelievers and into the hands of the Muslims. Although she was still very young, Aisha participated in them all, bringing water for the Muslims warriors, and helping to look after the wounded. She witnessed life, and she witnessed death – both in the way of Allah and in the way of the disbelievers – and she understood both. Indeed one of the meanings of her name, Aisha, is ‘life’.

Her Generosity and Simple Lifestyle:

 

Once, when the Muslims were favored with great wealth, she has given a gift of one hundred thousand Dirhams. She was fasting when she received the money, and distributed it to the poor and needy, even though she had no provisions in her house. Shortly after that, her maidservant said to her, “Couldn’t you have brought a dirham’s worth of meat with which to break your fast?” “If I had thought of it,” she replied, “I would have done so!”

She developed the nickname the Mother of Fragrance, for every time a beggar knocked on her door, she would touch the money with perfume before giving it to him. When asked why, she explained that the charity would reach Allah before it reached the beggar’s hands, and she wanted the charity to be given to Allah in a fragrant condition.

In another report, a needy person knocked on the door. She only had one grape, and gave it to him. When asked what the value of a single grape was as a charity, she quoted the following ayahs of Surah Az-Zalzalah from the Qur’an:

So whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it, And whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.”(Qur’an 99:7 – 99:8)

She rationalised – how many atoms are there in a grape?

How many of us are of such a status, where our vigilance, thinking and even the smallest action is completely for the pleasing of Allah, and reflected by the Qur’an and teaching of the Prophet ﷺ.

True Example of Companionship:

Now we call attention to something very interesting about the subject of a friendly relationship between husband and wife. Once a group of Jews entered upon Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and they said,

“ As-Saum Alaik (death be upon you) ” Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “ Wa Alaik (and upon you)” So ‘Aisha (R.A) said,Rather (upon you be death and curse)” So the Prophet said, ‘Aisha! Indeed Allah (S.W.T) loves gentleness in every matter”. ‘Aisha (R.A) said, Did you not hear what they said? ” In response, he said to her,And I replied! Upon you”.

(Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2701)

This incident shows‘Aisha was a truly dynamic woman, complete with the qualities of virtue, intelligence and even possessiveness over her husband . She noticed, how Jews said against him, so instantly defended him out of her love. This hadith does depict that a person should be humble to correct one’s faults yet having the confidence to inquire about any doubts regarding matters to remove any confusion.

During the last days, it was noticed that Prophet’s ﷺ desire was to stay with ‘Aisha (R.A). All wives agreed for him to stay with ‘Aisha (R.A). Heﷺ chewed a Siwak that was softened by ‘Aisha’s saliva before leaving this world. In his last moments of life, his head was on ‘Aisha (R.A) lap. She remained with Prophetﷺ for nine years until his death. At the time of the Holy Prophet’s death, she was only eighteen years old.

You could really say about their story – “..and they all lived happily ever after – in Paradise.”
This represents the very best of marriages between a man and a woman in human history.

In the current era, the concept of having relationships with opposite sex is common before marriage and such relationships are defined as love or romance. ‘Aisha (R.A) gave a beautiful account of marriage to the Prophet ﷺ. She mentioned the detailed descriptions of events and happenings before and during their marriage.

And very important – she demonstrated here continued commitment to the memory of her husband ﷺ , and her firm belief about being reunited with him in the Paradise.

These glimpses of this blessed couple’s life leave a beautiful impression of Islam presenting a very charming and serene family life. Islam encourages a strong relationship between spouses where both partners understand each other’s need and desires.

We need to ponder over the lives of our role models to improve our living standards.

‘Aisha (R.A) as a Mother of Momineen

Allah (S.W.T) honored her to be beneficial for Muslim ummah in many ways. The ummah was benefited through her by having relief of Tayammum. Once, she lost her necklace during a Journey when the whole crew had to wait till they would find her necklace at a place where water was unavailable to perform ablution. Allah (S.W.T) revealed divine ayahs in Surah Al-Maida of Tayammum on this incident, while after this necklace was found underneath a Camel. Usaid bin Hudair said

“O the family of Abu Bakr! This is not the first blessing of yours.”

‘Aisha (R.A) stands superior to other women in regards to her special honor of having ayahs about her in the Quran.

‘Aisha (R.A) was vindicated by Allah (S.W.T) against a slander that was spread by the hypocrites during a campaign when she accompanied the Prophet ﷺ in a caravan. Her Piety was expressed in Quran giving a strong message for Muslim ummah to defend their brotherhood keeping strong ties and trust on each other. This bears testament to Aisha’s (R.A) trust in Allah as well as her humility. In fact, twenty verses of Surah An-Nur in the Quran  were revealed about this incident is indicative of its importance and is also a reminder to us of the high status of ‘Aisha (R.A).

This great lady, the mother of Muslims fulfilled her responsibility  and conveyed a big portion of knowledge throughout her Life. ‘Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) died in Madina at her home on 17 Ramadan, 58 AH at the age of 64.  She was buried in Jannat-al-Baqi. Muslim Ummah will continue to quench the thirst of knowledge from the knowledge conveyed by her following the recommendation of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ saying:

“Learn a portion of your religion from this Humayra (red colored lady).”

Look at the ultimate wisdom of Allah. Abu Bakr sacrificed his entire life in the path of Allah, and Allah granted him a beautiful gift which was to let his daughter be the most beloved wife of Rasulullah SAW after Khadija, and decorate his daughter Aisha with the charm, intelligence, and integrity.

She carried the in-depth legacy and knowledge of Rasulullah’s ﷺ memory. One cannot open Islamic books about the Qur’an, the biography of Muhammad ﷺ or jurisprudence, without finding Aisha’s name referenced in there. What a great honor for such a woman.

‘Aisha, Umm-Al-Mu’minin, even though she never had a single child, yet she is the Mother of Believers.

May Almighty Allah make the women of today act upon the life of  ‘Aisha (RadhiyallahuAnha) Ameen.

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with her (R.A)” each time Aisha’s R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


Compiled by Bint Abdul Waheed

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