In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful
Abdullah ibn Umar was born in Mecca one year before the Prophethood of Muhammad ﷺ۔ He was the son of Umar ibn al-Khattab and Zaynab bint Madhun.His full siblings were Hafsa R.A (wife of Prophet ﷺ) and Abdulrahman.
Name and Lineage:
His full name was Abdullah bin Omar bin Al-Khattab Al-Qureshi Al-Ad’wi عبد الله بن عمر بن الخطاب القرشي العدوي . His Kunya was Abu Abdur Rahman أبوعبد الرحمن . He embraced Islam in childhood along with his father.
صغار صحابی – Of the younger companions: Abdullah Ibn Umar RA determination to fight for the course of Islam begins at the tender age of 13 years old. He first presented himself for the battle of Badr, not allowed then came for the battle of Uhud, but again Prophet ﷺ sent him back due to his young age.
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي نَافِعٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَرَضَهُ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَهْوَ ابْنُ أَرْبَعَ عَشْرَةَ سَنَةً، فَلَمْ يُجِزْنِي، ثُمَّ عَرَضَنِي يَوْمَ الْخَنْدَقِ وَأَنَا ابْنُ خَمْسَ عَشْرَةَ فَأَجَازَنِي.
Narrated Ibn `Umar رضی اللہ عنہماthat Allah’s Messenger ﷺ called me to present myself in front of him on the eve of the battle of Uhud, while I was fourteen years of age, and he did not allow me to take part in that battle, but he called me in front of him on the eve of the battle of the Trench when I was fifteen years old, and he allowed me (to join the battle).”
ہم سے عبداللہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ ہم سے ابواسامہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے عبیداللہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے نافع نے بیان کیا ، انہوں نے کہا کہ ہم سے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے بیان کیا کہ احد کی لڑائی کے موقع پر وہ رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کے سامنے ( جنگ پر جانے کے لیے ) پیش ہوئے تو انہیں اجازت نہیں ملی ، اس وقت ان کی عمر چودہ سال تھی ۔ پھر غزوہ خندق کے موقع پر پیش ہوئے تو اجازت مل گئی ۔ اس وقت ان کی عمر پندرہ سال تھی ۔
(Sahih al-Bukhari 2664)
The way how we treat our children does affect them, we see how gentle Prophet ﷺ was with everyone. His way of teaching was effective and influential. The Prophet would not speak in a way that would break anybody’s heart۔
Mujahid reported that Ibn Omar was present at the occasion of the Conquest of Makkah, he was twenty years old at that time. He had a stubborn horse and a heavy spear, so he went to cut some grass for his horse (while cutting grass in Makkah is forbidden), so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ (lovingly stopped him), that O Abdullah, O Abdullah!
(Musnand Ahmed: 4600)
His Great Status:
From the time of his Hijrah till the time of his death more than seventy years later, Abdullah ibn Omar distinguished himself in the service of Islam and was regarded among Muslims as “the Good One, son of the Good One”. He was known for his knowledge, humility, generosity, piety, truthfulness, and his constancy in acts of Ibadah.
حَدَّثَنَا مُعَلَّى بْنُ أَسَدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ رَأَيْتُ فِي الْمَنَامِ كَأَنَّ فِي يَدِي سَرَقَةً مِنْ حَرِيرٍ لاَ أَهْوِي بِهَا إِلَى مَكَانٍ فِي الْجَنَّةِ إِلاَّ طَارَتْ بِي إِلَيْهِ، فَقَصَصْتُهَا عَلَى حَفْصَةَ. فَقَصَّتْهَا حَفْصَةُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ” إِنَّ أَخَاكِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ”. أَوْ قَالَ ” إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ”.
I saw in a dream a piece of silken cloth in my hand, and in whatever direction in Paradise I waved it, it flew, carrying me there. I narrated this (dream) to (my sister) Hafsa and she told it to the Prophet (ﷺ) who said, (to Hafsa), “Indeed, your brother is a righteous man,” or, “Indeed, `Abdullah is a righteous man.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 7015, 7016)
A scholar and jurist:
كان من فقهاء الصحابة ومتقيهم وزهادهم He was of the knowledgeable, righteous, ascetic Companions.
وكان أحد العبادلة الأربعة المشهود لهم بالفضل والعلم، حتى أن اجتماعهم على رأى يعد حجة ويقال فيه:هذا قول العبادلة
(لمحات تربوية من سيرة الصحابي عبد الله بن عمر)
Abdullah bin Omar was one of the four famous ‘Abadilah’ (i.e., Abdullah b. Omar, Abdullah b. Abbas, Abdullah b. Mas’ud and Abdullah b. Amr b. Aas), whose knowledge and excellence is established, so much so that their agreement over a matter is considered proof and it was said,‘This is the statement of the Abadilah)
وهو من المكثرين من رواية الحديث عن النبي ﷺ، روى ألفاً وستمائة وثلاثين حديثاً عن رسول الله ﷺ تفرد البخاري منها بنحو من ثمانين حديثاً، ومسلم بنحو واحد وثلاثين حديثاً.
[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]
He is of those who narrated many ahadith from the Prophet ﷺ i.e 1630 ahadith. In Bukhari alone, there are 80 narrations, and in Muslim, there are 31. Abdullah was extremely cautious, even afraid, of reporting the sayings of the Prophet. He would only relate a hadith if he was completely sure that he remembered every word of it.
Similarly, he was extremely cautious and reluctant to make legal judgments (fatwas).’ Once someone came to him asking for a judgment on a particular matter and Abdullah ibn Umar replied: “I have no knowledge of what you ask.” The man went on his way and Abdullah clapped his hands in glee and said to himself: “The son of Umar was asked about what he does not know and he said: I do not know.”
The people used to feel at ease with his legal verdicts, because Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was so strict in following what Rasulullah ﷺ had said and when delivering verdicts, he would always refer to the Book of Allah SWT and if he did not find what he wanted, he would refer to Sunnah of Rasulullah ﷺ and if he did not find what he sought there, he would refer to the juristic reasoning of the Companions, and he would follow them if they were unanimous in their view. However, if they differed, he would choose from among their opinions what seemed right to him.
Because of this attitude, he was reluctant to be a judge (qadi) even though he was well qualified to be one. The position of qadi was one of the most important and esteemed offices in the Muslim society and state bringing with it an honor, glory and even riches but he declined this position when it was offered him by the Khalifah Uthman. His reason for so doing was not that he underestimated the importance of the position of qadi but because of his fear of committing errors of judgment in matters pertaining to Islam. Uthman R.A made him agree not to disclose his decision lest it might influence the many other companions of the Prophet who actually performed the duties of judges.
A great Follower of Prophet اِتباعِ رسول ﷺ :
عن عائشة قالت ما كان أحد يتبع آثار النبي ﷺ في منازله كما كان يتبعه بن عمر۔
Aisha R.A reported, “No one followed the Messenger of Allah (s) in his footsteps like Ibn Omar”.
[طبقات ابن سعد]
Abdullah Ibn Umar RA, continued to demonstrate his love for Rasulullah ﷺafter his demised and whenever Rasulullah ﷺ was mentioned, his eyes would fill with tears; Asim bin Muhammad Al-Amri RA narrated from his father that he said: ”Whenever l heard Abdullah Ibn Umar RA mention Rasulullah ﷺ, he would weep.
We can see with the following hadith that he was very keen observer. He was always eager to know about the actions of Prophet ﷺ
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو النُّعْمَانِ، وَقُتَيْبَةُ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَدِمَ مَكَّةَ، فَدَعَا عُثْمَانَ بْنَ طَلْحَةَ، فَفَتَحَ الْبَابَ، فَدَخَلَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَبِلاَلٌ وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ وَعُثْمَانُ بْنُ طَلْحَةَ، ثُمَّ أُغْلِقَ الْبَابُ، فَلَبِثَ فِيهِ سَاعَةً ثُمَّ خَرَجُوا. قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَبَدَرْتُ فَسَأَلْتُ بِلاَلاً فَقَالَ صَلَّى فِيهِ. فَقُلْتُ فِي أَىٍّ قَالَ بَيْنَ الأُسْطُوَانَتَيْنِ. قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَذَهَبَ عَلَىَّ أَنْ أَسْأَلَهُ كَمْ صَلَّى.Ibn `Umar said, “The Prophet (ﷺ) arrived at Mecca and sent for `Uthman bin Talha. He opened the gate of the Ka`ba and the Prophet, Bilal, Usama bin Zaid and `Uthman bin Talha entered the Ka`ba and then they closed its door (from inside). They stayed there for an hour, and then came out.” Ibn `Umar added, “I quickly went to Bilal and asked him (whether the Prophet (ﷺ) had prayed). Bilal replied, ‘He prayed in it.’ I asked, ‘Where?’ He replied, ‘Between the two pillars.’ “Ibn `Umar added, “I forgot to ask how many rak`at he (the Prophet) had prayed in the Ka`ba.”ہم سے ابوالنعمان محمد بن فضل اور قتیبہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا کہ ہم سے حماد بن زید نے ایوب سختیانی کے واسطہ سے ، انھوں نے نافع سے ، انھوں نے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما سے کہ نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم جب مکہ تشریف لائے ( اور مکہ فتح ہوا ) تو آپ نے عثمان بن طلحہ رضی اللہ عنہ کو بلوایا ۔ ( جو کعبہ کے متولی ، چابی بردار تھے ) انھوں نے دروازہ کھولا تو نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ، بلال ، اسامہ بن زید اور عثمان بن طلحہ چاروں اندر تشریف لے گئے ۔ پھر دروازہ بند کر دیا گیا اور وہاں تھوڑی دیر تک ٹھہر کر باہر آئے ۔ ابن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ میں نے جلدی سے آگے بڑھ کر بلال سے پوچھا ( کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے کعبہ کے اندر کیا کیا ) انھوں نے بتایا کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اندر نماز پڑھی تھی ۔ میں نے پوچھا کس جگہ ؟ کہا کہ دونوں ستونوں کے درمیان ۔ عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ یہ پوچھنا مجھے یاد نہ رہا کہ آپ نے کتنی رکعتیں پڑھی تھیں ۔(Sahih al-Bukhari 468)
Keen observation is all about alertness, focus, and attention. It is a mind game.You have to be childlike who is curious enough to remember small details which others skip.Also, your mind should be active all the time.To attain this quality, it is important to pay attention to every single detail.
Abdullah R.A would observe and scrutinize closely every saying and action of the Prophet ﷺ in various situations and he would practice what he observed closely and with devotion. For example, if Abdullah saw the Prophetﷺ performing Salat in a particular place, he would later pray in the same place. If he saw the Prophet ﷺ making g a supplication while standing, he would also make a dua while standing. If he saw him making a dua while sitting, he would do the same. On a journey, if he saw the Prophet ﷺ descend from his camel at a particular place and pray two rakats, and he had occasion to pass on the same route, he would stop at the same place and pray two rakats.
Bearing hardship in order to follow the way of the Prophet ﷺ:
عن الطفيل بن أبي بن كعب: أنه كان يأتي عبد الله بن عمر، فيغدو معه إلى السوق، قال: فإذ ا غدونا إلى السوق لم يمرّ عبد الله بن عمر على سقّاط ولا صاحب بيعة، ولا مسكين، ولا أحدٍ غلا يسلم عليه قال الطفيل: فجئت عبد الله بن عمريوماً. فاستتبعني إلى السوق. فقلت: ما تصنع بالسوق؟وأنت لا تقف على لبيع ولا تسأل عن السلع، ولا تسوم بها، ولا تجلس في مجالس السوق، فاجلس بناها هنا نتحدث. فقاللي عبد الله: “يا أبابطن! ( وكان الطفيل ذابطن)- إنما نغدو من أجل السلام[نسلم] على منلقينا”.
(صحیح الادب المفرد: 774)
At-Tufail bin Ubayy bin Ka’b reported: he used to visit ‘Abdullah bin Omar in the morning and accompany him to the market. He says: when we went to the market, ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar offered greetings of peace to every one he met on the way, be they sellers of petty goods, traders or poor people. Tufail says: One day when I came to Ibn ‘Omar, he asked me to accompany him to the market. I said to him: “What is the point of your going to the market? when you do not stand on sale, nor ask about articles, nor offer a price for them, nor sit down in any gathering of market. So sit down here with us and we will talk.” So ‘Abdullah said to me: “O Abu Batn (belly)! (Tufail had a large belly), we go to the market to greet everyone we meet.”
When you greet someone in Arabic you don’t say, have a nice day, you say “peace be with you,” which is the essence of this religion. Peace is not only something that we get, it is an ongoing objective…
[757/ عن بشير بن يسار قال: ما كان أحدٌ يبدأ أو يبدر ابن عمر بالسلام . [صحيح الأدب المفرد: 982
Bashir ibn Yasar said, “No one preceded or got ahead of Ibn Omar when giving the greeting.”
Thus, he was following the teachings of Prophet ﷺ and his actions clearly explain that how much he loved to spread love and brotherhood. So, Ibn Omar never missed his chances of gaining reward by reviving sunnah of Prophet ﷺ.
عن سالم بن عبد الله قال: ما سمعت عبد الله لاعناً أحداً قط، ليس إنساناً. وكان سالم يقول: قال عبد الله بن عمر: قال رسول الله ﷺ : لا ينبغي للمؤمن أن يكون لعاناً
[صحیح الادب المفرد: 235]
Narrated Salim ibn ‘Abdullah, he said, “I never heard ‘Abdullah ever curse anyone, not even humans.” Salim used to mention that ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “It is not fitting for a believer to be a curser.”
Salim was his son. He was also a great scholar, a narrator, at the top compared to his other children. His son Salim testified to his father’s noble character. Here we learn some good aspects from children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing.
Here we learn some aspects of children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing. Secondly, it is also important to discipline them. When it comes to disciplining children, there is no quick fix and no magic bullet. Our own behavior does give our children the pattern for how we want them to end up.
[ عن نافع قال: ” كان ابن عمر يضرب ولده على اللحن”. [صحیح†الادب المفرد: 680
* Nafi’ said, “Ibn ‘Umar used to strike his son on a bad tune.”
Thus, it is expected that the children may commit unintentional mistakes, which should be corrected, rather than ignored. We consistently need to show them the right behavior. Similarly, it is important to help children learn to be organized and manage their time.
عن نافع”أن عبد الله بن عمر كان إذا وجد أحداً من أهله يلعب بالنرد ضربه، وكسرها”.
[صحیح الادب المفرد: 965]
Nafi’ narrated that if ‘Abdullah ibn Omar found any of his family playing with dice (backgammon/ cube), he would beat them and break the board.
It’s not like that he was a very harsh person, but he actually knew how to usefully utilize time and talents. We should not forget this rule for ourselves in order to be a good role model and more productive. If our kids see us following our own rules, then they will be more likely to follow.
He never felt ashamed to work from his hands, it is a true example how hard working he was that he built his house without any help or labor.
عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ رَأَيْتُنِي مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَنَيْتُ بِيَدِي بَيْتًا يُكِنُّنِي مِنْ الْمَطَرِ
[ وَيُظِلُّنِي مِنْ الشَّمْسِ مَا أَعَانَنِي عَلَيْهِ أَحَدٌ مِنْ خَلْقِ اللَّهِ [صحیح البخاری: 6302
Narrated Ibn Omar: During the life-time of the Prophet ﷺ I built a house with my own hands so that it might protect me from the rain and shade me from the sun; and none of Allah’s creatures assisted me in building it.
Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was extremely ascetic regarding the life of this world; we have seen how he refused appointments as an administrator and a judge. And he was not happy with his wealth unless he gave it to charity.
[قال بن مسعود إن من أملك شباب قريش لنفسه عن الدنيا لعبد الله بن عمر [تهذيب التهذيب
Ibn Masud said, “Of the youth of Quraysh Abdullah bin Omar disciplined his nafs the most”.
[قال جابر ما منا أحد أدرك الدنيا إلا مالت به ومال بها إلا بن عمر[تهذيب التهذيب
Jabir (r) said, “There was none of us who got some dunya except that the dunya made him incline towards it, and he made the dunya incline towards it, except Ibn Omar”.
On one occasion, the slave of Abdullah bin Omar R.A arrived from Iraq and he came to give salutations to him and he said: ‘I have brought you a gift. Abdullah Ibn Omar asked: ‘And what is it?’ He replied: ‘Jawarish.’ He asked: ‘And what is Jawarish?’ He said: ‘It helps the digestion of food’. Abdullah Ibn Umar RA said: ‘I have not filled my stomach with food for forty years, so what will I do with it?’
Intelligent and Respectful:
عن ابن عمر قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم “أخبروني بشجرة مَثَلُها مثَلُ المسلم، تؤتي أكلها كل حين بإذن ربها، لا تحُتُّ ورقها”فوقع في نفسي النخلة، فكرهت أن أتكلم، وثم أبو بكر وعمر رضي الله عنهما، فلما لم يتكلما.قالالنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم “هي النخلة”. فلما خرجت مع أبي قلت: يا أبت! وقع في نفسي النخلة. قال: ما منعك أن تقولها؟لو كنت قلتها، كان أحب إلي من كذا وكذا. قال: ما منعني إلا لم أرك، ولا أبا بكر تكلمتُما، فكرهت.
[صحیح الادب المفرد: 276]
Ibn Omar said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘Tell me which tree is like the Muslim? It gives fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord and its leaves do not fall.‘ (Ibn Omar says that) It occurred to me that it was the palm tree, but I did not want to speak as Abu Bakr and’Umar, رضی اللہ عنہما were present. When they both did not speak, the Prophet ( صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, ‘It is the palm tree.’ When I left with my father, I said, ‘O my Father, I thought that it was the palm tree.’ He asked, ‘What kept you from saying that? If you had said so, I would have preferred that to such-and-such.’ He said, ‘What kept me from doing so was that I did not see you or Abu Bakr speak, so I did not like to speak out.’”
There were elders in the gathering so out of respect he remained quiet. Also, it shows that he was a patient listener and he knew when to speak. Similarly, he didn’t try to impress gathering by showing off his knowledge. It indicates his maturity in front of his seniors.
Consistent in the night prayer
He was once described as the “ brother of the night.” He would stay up at night performing Salat, weeping and seeking Allah’s forgiveness and reading Quran.
[ قَالَ سَالِمٌ فَكَانَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لَا يَنَامُ مِنْ اللَّيْلِ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا [صحیح البخاری: 3738
Salim said, “Abdullah used not to sleep at night but very little.”
Frequently performed Hajj Umrah and gave charity
Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A used to worship Allah SWT much and he was God-fearing; he would stand in prayer at night often and he would fast frequently and he performed Hajj many times and remembered Allah always.
ابن عمر –رضي الله عنهما-حج ستين حجة، واعتمر ما يقرب من ألف عمرة، فكان مولعاً بالبيت
وحَمل على ألف فرس في سبيل الله، يعني: يحمل الناس في سبيل الله للجهاد، وكان كثير الإنفاق
[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]
Abdullah b. Omar performed 60 Hajj, and performed more than 1000 Umrahs, and he dearly loved the House of Allah, and he mounted (people on) 1000 horses in the way of Allah. He would give much in charity.
Spent a lot in the way of Allah
He was kind and generous and would not refuse any petitioner and he would distribute charity as one who did not fear poverty, seeking thereby the reward which is with Allah, as he preferred the life of the Hereafter over the life of this world.
كان كثيراً ما يتقرب إلى الله بما يعجبه من ماله
Often he would be eager to draw close to Allah through the wealth that he loved.
لما نزلت : لن تنالوا البر حتى تنفقوا مما تحبون أعتق جارية عنده كان يحبها لله تعالى
When this verse was revealed he gave away his slave woman whom he loved.
Ibn ‘Umar would not eat unless there were poor and needy persons sitting with him at his table who would eat with him.
عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ لَا يَأْكُلُ حَتَّى يُؤْتَى بِمِسْكِينٍ يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَدْخَلْتُ رَجُلًا يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَكَلَ كَثِيرًا فَقَالَ يَا
نَافِعُ لَا تُدْخِلْ هَذَا عَلَيَّ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلميَقُولُ الْمُؤْمِنُ يَأْكُلُ فِي مِعًى وَاحِدٍ وَالْكَافِرُ يَأْكُلُ فِي سَبْعَةِ أَمْعَاءٍ
[5393: صحیح البخاری:]
Narrated Nafi`: Ibn `Umar never used to take his meal unless a poor man was called to eat with him. One day I brought a poor man to eat with him, the man ate too much, whereupon Ibn `Umar said, “O Nafi`! Don’t let this man enter my house, for I heard the Prophet ﷺ saying, “A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with a little food), and a kafir (unbeliever) eats in seven intestines (eats much food).
This Hadith does not indicate that eating to one’s fill is something prohibited. Actually, it is not prohibited; rather, scholars stated that it is prohibited to eat more than one’s fill because it is a form of extravagance and causes harm in most cases.
His Love and Focus for Quran:
In the stillness of the nights, he would remember Allah SWT much, perform Salat and read the Quran and weep. Like his father, tears came readily to his eyes especially when he heard the warning in the verses of the Quran.
عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا إِذَا قَرَأَ الْقُرْآنَ لَمْ يَتَكَلَّمْ حَتَّى يَفْرُغَ مِنْهُ فَأَخَذْتُ عَلَيْهِ يَوْمًا فَقَرَ أَ
سُورَةَ الْبَقَرَةِ حَتَّى انْتَهَى إِلَى مَكَانٍ قَالَ تَدْرِي فِيمَ أُنْزِلَتْ قُلْتُ لَا قَالَ أُنْزِلَتْ فِي كَذَا وَكَذَا ثُمَّ مَضَى
[صحیح البخاری : 4526]
Narrated Nafi`:Whenever Ibn `Umar رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا recited the Qur’an, he would not speak to anyone till he had finished his recitation. Once I held the Qur’an and he recited Surat-al- Baqara from his memory and then stopped at a certain ayah and said, “Do you know in what connection this ayah was revealed?” I said, “No.” He said, “It was revealed in such-and-such connection.” Ibn `Umar then resumed his recitation.
Ibn Al-Musayyab said: ‘If I were to testify that anyone was one of the people of Paradise, it would be Ibn Omar.’ And it was said to Nafi: ‘What did lbn Omar use to do in his house?’ He replied: ‘You cannot do it; he used to perform ablution for every prayer and read the Quran between the ablution and the prayer’.
Strict in teaching people:
عن عطاء بن أبي رباح؛ أن رجلاً كان يمدح رجلاً عند ابن عمر، فجعل ابن عمر يحثُ التراب نحو فيه، وقال:
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ” إذا رأيتم المداحين، فاحثوا في وجوههم التراب”.
[صحیح الادب المفرد: 259]
‘Ata ibn Abi Rabah reported that a man was praising another man in the presence of Ibn Omar. Ibn Omar began to throw dust towards his mouth. And he said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘When you see those who praise people, throw dust in their faces.’”
It is customary to compliment people you admire and want to befriend, but there are differences between a compliment meant to flatter and a compliment to express appreciation. The motives behind flattery can sometimes be selfish, while the motive for showing appreciation is gratitude.
To praise someone and to take it to an extreme and to describe him in a way that he is not worthy of. This is prohibited and it is lying and deception. For example mentioning a leader or minister or someone of this rank and extolling him and describing him with praiseworthy characteristics which he does not possess. This is not permissible and is harmful to the one being praised. That’s what Ibn Omar was pointing by his actions.
عن سعيد المقبري قال: مررت على ابن عمر ومعه رجل يتحدّث، فقمت إليهما، فلطم في صدري، فقال : “إذا
وجدت اثنين يتحدثان فلا تقم معهما، ولا تجلس معهما، حتى تستأذنهما “. فقلت: أصلحك الله يا أبا عبد
[ الرحمن! إنما رجوت أن أسمع منكما خيراً. [صحیح الادب المفرد: 893
Sa’id al-Maqburi said, “I passed by Ibn ‘Umar who had a man with him with whom he was conversing. I went and stood by them, and he struck me on the chest and said, ‘When you find two men conversing, do not go up to them nor sit with them until they give you permission.’ I said. O Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! ‘May Allah make you prosper. I hoped that I would hear something good from you.’”
It’s against etiquettes to interrupt or try to hear someone’s private conversation. While the person who was passing by and stood by Ibn Omar, didn’t have bad intention. But since it was very rude, so he mentioned him to avoid whether how good one’s intentions are.
One who called himself to account:
عن زاذان أبي عمر، قال: كنا عند ابن عمر، فدعا بغلام له كان ضربه فكشف عن ظهره، فقال: أيوجعك؟ قال لا. فأعتقه، ثم رفع عوداً من الأرض فقال: ما لي فيه من الأجر ما يزن هذا العود؟ فقلت: يا أبا عبد الرحمن ! لم تقول هذا؟ قال: سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول – أو قال – من ضرب مملوكه حداً لم يأته، أو لطم وجهه، ( وفي لفظ: ” من لطم عبده أو ضربه حداً لم يأته فكفارته أن يُعتقه”.
[ صحيح الأدب المفرد: 133]
Abu ‘Umar Zadhan said, “We were with Ibn Omar when he summoned a slave of his whom he had beaten and he uncovered his back. ‘Does it hurt?’ he asked. ‘No,’ he replied. Then he set him free. He picked up a stick from the ground and then said, ‘I do not have a reward (for him) worth as much as the weight of this stick.’ I asked, O ‘Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! why do you say this?’ He said, ‘I heard the Prophet ﷺ, say, “The expiation of someone who beats a slave more than he deserves or slaps his face is that he must set him free.”
Abdullah Ibn Omar was honest himself. His actions reflect that when you hold yourself accountable to doing the things you know you should do, you will distinguish yourself from the crowd. In the same manner, if you want to advance your life personally or professionally, you must hold yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals.
In the year of martyrdom, he was in Makkah during the days of Hajj and Abdul-Malik bin Marwan was the Umayyad Caliph at the time and he had sent Al-Hajjaj bin Yusuf Ath-Thaqafi to lead the Hajj. The Hajj pilgrims were gathered around Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A, for in the hearts of the people, he has a high rank. And they had left Al-Hajjaj, although he was in charge of the Hajj.
مات بمكة في قصة مشهورة معروفة، فقد وقع له مع الحجاج شيء من المخاصمة، وكان الحجاج فيه صلف وعنت وظلم، فتكلم عليه الحجاج، فقال له ابن عمر: أنت سفيه، وتكلم عليه بنحو هذا، فأمر أحد جنوده فوضع له سماً في زج الرمح، فكان يطوف بجانبه ويزاحمه، ويفتعل الزحام معه حتى جرحه في رجله، فتسمم فمرض، وعاده الحجاج في بيته، فلم ينظر إليه، ولم يكلمه، ولم يرد عليه، ومات بعد أيام -رضي الله تعالى عنه وأرضاه- وقد عمّر كثيراً، وكان عمره ستا وثمانين سنة.
[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]
He passed away in Makkah. He had a disagreement with Hajjaaj ibn Yousuf and Hajjaaj had much hate, rebellion, and injustice in himself…. Hajjaj ordered his soldier (to kill Abdullah) so he applied poison on the tip of a spear, and followed him in Tawaf. He would bump into him during Tawaf, and eventually poked him with the spear in his foot. The poison entered his body and he fell severely ill…. after a few days he passed away.
He was buried in the graveyard of the Muhajirun in Fakh Dhi Tuwa may Allah SWT have mercy on him. He died in the year 73 AH, aged eighty-six years, may Allah have mercy on him.
Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with him (R.A)” each time Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.
* Nafi’ was Ibn Omar’s freed slave
- Based on Notes and Lecture of Ustadhza Farhat Hashmi “Sahih Bukhari – Kitab ul Munaqib“