HANDLING IRRATIONAL AND UNREASONABLE PEOPLE

Reflections –  Surah Al-A’raf:

(199:خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ ( الأعراف

Let’s take a look, what is the message in this ayah of Quran:

1- To handle others; don’t try to get them to see your point of view:

Don’t try to explain yourself or try to get them to understand you and empathize with your perspective. They won’t, and you’ll just feel worse for trying.

2- Give up the dream, that one day they will be the person you wish:

I see this in coaching clients all the time and in myself, too. There are people in our lives who have moments where they seem to be the parent/partner/spouse/friend (insert whatever’s appropriate) you’ve always felt they could be, yet they ultimately always end up hurting or disappointing us significantly. Amazingly, we fall for it and get our hopes up again the next time they treat us nicely or seem to have turned a new leaf. Giving up the hope and fully accepting this person for who they really are can be an unbelievable relief after what is sometimes a lifetime of wishing.

Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e. don’t punish them).

Shared By: Sr Shazia Nawaz

(Extracted from the article of Susan Bilal, MD)

 

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