Making Eid fun for our Children…

Eid Al-Fitr is our holiday. It is the day chosen by Allah for Muslims to be happy, have Halal fun, spend time with their families and celebrate in a halal way. It is one of two Eids with which Allah has blessed this ummah.

Anas bin Malik (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) came to Madinah and the people had two days when they would play and have fun. He said, ‘What are these two days?’ They said, ‘We used to play and have fun on these days during the days of ignorance. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) said, ‘Allah has given you something better than them, the day of (Eid) Adhaa and the day of (Eid) Fitr.’” (Sunan Abu Dawood)

The above Hadith makes it clear that these two Eids are part of our religion, and also that it is prohibited for us to celebrate the holidays of other religions.

In the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him), a lot of fun activities were organized on Eid day for the youth, as can be seen in the following narration:

Aisha Bint Abi Bakr reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came to my house when two girls were beside me singing songs of Bu’ath. The Prophet laid down and turned his face to the other side. Then Abu Bakr came and spoke to me harshly, saying, “Musical instruments of Satan near the Prophet?” The Prophet turned his face toward him and he said, “Leave them alone.” When Abu Bakr became inattentive, I signalled to the girls and they left.

It was the day of celebration (Eid) and the Abyssinians were playing with shields and spears. Either I asked the Prophet or he asked me whether I would like to watch. I said yes. Then the Prophet made me stand behind him while my cheek was touching his cheek and the Prophet was saying, “Carry on, O tribe of Arfida.” I became tired and the Prophet asked me, “Are you satisfied?” I said yes, so I left. (Saheeh Bukhari 907)

This tradition of Halal fun on Eid day continues today in most Muslim countries around the world like UAE, Malaysia, and even Palestine. We too should strive to revive this atmosphere in our communities.

Today many young Muslims are growing up in Non-Muslim countries like South Africa, and they are attracted to the celebrations and fun events associated with Christmas and Easter. One way to keep them away from these events is to make Eid as fun as possible.

Here are a few tips on how we can make Eid fun for kids in South Africa:

  1. Build anticipation

In the days leading up to Eid, count down the days with your kids. Let them see how excited everybody is about Eid. Talk to them about all the fun things you will do on Eid day, and do what you can to get them really excited about Eid day.

  1. Buy Gifts

The Prophet (peace be upon him) encouraged the exchanging of gifts as a way of increasing love between people. This applies to our children as well. Make Eid special by buying for each of the children in your family a special gift on Eid day.

  1. Take off from work if possible

If you are able to take the day off from work for Eid day, then do so. Your family will appreciate the extra time you spend with them on this beautiful day and it create another reason for children to look forward to Eid day.

If you are an employer, give your Muslim staff the day off on Eid Day so that they too can enjoy Eid with their families.

  1. Attend Eid Salah as a family

It is Sunnah for entire families to attend the Eid Salah together. Take your children with you for the Eid Salah so that they can soak in the Eid Atmosphere and experience the specialness of this day.

  1. Visit Family

Take out time on Eid day to visit your relatives, and buy gifts for other children in the family as well, besides your own. Go out of your way to make Eid special for all Muslim children, not just your own.

  1. Plan fun activities

Take out time to plan some fun Halal activities for the children on this day. Whether it is someplace to visit, games to play, or nasheeds to sing. Be creative and find ways to make each Eid special and memorable.

  1. Quality Time – Be Present

Finally, make sure that you spend quality time with your children on Eid Day. Don’t just be there physically, but be actively involved in enjoying Eid with your children.

Doing all of this will help make Eid special for children, and build in them a love of Islam, Ramadan, and Eid.

Eid Mubarak to all our readers!


Originally written @ Islamic Self Help by Shaykh Ismail Kamdar

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10 Tips to Child-Proof your Taraweeh this Ramadan

Ramadan is a time when family and friends gather at the masjid to feast on delicious meals and stand shoulder to shoulder in nighttime prayers filled with blessings and rewards.  It’s a pleasurable time at the masjid that both parents and children look forward to.  But suppose you are the mother of a rambunctious child, what might normally be an enjoyable time to connect with friends and get closer to Allah SWT can become an experience filled with frustration.  Here are 10 tips to encourage your child to stay on his best behavior in the masjid, so you can have a more pleasant and rewarding Taraweeh prayer during Ramadan insha’Allah.

Tip 1

Select a masjid that caters to children.  Many masjids offer childcare services for worshippers, making it easy for parents to enjoy meals and give their undivided attention during long standing periods of Taraweeh prayer.  Of course, not all masjids have this luxury.  Even so, some are certainly more kid-friendly than others.  Look for a masjid that you and your child both feel comfortable in.

Tip 2

Encourage your child to fast during Ramadan.  The pious predecessors of the Prophet SAWS encouraged their children to fast.  There are differences in opinion as to what age children should be encouraged to fast.  Nevertheless, you can still make gentle attempts at getting your child to give up eating by distracting him with toys, as did our pious predecessors.  You can even offer a special reward if he fasts all or most of the day. Use affectionate persuasion but don’t force fasting upon him.  How can fasting help control your child during visits to the masjid?  Think about it . . . how do you feel after fasting all day and then finally sitting down to savor a scrumptious meal?  Your blood sugar plummets and you’re ready to doze off to sleep.  Your children are no different.  Having your child fall asleep during Taraweeh prayer can be the relief you need to focus on your prayers and avoid having to correct him to be quiet or sit still.

Tip 3

Endear your child to stand for the Taraweeh prayer along with you.  It’s not uncommon for children as young as eight-years-old to stand for the entire Taraweeh prayer! However, don’t force it upon your child.  All children are different.  Offer him a special treat if he stands throughout much of the prayer with you.  You’ll find him trying his best to stay on his feet, fighting the urge to rock back and forth and nod off.

Tip 4

Talk to your child prior to leaving home.  Explain to him that you understand how difficult it can be sitting still for such a long period of time.  Explain specifically what type of behavior you expect from him, within reason.  Tell him that you want him to sit down while you’re praying.  Let him know if he wishes to talk, he should use a hushed tone.  If he sits quietly throughout most of the prayer, you’ll give him a gift from your “Ramadan Gift Bag” on the way home.  Your gift doesn’t have to be expensive.  It could even be a special dessert such as an ice cream cone or donut on the way home from the masjid, or even a special sweet treat you cook up at home.

Tip 5

Carry along a “Taraweeh Activity Bag” with an assortment of toys such as coloring books and crayons, pencil and paper, puzzles, sticker books, hand held toys  and whatever other entertaining toys (without images) you think will keep your child’s hands busy and mind occupied while you’re praying.  Why not visit the local dollar store and have your child pick out toys he might enjoy playing with.  After you get home, stuff everything into a back pack for your child to carry with him to the masjid.

Tip 6

Bring a bag of snacks. What better way to keep your child’s mouth closed and hands busy than with baggies filled with savory snacks.   Treats with mini pieces such as bags of nuts, popcorn or fruit snacks are ideal.  They make it practical for your child to share with his friends and they don’t leave crumbs behind.  Be sure to remind him to pick up any bags or wrappers he may have used.

Tip 7

Take an outside break.  Sometimes, being inside for an extensive period of time can be too much for your child. When your child gets cranky and disruptive to others, give him a break.  Allow him (and yourself) to take a breather outside and take in some fresh night air. After calming down your child and gathering your resolve, return inside and continue your prayer.

Tip 8

Remember that you are training your child.  Don’t expect a perfect soldier.  He will falter at times with your instructions. That can be expected.  Your child is not an adult.  And besides, even adults have limitations on their attention spans.  Your child is just that—a child.

Tip 9

Lower your expectations of attaining a perfect Taraweeh prayer.  Times are not the same as when you had no children.  Your child will inevitably take time away from your devotion.  And that’s okay.  You are now in charge of a child you have been given as a trust. Your responsibility is to teach him his purpose in life—to worship his Lord.  Through your patience, guidance and example, he will learn an important facet of Ramadan—standing earnestly at night and enduring the fortitude of praying to His Lord.

Tip 10

For some children, the structured environment of a masjid for such an extended period of time is just too demanding.  In such situations, it’s reassuring to know that for sisters, praying in the home gains more rewards than praying in the masjid–talk about convenience.  So, you can still receive bountiful rewards from your Lord right in your home while praying Taraweeh and at the same time, allow your child to experience the many blessing of this holy month of Ramadan.

What tips do you use to manage children during Taraweeh prayers? Please share with us in the comments section below. 🙂


Originally posted on IOU Blog by Grandma Jeddah

RAMADAN REINFORCEMENT – THE BEST WAY TO START RAMADAN

A question I get asked frequently is, “What is the best way to start Ramadān?”

I thought about this for some time, and here is my answer:

“The best way to start Ramadān is the way you ended it last year.”

Meaning: you should start Ramadān with the same passion, focus and commitment that you completed the last ten days of last year’s Ramadān. (if you didn’t end it well last year, stay tuned for another short reminder soon: “How to fix a broken Ramadān?”)

Do These Seven and Go to Heaven, Inshallah!
I know it sounds easy. But give it a try! Try having the same passion you had last year in the following areas today and see where it takes you tomorrow:

1. When you stand to pray, muster the passion you had a year ago as Ramadān came to a close. The concentration and taste of it should be in your heart; your body should be calm and your soul submerged in the light of prayer. The Prophet (sa) said, “Whoever prays and his/her heart does not disturb him/her during prayer, his/her sins are forgiven.”

2. When you make dua, let it all out, give it to Allāh now, feeling impoverished to him like you did last year at the end of Ramadān. The Prophet (sa) said, “The supplications of a fasting person are accepted.”

3. Let the tears flow now. Dry lands can’t grow much, and neither can dry hearts. A teacher once told me,

“Tears come from fertile hearts like springs come from the fertile soil.”

Sit alone with Allah and cry to him, seek him, beg him and flee to him “You will find him forgiving, merciful.”

4. When you remember Allah, do so with the same focus you did last year. Know that

“Remember Me and I will remember you”  (Surah Al Baqarah 2:152)

is happening every time His blessed names flows from your heart and speech, and that wherever you remember Him (work, home, mosque, school, alone or in a group), He mentions you in front of the angels, says your name and they seek blessings and forgiveness:

“Forgive those who believe, follow your path and save them from Hell.” (Surah Ghafir 40:7)

5. Taste the sweetness of the hereafter, knowing the bitter taste of this life. Recall how your heart felt the last 10 days; there was nothing more valuable to you then drawing nearer to him and farther from excess here. Bring that passion now! Become a stranger in this life or a traveler because this is not your permanent abode!

In the Qur’an, Allah addresses Adam and his wife saying, “You two get out of here (Paradise).” In other places, He says, “You (all) get out of here.”

My teacher said, “You all is all of us, Adam and his progeny. We were evicted from our real home and soon, God willing we will return to it if we lived healthy lives for Allah. This world is not it. Paradise awaits.”

6. Guard your time now like you did last year. Ibn al-Qayyim said,

“I know people more cautious with their time than bankers are with money.”

7. Guard your tongue and your character now like you did the last ten days a year ago! Recall the statement of our Prophet (ﷺ) regarding a person who fails to look after the outer aspects of fasting,

“Allah will say, ‘I have no need that you left your food and drink.”

Gain Infinite Openings:

If you start this now, this struggle, God promises you openings and growth. He says,

“Those who struggle in our way, we will guide them to infinite ways.”

High-Intensity Taqqrub (Seeking Nearness):

What you are doing when you take on Ramadān like this is intense taqarrub (seeking nearness to Allah, distance from sins and Satan). The Prophet (ﷺ) said that Allah (swt) said, “A person does not come to me a hand’s length, except I come to him/her an arm’s length. If he/she comes to me walking, I run to him/her.”

If you take this bull by the horns and start this month off, with the same passion from a year ago, you are the person mentioned in the hadith above, inshallah.

Illuminated Endings are Rooted in Illuminated Beginnings:

Remember! How you start now, tells a lot about last year and this year. Push yourself, asking God to dilate your heart and soul, filling it with guidance and light.

Sheikh al-Islām, Ahmed Zarūq (ra) said,
“Who’s beginning was with Allah, then his ending is to Allah.”


Written by Imam Suhaib Web

WHAT’S NEXT AFTER RAMADAN……

Ramadan is over and our old routine is back. Our feelings are still intact, the purpose for which we fasted last month is not over and that was GUIDANCE. The ayah that we all heard and read a lot of time,

ۚشَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآنُ هُدًى لِّلنَّاسِ وَبَيِّنَاتٍ مِّنَ الْهُدَىٰ وَالْفُرْقَانِ

The month of Ramadhan [is that] in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion.

رمضان کا مہینہ جس میں قرآن (اول اول) نازل ہوا جو لوگوں کا رہنما ہے اور (جس میں) ہدایت کی کھلی نشانیاں ہیں اور (جو حق و باطل کو) الگ الگ کرنے والا ہے

(Surah Al-Baqarah : 185)

Ramadan is the month in which Quran was revealed and Quran is the source of guidance. Alhamdulillah many of us, tried our best to recite, reflect, implement as much possibly during that blessed month. But do you think responsibility is over? Race towards the good deeds is ended? Is our duty to be a thankful servant to Lord no more required? Of course, the answer is NO.

Ramadan was a Trial Period, we were struggling to train ourselves for Future, the year to come. Just like our life in Dunya is short, temporary and limited. Whatever struggle we all could do in Ramadan as per our strength, less or more, we did. Now it’s time to continue those efforts with respect to controlling our desires, earning more rewards with small to big good actions, implementing Sunnah and rectifying ourselves in the light of Quran, loving and helping Allah’s creation with similar passion etc.

Therefore, Ramadan is not a season, it always comes as an opportunity to gain Taqwa and boost our Emaan. If you have achieved 50% what you planned for Ramadan, alhamdulillah, let’s focus on other 50% by sustaining what already is accomplished. The key to being productive in the remaining year is being consistent in maintaining good habits, keep yourself motivated by avoiding or eliminating unproductive environment and joining good company. Always remember, that reward is not dependent on the results, instead it depends on the intentions behind it.

Look we still have a hope before this life ends, so why not maintained the lifestyle and discipline that we had in Ramadan, in the entire year.

May Allah SWT accept our efforts and strengthen us in the path of guidance. Ameen


Written by Bint e Abdul Waheed – Based on the learning during Ramadan

(Shared with some modifications)

RAMADAN WITH KIDS – 30 ACTIVITIES FOR 30 DAYS

Ramadan is around the corner and parents must be looking some fun and productive activities for their kids. So, here we designed 30 activities for our little munchkins 🙂 hope they like them and ll have very happy ramadan insha’Allah.

Please print the Activity sheets given below, you can make changes as per kid’s age and interests. You can cut them out of the paper, and challenge them with daily task.

We make sincere dua that each of one of us witnesses this special month and utilises it, so it benefits us on the Day when Allah will announce for the blessed souls to enter Jannah from the gate of Ar Rayyan. Ameen.

 


Download Activity Sheets for kids.

Original idea shared on blog Modest Munchies

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FROM RAJAB TO RAMADAN

Rajab is here and Ramadan is just around the corner!  Do you want to make the most out of this opportunity? Then get ready and plan! Prepare your hearts for the imaan recharging journey in the month of Ramadan. Our pious predecessors used to start preparing for Ramadan days before it arrived.

Rajab is one of the four sacred months. Although there is no particular act of worship prescribed in the Sunnah for the month of Rajab, the salaf used to increase in their ibadah and recitation of Quran.

Abu Bakr Al-Balkhi said: “The month of Rajab is the month for planting, the month of Shaban is the month of irrigating the crops and the month of Ramadan is the month of harvesting the crops.”

Below are some pointers for Ramadan preparation:

1. Dua: Start making dua for good physical health and a healthy imaan to carry out good deeds in the month of Ramadan.  Ask Allah to allow you to see Ramadan, give you the ability to do good deeds and accept it from you.  Moreover, make a list of duas you are going to ask during the month of Ramadan, at the time of Aftar and on the night of Qadr.

2. Islamic Knowledge: Decide and collect all the Islamic lectures and books that you aim to listen to and read during Ramadan.

3. Quran: Ramadan and Quran are two inseparable friends.  Increase your time with the Quran from now and plan your relationship with the Quran in Ramadan; how much recitation you will do each day, which tafseer you’re going to read and how much time you will spend on recitation and contemplation.

4. Gain Knowledge about Ramadan: Read books about Ramadan; the virtues of this month and the rulings of fasting. This way we can avoid making mistakes and spend the month in the manner most loved by Allah.

5. A productive Taraweeh: In these two months try and read the summary of each Surah/Juzz in the Quran so that you get the gist of what you’ll be hearing in the Taraweeh.

6. Activities for Children: Plan the special activities you’ll be doing with kids and what you’ll be teaching them.  For example, reading the tafseer of particular Surahs, doing some charity work, or activities about the phases of the moon etc. Many Ramadan activity books are available on the Internet for free.

7. Laylatul Qadr: Plan how you’ll be spending the last ten nights. What azkar will you do? What duas will you make? What type of ibadah will you perform? How will you engage your whole family to make this night productive?

8. Making up obligatory fasts:

It was narrated that Abu Salamah said:”I heard Aishah R.A say: “I would owe fasts from the previous Ramadan and I would not be able to make them up except in Shaban.”” (Bukhari & Muslim).

Scholars comment that from her keenness to make up her fasts before Ramadan it may be understood that it is better not to delay making them up until another Ramadan begins.

9. Fasting in Shaban: Train yourself for fasting by practicing for a few days in Shaban. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to fast a lot in Shaban.

It is reported that Aisha (R.A) said: “I never saw the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) complete a month of fasting except Ramadan, and I never saw him fast more in any month than in Sha’baan.”(Bukhari & Muslim)

It was narrated that Usaamah ibn Zayd said: “I said: “O Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), I do not see you fasting in any month as you fast in Sha’baan?” He said: “That is a month that people neglect between Rajab and Ramadan, but it is a month in which peoples’ deeds are taken up to the Lord of the Worlds and I would like my deeds to be taken up when I am fasting.”” (Sunan an Nisai -Authenticated as Hasan by Albani).


Original Post: Islamic Online University Blog

SCHEDULE FOR THE DAY OF ARAFAH

Suggested schedule for the Day of Arafah In sha Allah:

1. Sleep early the night before to strengthen yourself for the special day.

2. Wake up before Fajr for suhoor.

3. Make wudoo, while consciously remembering that your sins are being washed away til the last drop of water.

Pray at least 4 rakat of qiyam and make du’aa for your deen and dunya in your sujood. Cry to Allah, showing Him humility and ask Him to give you tawfeeq on this great day, and thank Him for making you of those who would experience this special occasion.

4. Spend some time (10-15 mins at least) making Istighfar before Fajr, to be like the righteous whom Allah described as “seeking forgiveness before dawn.”

5. Repeat after Fajr adhan and make du’aa. Pray Fajr. Sit in your prayer place and do your morning adhkar. Make tasbeeh, tahleel, tahmeed, and takbeer. And as the Prophet Muhammad (Sallal laahu alaihi wa sallam) advised, increase in “la ilaha illallah, wahdahu la shareeka lahu, lahul mulk wa lahul hamd, wa huwa ala kulli shay’in qadeer.”

6. 15 minutes after sunrise pray 2 rakat of shurooq. This all amounts to the reward of a complete Hajj and umrah. So do not waste it!

7. If you’re able to stay awake by all means, do so and do not waste a single minute. If you need to sleep, take a nap for an hour with the conscious intention of energizing yourself for the worship of Allah.

8. When you wake up, make wudoo and pray at least 4 rakat of duha. Then recite lots of Quran and make the dhikr mentioned above in breaks in between.
(Make dhikr after Dhuhr as you prepare food or as you do what is absolutely necessary)

9. After Asr, say the evening adhkar. Then recite Qur’an again til about an hour before Maghrib. At that point, make LOTS of du’aa til Maghrib, while having yaqeen that Allah will answer. (Preparing a du’aa list ahead of time helps!) Beg that the day will not come to an end except that Allah has forgiven you all your sins and written you of those He has freed from the Fire.

Don’t forget the Muslims suffering all over the world.

Remember as you break your fast that your du’aa at that moment is accepted.

May Allah grant us all tawfeeq on that day.

Takbirāt of Tashrīq

The Takbirāt of Tashrīq are:

Allāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar, Lā ilāha illallāhu wallāhu Akbar, Allāhu Akbar, Walil lāhil hamd

“Allāh is the Greatest, Allāh is the Greatest. There is no deity besides Allāh and Allāh is the Greatest. Allāh is the Greatest and all praises are for Allāh only.”

It is wājib for every adult Muslim to recite these Takbirāt of Tashrīq audibly once after every fard salāh from the Fajr of 9th Dhul-Hijjah (Wednesday 23rd Sep 2015) to the ‘Asr of 13th Dhul-Hijjah (Sunday 27th September 2015) total of 23 salāh.

Mas’alah: Women should not say it loudly but softly.

Mas’alah: Takbīr should be recited immediately after concluding the fard prayer.


Forwarded by Sr. Maleeha

DHUL HIJJAH – VIRTUES OF FIRST 10 DAYS

Alhamdulillah, we are now approaching the month of Dhul-Hijjah, the month of Hajj. This is the month upon which Allah has bestowed the days of `Arafah, `Eid Al-Adha, and the Days of Tashreeq, which are the three days following `Eid. This is a special month, a month in which we are encouraged to double our efforts in performing our acts of worship and our good deeds.

If we have missed the opportunity to increase our worship during the last Ramadan, or if we have missed the opportunity to fast the six days of Shawwal, then let it be known, that right now there is a golden opportunity in front of us, an opportunity to be closer to Allah and to increase our worship.

This golden opportunity is the first 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah. Let us grab this opportunity before it leaves us. Let us do more dhikr, more Prayer, and more fasting. Let us recite Al-Qur’an more. Allah says in Surat Al-Fajr: “And by the ten nights”

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) testified to that. He said:

“There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days.” The people asked, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?” He said, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.” (Bukhaari)  

Subhaan Allaah wal-Hamdulillaah! What a blessing!

Obviously, Hajj is one of the best deeds that one can do during these ten days. However for those of us who were not invited to His House this year, there are still many, many good deeds that one can do and earn the Pleasure of Allaah. Some of these are:

  1. Fast all nine days and especially fast the Day of ‘Arafah
  2. Do a LOT of Dhikr and Takbeer
  3. Stand in Night Prayers
  4. Make Sincere Repentance
  5. Recite more Qur’aan
  6. Generally increase in doing ALL good deeds
  7. Get the reward of Hajj wherever you are
  8. Slaughter an animal and distribute the meat
  9. Attend Eid prayers
  10. Thank Allaah SWT

We Ask Allah (SWT) to accept our Ibadah, noble deed, charities, prayers in the month of Dhul Hajj. May Allah SWT make these days of yours, and every day of your life filled with joy, love and happiness. Ameen


 

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