Beneficial tips. May Allah SWT make it easy for our kids and for all parents this important task Ameen!
Looking Through My Window
Many a long hour I sit in my chair
The window open to let in God’s good
It’s a picturesque view for all to see
Especially the lovely,
Tall ash tree
In the spring it was late starting to sprout
But at last the buds just opened out
Now it is standing majestic and tall
Covered in green leaves,
From which the birds call
I watch it each day in the breeze blowing
Without human aid it simply keeps growing
Telling us God’s help is always there
For everyone who really cares
So look out of your window,
All day long
Then you will feel like singing a song
Of thanks and praise for the one above
Giving us everything,
Especially His love
Source: Looking Through My Window
“The sun and the moon are two of the signs of Allah, and they do not become eclipsed for the death or the birth of anyone. If you see that, then call on Allah, perform Salah, give charity…”
According to the majority of scholars: “It is obligatory on an immediate basis and whoever delays it to another year is a sinner, for if he dies, he will be held accountable for this, if Allah does not forgive him.”
Materialism is a common word used frequently when ever we see attachment of a person with possessions or running after the career or to become a millionaire etc.
Do you think a big house, expensive car, branded clothes; a lavish lifestyle can be a source of happiness? This is true if needs are met at a certain point, a person becomes satisfied but life satisfaction is different from the happiness.At a specific level, having more things becomes a liability or a burden. It’s a sad fact of consumer society, that commercialism influences our minds.
At a specific level, having more things becomes a liability or a burden. It’s a sad fact of consumer society, that commercialism influences our minds.
Living a less- materialistic life doesn’t mean to abstain from all pleasures of life. It is actually an attitude to shift the focus away from the possessions so they become less important. A person needs to be less careful about owning more and more focused towards building intangible habits. For instance, adopting good habits, challenging yourself with better goals, making your inner-world healthy etc.
Materialism fills the Void:
Our body does not only require food, and clothes only but it does have much deeper requirement beyond the physical needs. If you are feeling yourself empty or always crave for new stuff and your inner self always thriving for new and exciting things, this is your inner soul alerting you that you are missing some spiritual needs. Filling it with tangible things would be like sand that will sieve out of holes and will again leave you empty.
How do you fill that internal emptiness?
To become acceptable in the society we crave for many things some are:
– Passionate work challenges
– Praiseworthy achievements
– Goals to become rich
Here are some ideas that to overcome our false attachments:
1) Finding Inner Peace:
*You are a soul and you have a body, as C.S. Lewis said. We are created by a perfect Master who designed a very specific hole inside of our soul which will burn and grow and ache until we seek out the only source that can fill it, i.e. relation with our Master (the Almighty, Allah).
We were created for worship. And whether we know it or not, whether we are aware of what we are doing– and even if we think we have no belief in any god or pure belief in only One God– each of us is worshiping something or someone every single day of our life. It may be our own soul, as the Qur’an talks about the fool who has made his desires his master; it may be money, fame, or power; it may be a desire to be accepted or loved by our friends, community, or family; it may be an overwhelming need to be loved by another human on a romantic level. *
To find our inner peace, every human being is required to understand his purpose of creation, and Quran has explained it very well. (Quran 51:56; 67:2)
2) Hoarding is harmful:
It’s a common behavior to hoard valuables because generally it is believed that an item will be useful for later use, or one has a sentimental attachment. Commonly stored items may be newspapers, magazines, paper, boxes, photographs, household supplies, food, and clothing.
Hoarding can be related to compulsive buying (obsession with shopping), the compulsive acquisition of free items, or the compulsive search for perfect or unique. Islam has forbidden hoarding because it causes harm to people.
To overcome your attachment to things you first need to ask a question to yourself what emotional needs am I trying to satisfy it?
For example, if it is the source of your past memories then fill your present with memories that satisfy your particular need. It ‘ll help you to get rid of your old possessions and on another side, it ‘ll be useful for those who are needier.
3) Relationships and its true value:
Balancing the relationships would be hardest thing for many people. Don’t try to look towards them as possessions. The Quran awakens the spirit of parenting by making us realize that children are not only the pomp and glitter of our lives, but also a trust from Allah in our hands. To maintain any social relationship both parties must have some clear-cut Rights as well as obligations. The relationships are reciprocal. Duties of one side are the Rights of the other side. The key point here is to understand the intrinsic value of this blessing by experiencing them but their love should not overcome your love and devotion for your Creator – Allah the Almighty.
4) Socializing/Fun time:
Your body and soul does have right on you. If you remain busy in a certain routine, you may possibly loose connection with family. So schedule times that you enjoy with people, you love.
5) Sacrifice and Serve:
Sacrifice, generally means something that is given up for the better cause. In reality, it’s a two-way contract, when you do a good deed with right intention your reward is confirmed. If you somehow can’t experience it in this life, surely you ‘ll enjoy its fruits in Hereafter. So, invest your energies in serving others. When you shift your focus from “Me and my” to others”, it effectively helps in reducing materialism.
6) Self- Control:
Everyday we are faced with choices and challenges. By keeping ourselves free, we can be victim of our temptations. Like if a society become obsessed with the top brands, luxurious life, fake standards, they start to celebrate being over the top and posh. Delusion of fashion, race to the next material thing leads to unhealthy circumstances.
Setting some limits can control it and we can see that Islam provides us guidance over this issue. However, we can enjoy our free will but in the more responsible way.
7) Develop good habits:
Building intangible assets can replace your physical ones. For example, good habits, time-management, discipline, and learning can improve your life-style. Judge yourself with ethics and attaining self-respect.
8) Don’t be the slave to your money:
When your income increase doesn’t adopt high standards of living. It might be fun to drive a flashy car and live in a big house, or having an extravagant wedding. Your ego will enjoy the quick boost resulting from spending your money on your desires. But it could chain you especially when your spending leads you into the debt.
The smarter idea is to value your freedom and spend wisely. Less glamorous require fewer mental pressures as well less maintenance. A simple lifestyle gives you the ability to focus on your productivity with better goals.
9) What will go with you?
To prioritize the things, it is better to always think what will matter in the end of life. What will go with us, and what we will leave behind in this world.
Ending materialism means to develop a balance between physical and spiritual needs by seeing possessions as neutral. Moreover, it is important to understand the purpose of our life is to set our priorities, which will stop our endless chasing after the wind.
Tafseer Surah Aal-Imran Ayaat 96-97 [Part 2] “And [due] to Allah from the people is a pilgrimage to the House – for whoever is able to find thereto a way.” This ayah established the obligation of performing Hajj. There are many ahadeeth that mention it as one of the pillars and fundamentals of […]
📖💫جزء 19 حصہ اوّل💫📖
🌅 سورة الفرقان🌅
✍🏻آیت 21 وَقَالَ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ۔۔۔ ذکر ان لوگوں کا جو قیامت کے دن کو جھٹلاتے ہیں
✍🏻آیت 25 وَيَوْمَ تَشَقَّقُ السَّمَاءُ ۔۔ حدیث کے مفہوم میں ہے کہ قیامت کے دن انسان کا صدقہ اس پر سایہ بنے گا
✍🏻آیت 26۔ 28 اس روز صرف الله کا ہی حکم چلے گا اور وہ لوگ ڈر رہے ہوں گے جنہوں نے الله کا پیغام اور انبیآء کے پیغام کا مذاق اڑایاہو گا۔
💎جو لوگ دنیا میں تکبر کرتے اور الله کی بات کو نہ مانتے وہ افسوس کریں گے کہ کاش انہوں نے رسول کا رستہ اپنا لیا ہوتا اور اچھی صحبت رکھی ہوتی
💎تقوی کی صفت کو مضبوط کرنا ہے کہ تنہائی میں بھی کوئی غلط کام نہ کریں ۔ اپنے ضمیر کو تقوی کے ساتھ خوبصورت بنانا ہے
💎ہمیں کوشش اور دعا کرنی ہے کہ ہم نبیﷺ کی سیرت کا مطالعہ کر یں اور ان کی سنتوں کو اپنا سکیں۔
📝ریفرنس کے لیے آخر👇🏻 میں کتاب کے لنکس کو دیکھیں
📚کتاب : آپؐ کے لیل و نہار ، 📚نبیﷺ کے معاملات اور معمولات،📚 رات و دن میں1000 دلنواز سنتیں
💎اچھی صحبت کے بارے میں ایک عالم کا قول ہے کہ اپنے دوست کے معاملے میں محتاط رہو کیونکہ انسان اسکی عادات اور اخلاق کو چرا لیتا ہے
💎رسول کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا نیک ساتھی اور برے ساتھی کی مثال کستوری بیچنے والے عطار اور لوہار کی سی ہے ۔ مشک بیچنے والے کے پاس سے تم دو اچھائیوں میں سے ایک نہ ایک ضرور پا لو گے ۔ یا تو مشک ہی خرید لو گے ورنہ کم از کم اس کی خوشبو تو ضرور ہی پا سکو گے ۔ لیکن لوہار کی بھٹی یا تمہارے بدن اور کپڑے کو جھلسا دے گی ورنہ بدبو تو اس سے تم ضرور پا لو گے ۔💫بخاری 2101
💎دعاؤں میں شامل رکھیں✅ الحقنی بالصالحین
💎آیت 30 نبیؐ الله سے شکوہ کر رہے ہیں کہ میری امت نے قرآن کو چھوڑ دیا یعنی پڑھ کر بھلا دیا،وہ رستہ اپنا لیا جو لوگوں نے اپنایا ہوا تھا۔
💎ہمیں بھی قرآن کو تازہ کرتے رہنا ہے۔
✍🏻آیت 44 أَمْ تَحْسَبُ أَنَّ أَكْثَرَهُمْ ۔۔۔ ہمیں اپنی نفسانی خواہشات کو کنٹرول کرنا ہے۔
💎ہمارا دین ہمیں اس بات کی بہترین رہنمائی کرتا ہے کہ نفس کو کس طرح صحیح سمت کی طرف لے کر جائیں
✍🏻آیت 45 الله کی نشانیوں پر غور و فکر مثال جیسے دھوپ اور چھاؤں میں بھی ایک خوبصورتی ہے
💎الله نے ہر چیز اعتدال کے ساتھ بنائی ہے
✍🏻آیت 52 فَلَا تُطِعِ الْكَافِرِينَ وَجَاهِدْهُم بِهِ جِهَادًا كَبِيرًا
دینے کے بجائے قرآن مجید سے جوڑیں کیونکہ اس سے دعوی کا کام مؤثر ہوتا ہے۔ logic جب بھی دعوی کا کام کریں تو
💎قرآن کے ساتھ جہاد کبیر کرنا ہے یعنی اسے سمجھنا ، سیکھنا ، سیکھانا، عمل کرنا، اپنا وقت ، مال اور صلاحیتوں کو اس رستے میں لگانا ہے۔
💎اپنے ایمان اور عقیدہ کو بھی مضبوط کرنا ہے
✍🏻آیت 53 وَهُوَ الَّذِي مَرَجَ الْبَحْرَيْنِ۔۔۔ جس طرح دو سمندر کی مثال ہے اسی طرح ہر مزاج کے لوگ اس رستے میں ملیں گے لیکن دعوی کا کام چھوڑنا نہیں ہے اور استقامت کی دعا کرنی ہے
✍🏻آیت 57قُلْ مَا أَسْأَلُكُمْ۔۔۔۔ نبیؐ کے دعوی کا مقصد لوگوں کو الله سے جوڑنا ہے
✍🏻آیت 58 جب بھی ہم دعوی کا کام کریں گے تو روحانی طاقت بھی مضبوط کرنا ہے تسبیحات کی کثرت کے ساتھ
✍🏻آیت 63 ۔74 رحمٰن کے بندوں کا عمل اور اخلاق کیسا ہوتا ہے کچھ صفات کا ذکر
✍🏻 آیت 74 ہدایت اور تقوی کی دعا کرنا ہے کہ ہمارا گھر متقین کا گھر ہو
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
✍🏻آیت 1۔2 طسم ﴿١﴾ تِلْكَ آيَاتُ الْكِتَابِ الْمُبِينِ ﴿٢﴾ مبین یعنی اس قرآن اور اس سورت میں جو آیات ہیں وہ واضح ہیں
✍🏻آیت 8 الله کی نشانیاں ہر جگہ ہیں اگر کوئی ڈھونڈنا چاہے
✍🏻آیت 13 اگر الله کا پیغام کسی ایسے انسان کو دینا ہے جو اس کو ماننے کا انکار کرتا ہے تو ان دعاؤں کو پڑھیں
✳️ استخارہ کی دعا کے ساتھ
رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي
✳️ یا حی یا قیوم کی کثرت
✳️اللّٰهُمَّ اهْدِ قَلْبِیْ وَسَدِّدْ لِسَانِیْ وَاسْلُلْ سَخِیْمَةَ قَلْبِیْاے الله! میرے دل کو راہ نمائی عطا فرما، میری زبان کو درستگی عطا فرما اور میرے دل کے کینے کو دور فرما
✍🏻آیت 24 رب کا خوبصورت تعارف موسیؑ نے کرایا
Originally posted on telegram channel ‘Al-Qur’an Al-Tazkeer’
Mentioned Books in the above reflection:
- Aap صلى الله عليه وسلم ke Lailo Nahaar
- 1000 Dilnawaz Suanatien
- Muhammad s.a.w Maamoolat Aur Muamlat
- Muhammad – Habits & Dealings
- Beautiful Compilation of Duas – Dua Kijeye and App is also available in app store
A question I get asked frequently is, “What is the best way to start Ramadān?”
I thought about this for some time, and here is my answer:
“The best way to start Ramadān is the way you ended it last year.”
Meaning: you should start Ramadān with the same passion, focus and commitment that you completed the last ten days of last year’s Ramadān. (if you didn’t end it well last year, stay tuned for another short reminder soon: “How to fix a broken Ramadān?”)
Do These Seven and Go to Heaven, Inshallah!
I know it sounds easy. But give it a try! Try having the same passion you had last year in the following areas today and see where it takes you tomorrow:
1. When you stand to pray, muster the passion you had a year ago as Ramadān came to a close. The concentration and taste of it should be in your heart; your body should be calm and your soul submerged in the light of prayer. The Prophet (sa) said, “Whoever prays and his/her heart does not disturb him/her during prayer, his/her sins are forgiven.”
2. When you make dua, let it all out, give it to Allāh now, feeling impoverished to him like you did last year at the end of Ramadān. The Prophet (sa) said, “The supplications of a fasting person are accepted.”
3. Let the tears flow now. Dry lands can’t grow much, and neither can dry hearts. A teacher once told me,
“Tears come from fertile hearts like springs come from the fertile soil.”
Sit alone with Allah and cry to him, seek him, beg him and flee to him “You will find him forgiving, merciful.”
4. When you remember Allah, do so with the same focus you did last year. Know that
“Remember Me and I will remember you” (Surah Al Baqarah 2:152)
is happening every time His blessed names flows from your heart and speech, and that wherever you remember Him (work, home, mosque, school, alone or in a group), He mentions you in front of the angels, says your name and they seek blessings and forgiveness:
“Forgive those who believe, follow your path and save them from Hell.” (Surah Ghafir 40:7)
5. Taste the sweetness of the hereafter, knowing the bitter taste of this life. Recall how your heart felt the last 10 days; there was nothing more valuable to you then drawing nearer to him and farther from excess here. Bring that passion now! Become a stranger in this life or a traveler because this is not your permanent abode!
In the Qur’an, Allah addresses Adam and his wife saying, “You two get out of here (Paradise).” In other places, He says, “You (all) get out of here.”
My teacher said, “You all is all of us, Adam and his progeny. We were evicted from our real home and soon, God willing we will return to it if we lived healthy lives for Allah. This world is not it. Paradise awaits.”
6. Guard your time now like you did last year. Ibn al-Qayyim said,
“I know people more cautious with their time than bankers are with money.”
7. Guard your tongue and your character now like you did the last ten days a year ago! Recall the statement of our Prophet (ﷺ) regarding a person who fails to look after the outer aspects of fasting,
“Allah will say, ‘I have no need that you left your food and drink.”
Gain Infinite Openings:
If you start this now, this struggle, God promises you openings and growth. He says,
“Those who struggle in our way, we will guide them to infinite ways.”
High-Intensity Taqqrub (Seeking Nearness):
What you are doing when you take on Ramadān like this is intense taqarrub (seeking nearness to Allah, distance from sins and Satan). The Prophet (ﷺ) said that Allah (swt) said, “A person does not come to me a hand’s length, except I come to him/her an arm’s length. If he/she comes to me walking, I run to him/her.”
If you take this bull by the horns and start this month off, with the same passion from a year ago, you are the person mentioned in the hadith above, inshallah.
Illuminated Endings are Rooted in Illuminated Beginnings:
Remember! How you start now, tells a lot about last year and this year. Push yourself, asking God to dilate your heart and soul, filling it with guidance and light.
Sheikh al-Islām, Ahmed Zarūq (ra) said,
“Who’s beginning was with Allah, then his ending is to Allah.”
Written by Imam Suhaib Web
As we stood in line to ride our next roller coaster, Ahmad and I didn’t realize that someone was listening in on our conversation. We stood there talking about a lot of different things on that hot summer day trying to pass the time of the long wait. I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but it was enough to have the person in front of us in line turn around and ask, “Are you guys Muslim?” Just his pronunciation of the word “Muslim” made my hair stand up. His dirty tank top ripped up jeans, scruffy face, and long, shaggy hair made us wonder what kind of ignorant statement might come next.
“Yes, we are,” we responded.
He then continued, “I used to play in a rock band. We used to jam in my buddy’s basement. And I remember a couple years ago, I was going through some really tough times in my life. That’s when I noticed that my buddy had a Quran on his shelf. So I walked over and picked it up. I opened it up to any random page, and I put my finger on any random verse.”
What happened next blew us both away. This scruffy looking wannabe rockstar then proceeded to quote a verse from the Quran in English, with no mistakes as if he sat and memorized it. Or at the very least, it penetrated his heart for him to know it word for word after all these years. Allah’s words had clearly had an impact on him. We both recognized the verses from Surat al-Kahf.
“Say, ‘Shall We tell you about the greatest losers in respect to their deeds? Those whose efforts have been wasted in this life and who believe nevertheless that they are doing good.’” (Surah Kahf: Ayah 103-104)
He continued, “And that verse just hit me! I thought, man, what am I doing with my life? What am I really doing?” He then continued his story, “Then some time passed, and I went about my life. And about a year later, I started going through some really tough times again. So I went back to my buddy’s house and grabbed the Quran off his shelf again. I opened it to any random page and put my finger down on any random verse,” he said as he gestured opening a book and pointing to it. “Same exact verse man!! Same exact verse!” He then looked up towards the sky and pointed his finger up and said, “I hear ya man. I hear ya.” Ahmad and I started laughing at his unexpected story.
It wasn’t until later when I thought about our conversation that I felt that there was a lesson to be learned from the rockstar that Allah sent us that hot summer day. I had to ask myself when was the last time I turned to the Quran when I was going through tough times – taking the opportunity to hear what Allah has to say to me? I thought to myself, don’t I have as much right to the Quran as he does? It reminded me of a couple I heard once before:
قُلْ هَلْ نُنَبِّئُكُم بِالْأَخْسَرِينَ أَعْمَالًا -الَّذِينَ ضَلَّ سَعْيُهُمْ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَهُمْ يَحْسَبُونَ أَنَّهُمْ يُحْسِنُونَ صُنْعًا –
(Al-Quran -Surah Al-Kahf 18 : Ayah 103-104)
“Say, ‘Shall We tell you about the greatest losers in respect to their deeds? Those whose efforts have been wasted in this life and who believe nevertheless that they are doing good.”
Original Source: Muslim Matters