Am I Materialistic?

Materialism is a common word used frequently when ever we see attachment of a person with possessions or running after the career or to become a millionaire etc.

Do you think a big house, expensive car, branded clothes; a lavish lifestyle can be a source of happiness? This is true if needs are met at a certain point, a person becomes satisfied but life satisfaction is different from the happiness.At a specific level, having more things becomes a liability or a burden. It’s a sad fact of consumer society, that commercialism influences our minds.

At a specific level, having more things becomes a liability or a burden. It’s a sad fact of consumer society, that commercialism influences our minds.
Living a less- materialistic life doesn’t mean to abstain from all pleasures of life. It is actually an attitude to shift the focus away from the possessions so they become less important. A person needs to be less careful about owning more and more focused towards building intangible habits. For instance, adopting good habits, challenging yourself with better goals, making your inner-world healthy etc.

Materialism fills the Void:

Our body does not only require food, and clothes only but it does have much deeper requirement beyond the physical needs. If you are feeling yourself empty or always crave for new stuff and your inner self always thriving for new and exciting things, this is your inner soul alerting you that you are missing some spiritual needs. Filling it with tangible things would be like sand that will sieve out of holes and will again leave you empty.
How do you fill that internal emptiness?
To become acceptable in the society we crave for many things some are:

– Relationships
– Passionate work challenges
– Praiseworthy achievements
– Goals to become rich
– Knowledge

Here are some ideas that to overcome our false attachments:

1) Finding Inner Peace:
*You are a soul and you have a body, as C.S. Lewis said. We are created by a perfect Master who designed a very specific hole inside of our soul which will burn and grow and ache until we seek out the only source that can fill it, i.e. relation with our Master (the Almighty, Allah).
We were created for worship. And whether we know it or not, whether we are aware of what we are doing– and even if we think we have no belief in any god or pure belief in only One God– each of us is worshiping something or someone every single day of our life. It may be our own soul, as the Qur’an talks about the fool who has made his desires his master; it may be money, fame, or power; it may be a desire to be accepted or loved by our friends, community, or family; it may be an overwhelming need to be loved by another human on a romantic level. *

To find our inner peace, every human being is required to understand his purpose of creation, and Quran has explained it very well. (Quran 51:56; 67:2)

2) Hoarding is harmful:

It’s a common behavior to hoard valuables because generally it is believed that an item will be useful for later use, or one has a sentimental attachment. Commonly stored items may be newspapers, magazines, paper, boxes, photographs, household supplies, food, and clothing.
Hoarding can be related to compulsive buying (obsession with shopping), the compulsive acquisition of free items, or the compulsive search for perfect or unique. Islam has forbidden hoarding because it causes harm to people.
To overcome your attachment to things you first need to ask a question to yourself what emotional needs am I trying to satisfy it?
For example, if it is the source of your past memories then fill your present with memories that satisfy your particular need. It ‘ll help you to get rid of your old possessions and on another side, it ‘ll be useful for those who are needier.

3) Relationships and its true value:
Balancing the relationships would be hardest thing for many people. Don’t try to look towards them as possessions. The Quran awakens the spirit of parenting by making us realize that children are not only the pomp and glitter of our lives, but also a trust from Allah in our hands. To maintain any social relationship both parties must have some clear-cut Rights as well as obligations. The relationships are reciprocal. Duties of one side are the Rights of the other side. The key point here is to understand the intrinsic value of this blessing by experiencing them but their love should not overcome your love and devotion for your Creator – Allah the Almighty.

4) Socializing/Fun time:
Your body and soul does have right on you. If you remain busy in a certain routine, you may possibly loose connection with family. So schedule times that you enjoy with people, you love.

5) Sacrifice and Serve:
Sacrifice, generally means something that is given up for the better cause. In reality, it’s a two-way contract, when you do a good deed with right intention your reward is confirmed. If you somehow can’t experience it in this life, surely you ‘ll enjoy its fruits in Hereafter. So, invest your energies in serving others. When you shift your focus from “Me and my” to others”, it effectively helps in reducing materialism.

6) Self- Control:
Everyday we are faced with choices and challenges. By keeping ourselves free, we can be victim of our temptations. Like if a society become obsessed with the top brands, luxurious life, fake standards, they start to celebrate being over the top and posh. Delusion of fashion, race to the next material thing leads to unhealthy circumstances.
Setting some limits can control it and we can see that Islam provides us guidance over this issue. However, we can enjoy our free will but in the more responsible way.

7) Develop good habits:
Building intangible assets can replace your physical ones. For example, good habits, time-management, discipline, and learning can improve your life-style. Judge yourself with ethics and attaining self-respect.

8) Don’t be the slave to your money:
When your income increase doesn’t adopt high standards of living. It might be fun to drive a flashy car and live in a big house, or having an extravagant wedding. Your ego will enjoy the quick boost resulting from spending your money on your desires. But it could chain you especially when your spending leads you into the debt.
The smarter idea is to value your freedom and spend wisely. Less glamorous require fewer mental pressures as well less maintenance. A simple lifestyle gives you the ability to focus on your productivity with better goals.

9) What will go with you?
To prioritize the things, it is better to always think what will matter in the end of life. What will go with us, and what we will leave behind in this world.

Reducing Materialism:

Ending materialism means to develop a balance between physical and spiritual needs by seeing possessions as neutral. Moreover, it is important to understand the purpose of our life is to set our priorities, which will stop our endless chasing after the wind.


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To Pray or Not to Pray, That is the Question?

Our menstrual cycle!

A hot topic that every woman can relate to. As Muslim women, our periods/menses/menstrual cycle is a huge concern when it comes to things like; when can we start praying and when we cannot? When can we start fasting and when should we not? What does it mean if we see spotting? What if it’s a specific color? The list goes on and on. My attempt here will be to briefly shed some light from a medical perspective, on what the menstrual cycle actually is, what to expect and how to approach various situations we might be faced with every day.

So let’s jump right into it, shall we?

First of all, what is the menstrual cycle?

A full menstrual cycle is the number of days from the first day of one period to the first day of the next. So that means day one of the menstrual cycle is the first of full bleeding day of the period. A typical cycle is approximately 24 to 35 days (average 28 days for most women). Medically this means: The series of changes our body goes through in preparation for the possibility of pregnancy, is the menstrual cycle. Each month, one of the ovaries releases an egg- this is called ovulation. At the same time, hormonal changes prepare our uterus for pregnancy.

If ovulation takes place and the egg is not fertilized, the lining of the uterus sheds through the vagina. This is a menstrual period. When you menstruate, your body sheds the lining of the uterus wall (which would have been the womb). Menstrual blood flows from the uterus through the small opening in the cervix and passes out of the body through the vagina.

Islamically this means: Haiz is the term for menses which literally means something that issues forth or is in running state. It refers to that flow of blood which women experience every month for a given time period.

Ok, So what’s normal?

  • The menstrual cycle, which is counted from the first day of one period to the first day of the next, isn’t the same for every woman. The menstrual flow might occur every 21 to 35 days and last two to seven days. For the first few years after menstruation begins, long cycles are common. However, menstrual cycles tend to shorten and become more regular as you get older. For the purpose of this article, our main concern is: Menstrual flow, is the number of days you are bleeding, each month during your cycle. Your menstrual flow can vary from being:
    •  regular — about the same length every month
    •  irregular
    •  light
    •  heavy
    •  painful
    •  pain-free
    •  long
    •  short

At the end of the day, “Normal” is what is normal for you.

What does that mean exactly?

  • There are no definite appointed days for a woman in menses.
  • The number of days may be more in one month and less in another.
  • Every woman knows what NORMAL for her.
  • Every woman and every month can vary.
  • It’s not necessary for the menses to start each month on the same date.
  • It may start early or may be delayed.
  • The duration of menses will vary for all women, varying person to person.

(Keep in mind that use of certain types of contraception, such as extended-cycle birth control pills and intrauterine devices (IUDs), will alter your menstrual cycle. Talk to your health care provider about what to expect) (When you get close to menopause, your cycle might become irregular again. However, because of the risk of uterine cancer increases as you age, discuss any irregular bleeding around menopause with your health care provider.)

Ok, but do I know what is actually normal for me?

Number one: Keep track of your menstrual period by start keeping a record of your menstrual cycle and menstrual flow on a calendar. Begin by tracking your start date every month for several months in a row to identify the regularity of your periods. The best and easiest way to do this in 2017 downloads an app! There are a gazillion apps out there. I personally use “Period Diary.” It’s a very simple basic app, that tracks your start and end date, gives you predictions, etc. If you’re extra concerned about your periods, then also make note of the following every month:

  • End date: How long does your period typically last? Is it longer or shorter than usual?
  • Flow: Record the heaviness of your flow. Does it seem lighter or heavier than usual? How often do you need to change your sanitary protection? Have you passed any blood clots?
  • Abnormal bleeding. Are you bleeding in between periods?
  • Pain: Describe any pain associated with your period. Does the pain feel worse than usual?
  • Other changes. Have you experienced any changes in mood or behavior? Did anything new happen around the time of change in your periods?

My cycle is not normal or irregular, why?

Menstrual cycle irregularities can have many different causes, just a few of those include:

  • Pregnancy or breastfeeding. A missed period can be an early sign of pregnancy. Breastfeeding typically delays the return of menstruation after pregnancy.
  • Eating disorders, extreme weight loss or excessive exercising
    • Eating disorders — such as anorexia nervosa — extreme weight loss and increased physical activity can disrupt menstruation.
  • Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Women with this common endocrine system disorder may have irregular periods as well as enlarged ovaries that contain

What can I do to prevent menstrual irregularities?

For some women, use of birth control pills can help regulate menstrual cycles. Treatment for any underlying problems, such as an eating disorder, also might help. However, some menstrual irregularities can’t be prevented. In addition, consult your health care provider if:

  • Your periods suddenly stop for more than 90 days — and you’re not pregnant
  • Periods become erratic after having been regular
  • You bleed for more than seven days
  • You bleed more heavily than usual or soak through more than one pad or tampon every hour or two
  • Periods are less than 21 days or more than 35 days apart
  • You bleed between periods
  • You develop severe pain during your period
  • You suddenly get a fever and feel sick after using tampons

Remember, tracking your menstrual cycle can help you find out what’s normal for you and what isn’t. If you have questions or concerns about your menstrual cycle, talk to your health care provider!

What about SPOTTING?

Ok, so we know that we cannot pray, fast, have sexual relations with husband during menses. But what about spotting?

This is a very hot topic among all women. All of us have experienced some kind of spotting at some point or another. Spotting before periods is a frustrating bodily function that most of us may or may not understand. For all those times you had to throw out a new pair of underwear, for all those times you thought your period was over, you bathed and started praying/fasting etc, and then feel/see discharge, and for all those times you thought there was something wrong with your reproductive system, for all those times you think you need to stop praying/fasting etc, again after bathing, let’s try to set the record straight.

First, we need to define spotting and understand how it affects you and your body.

 …………………………….TO BE CONTINUED………………………….


Written by featherB – She is a Medical Graduate with a degree in Medicine, is an aspiring writer living in the Bay Area. She is also a student of the Quran. You can follow her at: theselittlethoughtsofmine.com

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Juz 19 – POINTS TO PONDER (Part 1)

📖💫جزء 19 حصہ اوّل💫📖

🌅 سورة الفرقان🌅

✍🏻آیت 21 وَقَالَ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ۔۔۔ ذکر ان لوگوں کا جو قیامت کے دن کو جھٹلاتے ہیں

✍🏻آیت 25 وَيَوْمَ تَشَقَّقُ السَّمَاءُ ۔۔ حدیث کے مفہوم میں ہے کہ قیامت کے دن انسان کا صدقہ اس پر سایہ بنے گا

✍🏻آیت 26۔ 28 اس روز صرف الله کا ہی حکم چلے گا اور وہ لوگ ڈر رہے ہوں گے جنہوں نے الله کا پیغام اور انبیآء کے پیغام کا مذاق اڑایاہو گا۔

💎جو لوگ دنیا میں تکبر کرتے اور الله کی بات کو نہ مانتے وہ افسوس کریں گے کہ کاش انہوں نے رسول کا رستہ اپنا لیا ہوتا اور اچھی صحبت رکھی ہوتی

💎تقوی کی صفت کو مضبوط کرنا ہے کہ تنہائی میں بھی کوئی غلط کام نہ کریں ۔ اپنے ضمیر کو تقوی کے ساتھ خوبصورت بنانا ہے

💎ہمیں کوشش اور دعا کرنی ہے کہ ہم نبیﷺ کی سیرت کا مطالعہ کر یں اور ان کی سنتوں کو اپنا سکیں۔

📝ریفرنس کے لیے آخر👇🏻 میں کتاب کے لنکس کو دیکھیں

📚کتاب : آپؐ کے لیل و نہار ، 📚نبیﷺ کے معاملات اور معمولات،📚 رات و دن میں1000 دلنواز سنتیں

💎اچھی صحبت کے بارے میں ایک عالم کا قول ہے کہ اپنے دوست کے معاملے میں محتاط رہو کیونکہ انسان اسکی عادات اور اخلاق کو چرا لیتا ہے

💎رسول کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا نیک ساتھی اور برے ساتھی کی مثال کستوری بیچنے والے عطار اور لوہار کی سی ہے ۔ مشک بیچنے والے کے پاس سے تم دو اچھائیوں میں سے ایک نہ ایک ضرور پا لو گے ۔ یا تو مشک ہی خرید لو گے ورنہ کم از کم اس کی خوشبو تو ضرور ہی پا سکو گے ۔ لیکن لوہار کی بھٹی یا تمہارے بدن اور کپڑے کو جھلسا دے گی ورنہ بدبو تو اس سے تم ضرور پا لو گے ۔💫بخاری 2101

💎دعاؤں میں شامل رکھیں✅ الحقنی بالصالحین

💎آیت 30 نبیؐ الله سے شکوہ کر رہے ہیں کہ میری امت نے قرآن کو چھوڑ دیا یعنی پڑھ کر بھلا دیا،وہ رستہ اپنا لیا جو لوگوں نے اپنایا ہوا تھا۔

💎ہمیں بھی قرآن کو تازہ کرتے رہنا ہے۔

✍🏻آیت 44 أَمْ تَحْسَبُ أَنَّ أَكْثَرَهُمْ ۔۔۔ ہمیں اپنی نفسانی خواہشات کو کنٹرول کرنا ہے۔

💎ہمارا دین ہمیں اس بات کی بہترین رہنمائی کرتا ہے کہ نفس کو کس طرح صحیح سمت کی طرف لے کر جائیں

✍🏻آیت 45 الله کی نشانیوں پر غور و فکر مثال جیسے دھوپ اور چھاؤں میں بھی ایک خوبصورتی ہے

💎الله نے ہر چیز اعتدال کے ساتھ بنائی ہے

✍🏻آیت 52 فَلَا تُطِعِ الْكَافِرِينَ وَجَاهِدْهُم بِهِ جِهَادًا كَبِيرًا

دینے کے بجائے قرآن مجید سے جوڑیں کیونکہ اس سے دعوی کا کام مؤثر ہوتا ہے۔  logic جب بھی دعوی کا کام کریں تو

💎قرآن کے ساتھ جہاد کبیر کرنا ہے یعنی اسے سمجھنا ، سیکھنا ، سیکھانا، عمل کرنا، اپنا وقت ، مال اور صلاحیتوں کو اس رستے میں لگانا ہے۔

💎اپنے ایمان اور عقیدہ کو بھی مضبوط کرنا ہے

✍🏻آیت 53 وَهُوَ الَّذِي مَرَجَ الْبَحْرَيْنِ۔۔۔ جس طرح دو سمندر کی مثال ہے اسی طرح ہر مزاج کے لوگ اس رستے میں ملیں گے لیکن دعوی کا کام چھوڑنا نہیں ہے اور استقامت کی دعا کرنی ہے

✍🏻آیت  57قُلْ مَا أَسْأَلُكُمْ۔۔۔۔ نبیؐ کے دعوی کا مقصد لوگوں کو الله سے جوڑنا ہے

✍🏻آیت 58 جب بھی ہم دعوی کا کام کریں گے تو روحانی طاقت بھی مضبوط کرنا ہے تسبیحات کی کثرت کے ساتھ

✍🏻آیت 63 ۔74 رحمٰن کے بندوں کا عمل اور اخلاق کیسا ہوتا ہے کچھ صفات کا ذکر

✍🏻 آیت 74 ہدایت اور تقوی کی دعا کرنا ہے کہ ہمارا گھر متقین کا گھر ہو

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

🌅سورة الشعراء🌅

✍🏻آیت 1۔2 طسم ﴿١﴾ تِلْكَ آيَاتُ الْكِتَابِ الْمُبِينِ ﴿٢﴾ مبین یعنی اس قرآن اور اس سورت میں جو آیات ہیں وہ واضح ہیں

✍🏻آیت 8 الله کی نشانیاں ہر جگہ ہیں اگر کوئی ڈھونڈنا چاہے

✍🏻آیت 13 اگر الله کا پیغام کسی ایسے انسان کو دینا ہے جو اس کو ماننے کا انکار کرتا ہے تو ان دعاؤں کو پڑھیں

✳️ استخارہ کی دعا کے ساتھ

رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي

✳️ یا حی یا قیوم کی کثرت

✳️اللّٰهُمَّ اهْدِ قَلْبِیْ وَسَدِّدْ لِسَانِیْ وَاسْلُلْ سَخِیْمَةَ قَلْبِیْاے الله! میرے دل کو راہ نمائی عطا فرما، میری زبان کو درستگی عطا فرما اور میرے دل کے کینے کو دور فرما

(مسند احمد:1997)

✍🏻آیت 24 رب کا خوبصورت تعارف موسیؑ نے کرایا


Originally posted on telegram channel ‘Al-Qur’an Al-Tazkeer’

Related Links: Juz 18 Part 1Part 2

 

Mentioned Books in the above reflection:

  1. Aap صلى الله عليه وسلم ke Lailo Nahaar
  2. 1000 Dilnawaz Suanatien
  3. Muhammad s.a.w Maamoolat Aur Muamlat
  4. Muhammad – Habits & Dealings
  5. Beautiful Compilation of Duas – Dua Kijeye and App is also available in app store

 

RAMADAN REINFORCEMENT – THE BEST WAY TO START RAMADAN

A question I get asked frequently is, “What is the best way to start Ramadān?”

I thought about this for some time, and here is my answer:

“The best way to start Ramadān is the way you ended it last year.”

Meaning: you should start Ramadān with the same passion, focus and commitment that you completed the last ten days of last year’s Ramadān. (if you didn’t end it well last year, stay tuned for another short reminder soon: “How to fix a broken Ramadān?”)

Do These Seven and Go to Heaven, Inshallah!
I know it sounds easy. But give it a try! Try having the same passion you had last year in the following areas today and see where it takes you tomorrow:

1. When you stand to pray, muster the passion you had a year ago as Ramadān came to a close. The concentration and taste of it should be in your heart; your body should be calm and your soul submerged in the light of prayer. The Prophet (sa) said, “Whoever prays and his/her heart does not disturb him/her during prayer, his/her sins are forgiven.”

2. When you make dua, let it all out, give it to Allāh now, feeling impoverished to him like you did last year at the end of Ramadān. The Prophet (sa) said, “The supplications of a fasting person are accepted.”

3. Let the tears flow now. Dry lands can’t grow much, and neither can dry hearts. A teacher once told me,

“Tears come from fertile hearts like springs come from the fertile soil.”

Sit alone with Allah and cry to him, seek him, beg him and flee to him “You will find him forgiving, merciful.”

4. When you remember Allah, do so with the same focus you did last year. Know that

“Remember Me and I will remember you”  (Surah Al Baqarah 2:152)

is happening every time His blessed names flows from your heart and speech, and that wherever you remember Him (work, home, mosque, school, alone or in a group), He mentions you in front of the angels, says your name and they seek blessings and forgiveness:

“Forgive those who believe, follow your path and save them from Hell.” (Surah Ghafir 40:7)

5. Taste the sweetness of the hereafter, knowing the bitter taste of this life. Recall how your heart felt the last 10 days; there was nothing more valuable to you then drawing nearer to him and farther from excess here. Bring that passion now! Become a stranger in this life or a traveler because this is not your permanent abode!

In the Qur’an, Allah addresses Adam and his wife saying, “You two get out of here (Paradise).” In other places, He says, “You (all) get out of here.”

My teacher said, “You all is all of us, Adam and his progeny. We were evicted from our real home and soon, God willing we will return to it if we lived healthy lives for Allah. This world is not it. Paradise awaits.”

6. Guard your time now like you did last year. Ibn al-Qayyim said,

“I know people more cautious with their time than bankers are with money.”

7. Guard your tongue and your character now like you did the last ten days a year ago! Recall the statement of our Prophet (ﷺ) regarding a person who fails to look after the outer aspects of fasting,

“Allah will say, ‘I have no need that you left your food and drink.”

Gain Infinite Openings:

If you start this now, this struggle, God promises you openings and growth. He says,

“Those who struggle in our way, we will guide them to infinite ways.”

High-Intensity Taqqrub (Seeking Nearness):

What you are doing when you take on Ramadān like this is intense taqarrub (seeking nearness to Allah, distance from sins and Satan). The Prophet (ﷺ) said that Allah (swt) said, “A person does not come to me a hand’s length, except I come to him/her an arm’s length. If he/she comes to me walking, I run to him/her.”

If you take this bull by the horns and start this month off, with the same passion from a year ago, you are the person mentioned in the hadith above, inshallah.

Illuminated Endings are Rooted in Illuminated Beginnings:

Remember! How you start now, tells a lot about last year and this year. Push yourself, asking God to dilate your heart and soul, filling it with guidance and light.

Sheikh al-Islām, Ahmed Zarūq (ra) said,
“Who’s beginning was with Allah, then his ending is to Allah.”


Written by Imam Suhaib Web

You never know who you meet who will inspire you

As we stood in line to ride our next roller coaster, Ahmad and I didn’t realize that someone was listening in on our conversation.  We stood there talking about a lot of different things on that hot summer day trying to pass the time of the long wait.  I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but it was enough to have the person in front of us in line turn around and ask, “Are you guys Muslim?”  Just his pronunciation of the word “Muslim” made my hair stand up.  His dirty tank top ripped up jeans, scruffy face, and long, shaggy hair made us wonder what kind of ignorant statement might come next.

“Yes, we are,” we responded.

He then continued, “I used to play in a rock band.  We used to jam in my buddy’s basement.  And I remember a couple years ago, I was going through some really tough times in my life.  That’s when I noticed that my buddy had a Quran on his shelf.  So I walked over and picked it up.  I opened it up to any random page, and I put my finger on any random verse.”

What happened next blew us both away.  This scruffy looking wannabe rockstar then proceeded to quote a verse from the Quran in English, with no mistakes as if he sat and memorized it.  Or at the very least, it penetrated his heart for him to know it word for word after all these years.  Allah’s words had clearly had an impact on him. We both recognized the verses from Surat al-Kahf.

“Say, ‘Shall We tell you about the greatest losers in respect to their deeds? Those whose efforts have been wasted in this life and who believe nevertheless that they are doing good.’” (Surah Kahf: Ayah 103-104)

He continued, “And that verse just hit me!  I thought, man, what am I doing with my life?  What am I really doing?”  He then continued his story, “Then some time passed, and I went about my life.  And about a year later, I started going through some really tough times again.  So I went back to my buddy’s house and grabbed the Quran off his shelf again.  I opened it to any random page and put my finger down on any random verse,” he said as he gestured opening a book and pointing to it.  “Same exact verse man!!  Same exact verse!”  He then looked up towards the sky and pointed his finger up and said, “I hear ya man.  I hear ya.”  Ahmad and I started laughing at his unexpected story.

We spoke to him for a little bit longer and before we knew it, it was time to get on the ride.  After we said our goodbyes, never to see this man again, Ahmad and I were amused with the whole situation and this man’s story.  We joked about how crazy we thought our whole conversation was.

It wasn’t until later when I thought about our conversation that I felt that there was a lesson to be learned from the rockstar that Allah sent us that hot summer day.  I had to ask myself when was the last time I turned to the Quran when I was going through tough times – taking the opportunity to hear what Allah has to say to me?  I thought to myself, don’t I have as much right to the Quran as he does?  It reminded me of a couple I heard once before:

قُلْ هَلْ نُنَبِّئُكُم بِالْأَخْسَرِينَ أَعْمَالًا -الَّذِينَ ضَلَّ سَعْيُهُمْ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَهُمْ يَحْسَبُونَ أَنَّهُمْ يُحْسِنُونَ صُنْعًا – 

(Al-Quran -Surah Al-Kahf 18 : Ayah 103-104)

“Say, ‘Shall We tell you about the greatest losers in respect to their deeds?  Those whose efforts have been wasted in this life and who believe nevertheless that they are doing good.”


Original Source: Muslim Matters

TIME IS MONEY

Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

A couple of months ago while cleaning, I came across an old file full of my awards and certificates from school. And I remember flipping through them, trying to recollect the memories and events that led to those achievements.

You’ve probably encountered such a moment too, where you’ve uncovered stuff that triggered memories of your hard work and sacrifice. Sometimes those memories are happy. Other times, they are sad..empty…full of regret. Regret for time wasted and effort lost.

But this Dunya is not the only place where we will recollect our past deeds. Allah will cause us to remember on the Day of Judgment too, as He says in Surah an-Naziat:

يَوْمَ يَتَذَكَّرُ الْإِنسَانُ مَا سَعَىٰ
The Day when man will remember that for which he strove [Surah an-Naziat: 35]
SubhanAllah, we will actually remember what we strove for, what we worked hard for, what we sacrificed for…we will observe our deeds…it will all be there.

So here’s an action point for you based on the above ayah:

Do a righteous deed that you wish to remember on the Day of Judgment, a deed between you and Allah. Do something today that will benefit you in the Akhirah, even if it is something small like saying the Dhikr seen below:

And also, ask yourself this everyday before you go to bed:

“What did I strive for today? Was I running in pursuit of the Dunya or in pursuit of the Akhirah (i.e. Jannah)?”

If it was solely for the Dunya, then make an intention to do better and strive for the Akhirah the next day inshaaAllah.


Source:  THEORGANIZEDMUSLIMAH.COM

Culture, Traps or Priorities??

If you want to offload stress in your life, ask one question always:
“Is it nice or necessary?”
Don’t try to impress others. “What will my friends or family think”? Don’t care, priorities of a practicing Muslim is always different. Most important is “to please your Lord”.
Keep in mind, one day we have to stand in front of Him, none will be with us (nor our parents neither our children), none will save us from the trials of that day, none will be answerable to our actions.
Allah SWT intends for our ease. The religion is easy, beautiful and simply perfect. Why make things hard?
We make Halal difficult by tagging it with all luxuries “Dil kai Armaan“, and Halal action becomes Prohibited version. The way of Shaitan that he commands.
Simple example, our weddings, muslims weddings. A very Sad reality of the day. Start with all kind of extravagance, a long shopping list of clothing, functions, guest list, food, then comes bridal grooming. Unfortunately, mothers and sisters, we all don’t realize, why we are paying big amounts of makeovers, hairdo. Women can only adorn herself for her Mahram. But before husband sees, we provide complete entertainment at our cost to all guests, including the person who we hire for PHOTOSHOOT.
Yes, he and his teams see from all angles to the beauty of the bride, isn’t shameful? By this, are we going to seek barakah in this marriage? then some of us come up with the idea of Halal Photoshoot. Female photographer, subhanAllah. Like we know that she ‘ll provide us complete BA_PARDA process. Quran says:
“…Satan has made their deeds pleasing to them and averted them from [His] way, so they are not guided” (Surah An-Naml: 24)
It’s not only about the bride, grooms are also sitting in the same row. They ‘ll avoid gold ring (haram in Islam to wear gold) or silky dress but proudly take the dowry or spend extravagance for the sake of happiness of their bride. The decoration of stage, diamond rings, expensive dress, a vehicle for the wedding, honeymoon plans, and the list goes on.
There is so much to address and practical actions are required for every individual to take. We Ummah is in real bad condition, probably similar or worse than the time of Jahiliyyah!
If you agree what I said, change something in your life and replace it with exact Sunnah of Prophet ﷺ.

Yoga an Exercise or Worship?

“Mama some ladies are on the door, they need to talk to you,” my son called me.

They were two middle-aged ladies. After greeting, they handed me a book and asked me do I pray. I said yes, we pray five times a day. They further asked me about names of God. I said yes there are 99 names of Allah. There is only one God Allah. I said in response to some of their comments. These were some Hindu Missionaries trying to persuade their belief of God as a Father. This non-Profit organization was inviting for Yoga, which is an exercise during which some names are practiced for self-contentment and relief from worldly worries. The conversation started when it was emphasized to convince God is like a father.

Me: God is only one and He is the Creator of all creatures. He is not son or father of anyone as some sets consider Isa (alahi salam) as a son of God.

Indeed, the example of Jesus to Allah is like that of Adam. He created Him from dust; then He said to him, “Be,” and he was. (Surah Al-Imran: 59)

So do not assert similarities to Allah. Indeed, Allah knows and you do not know. (Surah An-Nahl: 74)

Missionary: Oh yes that’s not right considering someone son of God but God is like Father. Me: God is only one. He is the Creator of all creature, He is not son or father of anyone and for Allah is the highest attribute. And He is Exalted in Might, the Wise [1]

Missionary: Yes, this is true that He has no son but He is the Father of all creatures.

Me: Ok see this is my daughter (I pointed to my 6-year-old daughter standing beside me). I eat and she as well. I sleep and she needs to sleep too. She is like me. Kids are like their parents. God does not need anyone for support. He is independent. He does not eat or sleep as we do.

Allah – there is no deity except Him, the Ever-Living, the Sustainer of [all] existence. Neither drowsiness overtakes Him nor sleep. (Surah Al-Baqara-255)

Missionary: Yes but we do have minute characteristics like God.

Me: Yes that’s right. For example one of the names of God is Ar-Raheem. He is most Merciful. He placed mercy in our hearts too. He is all giving Al-Wahhab. We humans do have these attributes too.

There is nothing like unto Him, and He is the Hearing, the Seeing.

(Surah Al-Shu’ra: 11)

Missionary: Still he is like a father. I don’t have parents (One of them said). He is like the father for me. I rely on him for everything.

Me: That’s right, He takes care of us. He provides us but He doesn’t like to be named as the father. We are humans only His creatures. Let’s see this example if there is some celebrity, he has a sweeper, would he like to be related with his sweeper.

Allah presents an example: a slave [who is] owned and unable to do a thing and he to whom We have provided from Us good provision, so he spends from it secretly and publicly. Can they be equal? Praise to Allah ! But most of them do not know. (Surah An-Nahal: 76)

Missionary: (with some uncertainty)…we are only humans, we are like that but God is more than that. (A bit hesitation in saying) but we have some attributes of God. (The other lady said).

Me: If I make a car or Vase, I am the maker of that car. How can I be similar like my manufacture? God made Adam the father of all humans from dust. First, He made his structure then he blew his “spirit “ in that structure.

Who perfected everything which He created and began the creation of man from clay. Then He made his posterity out of the extract of a liquid disdained. Then He proportioned him and breathed into him from His [created] soul and made for you hearing and vision and hearts; little are you grateful.

(Surah As-Sajda: 7-9)

Missionary: So see He blew his spirit in humans…(smiling)

Me: Yes but that was to honor humans. Think about fish. It means Fish has a father too… Missionary: No answer, (but surprised expression)!!

Me: God loves his creature. He provides his creature but He does not like to be associated with His creation such as to be called as He has a son or to be called as a father. If people call Him father out of love, it’s against respect. This allowed people to add others to him. If you Google and see the translation of Chapter Al-Ikhlas of Quran.It explains how God is only one and has not born or nor given birth to anyone.

Missionary: Yes I will do. We are a non-profit organization. We also take in-kind donations for shelter homes. Would you like to give something?

Me: For now I have lots of Apples at home. Would you like to take apples…(I smiled) Missionary: Yes sure.

I gave them a bag of Apple.

Missionary: Oh they are a lot, are you sure (said with bliss and surprise)

Me: Yes of course (smile)

Missionary: Oh thanks a lot. I can’t resist myself giving you another book. What is your good name? (She said in very delight manner and handed me book).

Me: I took the book and said thanks. I also invited them to come in for tea. But they wanted to go to next door.

Our conversation ended up opening a broader understanding of Islam. Things become even more vibrant when paralleled with reverse. It seemed as a message was conveyed and will sure set in hearts because Truth has its own distinctive light. Once it lits up, it illuminates the surrounding at Once.

If some sets consider eccentric names as the name of God and exercise those names and invite others as well. We must aware, Allah SWT has beautiful names. He himself encourages us to call upon him with these names.

And to Allah belong the best names, so invoke Him by them. And leave [the company of] those who practice deviation concerning His names. They will be recompensed for what they have been doing.

(Surah Nuh: 180)

There are now literally tens of forms of yoga, which range from the overtly religious/ spiritual to the entirely secular (only physical exercises, no intoning of Sanskrit chants and such). The most common form is physical, where the focus is on breathing patterns, flexibility, and general health.

In this case, Yoga is placed under the category of mu’aamalaat (general actions) rather than that of ‘ebaadah (worship). Thus, the principle of everything is permissible until proven otherwise kicks into play.

If someone invites to Yoga for spiritual enhancement, be cautious if they are saying some peculiar names during this exercise. They consider these strange names as names of God and consider them as a source of inner tranquility and harmony.
Quran is a marvelous book of Allah SWT. This Book is a source of guidance and light to lighten up our trails in this world. We must have this supplication in our routine to shield our faith from deceptions and illusions.

اللهم ارنا الحق حقاً وارزقنا اتباعه وارنا الباطل باطلا وارزقنا اجتنابه

Allahumma arinal haqqa haqqaw warzuqnat tiba’ah, wa arinal batila batilaw warzuqnaj tinabah

O Allah! show us the truth as true, and inspire us to follow it. Show us falsehood as falsehood, and inspire us to abstain from it.


Written by Binte Abdul Waheed

Source: Quran 

[1] Al-Quran (Surah An-Nahl: 60)

HAFSA BINT UMAR AL-KHATTAB – THE MOTHERS OF BELIEVERS (Part 2)

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In the Name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, All- Merciful

“We are going for dinner tonight”, my sister announced when she called me other night. “My friends are also going along”, she further informed me.

It saddened me for a while. Our Youth is wasting much of their time in having dinners, meals at the restaurant, watching movies, enjoying ice-cream, coffee, having surprise parties, going to the mall for shopping frequently. Is it wrong to enjoy some time out from this tough life? This question can jump up in response to above apprehension. We are allowed to enjoy time with friends, but Islam presents an idea of maintaining balance in every matter. Too much waste of time and resources in entertainment can make us less vibrant.

According to the saying of Prophet ﷺ

A servant of Allah will remain standing on the Day of Judgment till he is questioned, about his age and how he spent it, his knowledge and how he utilized it, his wealth and from where he acquired it, in what activities he spend it (wealth), his body and how he used it”.

(At-Tirmidhi, Hadith 407)

Coming back to our Role Model, Hafsa (RZ), she was 20 years old girl at the time of her marriage. Her habits were growing, being married to Prophet Mohammad ﷺ meant, she was in an institution for her training where her moral behaviors and conduct would be polished. Any angular towards less than decent will be brought to brilliance.

Just like other girls, she also wanted more time of her beloved Husband. Prophet ﷺ would visit his each wife every day after Asr keeping a beautiful balance in his life dealing with Public Issues yet giving adequate time to his own family as well. It was noticed by Hafsa RZ and other wives, for few days he ﷺ was spending more time at Zainab bint Jahsh ‘s Apartment , it was the concern for them due to their love towards him. They came up with a special plan so he ﷺ would not spend more time at Zainab bint Jahash’s Apartment. Hafza Rz was also involved in this plan. One day when Rasoolullahﷺ visited Hafsa Rz and Ayesha RZ one of them said, “It seems you have eaten Magafir (a kind of bad smelling resin), for I smell in you the smell of Maghafir,” .

It was also mentioned by other wives, which concerned him ﷺ more. He ﷺ replied,“No, but I was drinking honey in the house of  Zainab (his other wife- the daughter of Jahsh) and I shall never take it again.”  So he ﷺ decided not to drink it again because of bad smell from his breath due to his clean and pure nature.

He ﷺ is a leader of whole Ummah, this decision of not eating honey ever was rebuked by Allah SWT, as in Surah Tahreem it is said,

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكَ ۖ تَبْتَغِي مَرْضَاتَ أَزْوَاجِكَ ۚ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O Prophet, why do you prohibit [yourself from] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking the approval of your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.

اے پیغمبر جو چیز خدا نے تمہارے لئے جائز کی ہے تم اس سے کنارہ کشی کیوں کرتے ہو؟ (کیا اس سے) اپنی بیویوں کی خوشنودی چاہتے ہو؟ اور خدا بخشنے والا مہربان ہے

(Surah Tahreem 66:1)

It was alarming for all wives, how honest and careful they must be in dealing with the Prophet ﷺ.

During around these days, another incident happened in the life of Hafsa RA, it was a turning point in her life bringing her closer to Allah SWT. The impact was deeper on her as she was going through diverse circumstances and ayaat of Quran were being sent down along with affairs. It was building a very beautiful conscious personality in her. Once Prophet SWT shared a secret with her and emphasized not to mention it to others. Yet having a friendly relationship with Aisha RA who was almost around the age of Hafsa RA, she shared this secret with her. This act of Hafsa RA was notified near Allah SWT, and mentioned in Surah Tahreem.

وَإِذْ أَسَرَّ النَّبِيُّ إِلَىٰ بَعْضِ أَزْوَاجِهِ حَدِيثًا فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَتْ بِهِ وَأَظْهَرَهُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ عَرَّفَ بَعْضَهُ وَأَعْرَضَ عَن بَعْضٍ ۖ فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَهَا بِهِ قَالَتْ مَنْ أَنبَأَكَ هَٰذَا ۖ قَالَ نَبَّأَنِيَ الْعَلِيمُ الْخَبِيرُ

And [remember] when the Prophet confided to one of his wives a statement; and when she informed [another] of it and Allah showed it to him, he made known part of it and ignored a part. And when he informed her about it, she said, “Who told you this?” He said, “I was informed by the Knowing, the Acquainted.”

اور (یاد کرو) جب پیغمبر نے اپنی ایک بی بی سے ایک بھید کی بات کہی تو (اس نے دوسری کو بتا دی)۔ جب اس نے اس کو افشاء کیا اور خدا نے اس (حال) سے پیغمبر کو آگاہ کردیا تو پیغمبر نے ان (بی بی کو وہ بات) کچھ تو بتائی اور کچھ نہ بتائی۔ تو جب وہ ان کو جتائی تو پوچھنے لگیں کہ آپ کو کس نے بتایا؟ انہوں نے کہا کہ مجھے اس نے بتایا ہے جو جاننے والا خبردار ہے

(Surah Tahreem 66:3)

This act of disclosing the secret of Prophetﷺ and plotting against him in the matter of Honey by Aysha RA and Hafsa RA was not ignored but was amended through verses of Quran. Allah SWT knew that they did out of their love, but they were mothers of Believers and required to make it clear, how one should be honest in their dealings.

إِن تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللَّهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا ۖ وَإِن تَظَاهَرَا عَلَيْهِ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ مَوْلَاهُ وَجِبْرِيلُ وَصَالِحُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ۖ وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ ظَهِيرٌ

If you two [wives] repent to Allah , [it is best], for your hearts have deviated. But if you cooperate against him – then indeed Allah is his protector, and Gabriel and the righteous of the believers and the angels, moreover, are [his] assistants.

 اگر تم دونوں خدا کے آگے توبہ کرو (تو بہتر ہے کیونکہ) تمہارے دل کج ہوگئے ہیں۔ اور اگر پیغمبر (کی ایذا) پر باہم اعانت کرو گی تو خدا اور جبریل اور نیک کردار مسلمان ان کے حامی (اور دوستدار) ہیں۔ اور ان کے علاوہ (اور) فرشتے بھی مددگار ہیں

(Surah Tahreem 66:4)

This remarkable incident stands as a lesson for Humanity, how Allah SWT protects his Messengers. A very minute action of beloved wives was taken into consideration near Allah.

This incident presents a lesson for every girl as a wife to have a satisfactory and pure relationship with her husband. If Husband shares any secret to her wife, she should not break her husband’s trust by sharing with her friends or relatives. Another reason for the increase in the divorce rate, which has risen up to 9,000 cases per year in a current decade, is not having a sincere relationship with life partners.

Marriage is the form of bond that Islam motivates to ascertain between spouses. This relationship of a couple is actually the essence of any society. If there is trust, care, and reliance in this correlation, it will transfer in children as well.

Another quality of Hafsa RA was that she had great bonding with other wives of Prophet ﷺ.  In the Beginning, Aisha RA was afraid if Hafsa being of same age group, as hers will take her place in the heart of Prophet Mohammad ﷺ. It was natural jealousy that every woman can feel towards her husband. Umar bin Al-Khattab RA, the father of Hafsa  knew very well about Prophet ﷺ loved Aisha RA more than other wives. He often mentioned this fact to Hafsa RA. Once he said to her, “You are not like Aisha and your father is not like her father.”  Here we see the role of a father who taught his daughter to be realistic and patient.

Sooner after a while, Aisha RA and Hafsa had a very good friendship. It was her inner beauty, how she earned her space in her husband’s household with good characteristics .The positive guidance from her parents cannot be ignored as well.

Umar RA was also aware of his daughter’s tough behavior at times. Once Prophetﷺ divorced Hafsa RA but soon after took her back. Allah SWT sent the angel Jibreel AS ,

” Take Hafsa back as she is keeping fasts and is observing prayers in the last part of night, and she is going to be your wife in Paradise.”

It was an honor for Hafsa RA , as her virtues were acknowledged through an angel from Allah SWT.

Her personality, sincerity, and devotion towards Ibadan and being among those who seek forgiveness in the night when others sleep, rank her on the higher status and set her as a Role Model for the daughters of Ummah.

The instance of divorce and tougness in the attitude does not lower Hafsa’s significance and prestige being a Mother of Believers but instead, it underlines her personality of being naturally firm but flexible when it comes to turning back and repent.

Let’s take a pause here and reflect. A married life is like a journey where on the way one confronts many passages, which can be narrow or broader. The strong and pure relationship with Allah, being pure and honest from inside will help to go through hard passages in life smoothly. Hafsa RA was somewhat demanding and strong by nature it could be an effect of her name or being the daughter of Umar RA, it was possible that she had attributes of her father. Every human is born with some traits by nature. We have to deal with these traits to bring them in the moderate level, which needs extreme effort. She did input her efforts not to let this happen again.

They were humans and were going through same circumstances as others but their ways of dealing these situations were magnificent and fabulous. They were flexible and modest, and reason was their full trust and faith in Allah.

Hafsa RA memorized whole Quran. She was a confident lady when it’s about knowledge. She used to ask questions to quench her thirst for knowledge. Once during a sitting with her, Prophet ﷺ said, “All the people who had given the pledged of allegiance at Hudaybiya under the tree would go to paradise , not to Hell.” 

Hafza RA asked how is this possible and mentioned ayah of Surah Maryam,

وَإِن مِّنكُمْ إِلَّا وَارِدُهَا ۚ كَانَ عَلَىٰ رَبِّكَ حَتْمًا مَّقْضِيًّا

There is not one of you but will pass over it (Hell).”

اور تم میں کوئی (شخص) نہیں مگر اسے اس پر گزرنا ہوگا۔ یہ تمہارے پروردگار پر لازم اور مقرر ہے

(Surah Maryam: 71)

In response to her dialogue, Prophetﷺ removed her confusion and read next ayah from the same surah, that says,

ثُمَّ نُنَجِّي الَّذِينَ اتَّقَوا وَّنَذَرُ الظَّالِمِينَ فِيهَا جِثِيًّا

Then We will save those who feared Allah and leave the wrongdoers within it, on their knees.

پھر ہم پرہیزگاروں کو نجات دیں گے۔ اور ظالموں کو اس میں گھٹنوں کے بل پڑا ہوا چھوڑ دیں گے

(Surah Maryam: 72)

Hafsa RA was a wonderful wife and an obedient daughter. Umar RA would often consult her matters regarding women. Once after the death of Prophet ﷺ, during the time of his Khilafah, he needed to issue a decree about warriors for how long they should be away from their wives. He asked Hafsa RA , for how long a women may remain without her husband. She wisely responded 6 months. Upon this, Umar RA issued a law to his Commanders to relieve soldiers after every 6 month to return home to spend quality time with their households.

She lived around 32 years after Prophet’sﷺ death. She was known for her memorization of and preservation of Quran. She was chosen as a Custodian of an original copy of Quran, that was compiled by Zaid ibn Thabit under the order of the first Caliph Abu Bakr RA. It was her house where revealed verses of Quran written on palm branches, slates and other materials were kept. People would visit her place to see these original copies of Quranic Verses.

When the second compilation of Quran was made during the Caliphate of Uthman, the original copies of verses were used as a primary source. She was an excellent reciter and writer. She was among those rare people in that time who were able to write. She also, narrated around 60 hadith from Prophet ﷺ. She completed her Journey of life at the age when she was about 61 years old. She was in the state of fasting at the time of death. I can feel the warmth of her love, she was my mother, our mother, and the family of our beloved Prophet ﷺ. A family that was purified by Allah himself. The desire to be with this beautiful family is a dream that can come true by following their legacy and having love and respect for them in our hearts.

It’s time to move on to next door to visit our Mother Umm-e-Salama RA. I am sure her door will be wide open for us to learn and benefit ourselves more and more……
Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with her (RA)” each time with Hafsa’s RA name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.

Compiled by Binte Abdul Waheed

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HAFSA BINT UMAR AL-KHATTAB – THE MOTHERS OF BELIEVERS (Part 1)

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In the Name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, All- Merciful

Areesh!! don’t speak loud,” I said to my 6-year daughter who was being loud with her 2-year younger brother. While cooking in Kitchen, I was thinking how delicate and sweet these daughters feel to heart.

I was thinking about Aisha RA who got this huge blessing to have the company of Prophet Mohammad ﷺ in very young age. How beautifully heﷺ taught her manners while she was a little girl that later grew up as one of the famous and well-known scholar of Islam. So many lessons especially for parents of young girls. It leaves a deep mark to help their child to enhance their inner personality skills with care, affection, and wisdom.

1d77809c8b11a6b84f4f2c56a52d7ee4 My mind was strolling in Makkah and Madina, in the days when Mother of Believers Hafsa bint Umar; the daughter of 2nd Caliph of Islam Umar ibn-al-Khattab and Zaynab bint Madhun was born. She was born 5 years before Prophethood. The leaders of Quraysh were having conflict over the black stone to fix in its spot after Kaba was rebuilt due to Flood. To solve this Issue, it was decided to allow the Person who will enter first in Kaba would have the honor to carry the stone to its place. The first person that entered in Kaba was Prophet Mohammad ﷺ. He ﷺ presented a unique idea to solve this issue allowing all leaders to carry the corners of the sheet carrying the stone to its place. Then he ﷺ carried and put the stone in its place with his hands. It was a very wise decision, which surprised everyone in Makkah. It was the time when prophethood was blooming and people could feel its fragrance around. These were the days when Hafsa bint Umar was born. Hafsa bint Umar’s birth happened in the times when the birth of a daughter would distress parents. It would consider as a disgrace for Family. As Quran says,

وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُم بِالْأُنثَىٰ ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ

And when one of them is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face becomes dark, and he suppresses grief.

 [Surah An-Nahl: 58]

Since Islam has not emerged at that time, Umar Ibn-al-Khattab was restless with the birth of his daughter. Later in future, it proved if daughters are raised with care, provided with the best education and manners, they could make a difference in society.

Looking back in the history, it was Dhul-Hijah, the last month of the 6th year of Prophethood, when her life took a main turn towards its origin. She was a young girl of around 10 years old. These were the days when her father, Umar ibn al-Khattab accepted Islam who was considered as one of the biggest opposition of Islam. Prophet Mohammad (saw) asked Allah SWT to strengthen Islam with either Umar ibn al-Khattab or Abu Jahl bin Hisham. Allah SWT accepted his prophet’s dua and blessed Umar ibn al-Khattab with the light of Iman.

Abdullah Ibn Abbas Rady Allahu Anhu reported the Prophet was saying,

“O Allah, strengthen Islam with Abu Jahl bin Hisham, or with Umar bin al-Khattab”. In the morning, Sayyidina ‘Umar Rady Allahu Anhu went to the Prophet and accepted Islam; then prayed openly in the mosque.

(Ahmad and Tirmidhi)

Hafsa’s aunt Fatima bint al-Khattab and her Husband Sa’id bin Zayd has already accepted Islam. She was growing up in the environment where she could hear the whispers of revelations around her. She had strong, brave, confident personality like her name (Hafs in Arabic means lion) having shades of her Father whose conversion became a super source of new Strength for new Muslims. Till now muslims were hiding their Faith and were not able to worship openly. Now Islam has appeared boldly. Muslims were able to pray openly in Kaaba. Hafsah RA was going through these phases of emerging Islam. The Importance of Faith had begun to develop in her roots.

Is it still possible to develop this Importance of faith in our Generations too? Especially when it’s the time of X-Box, Ps3, iPod and such Androids in which our children have developed their interests. The answer is YES, it is possible if we as parents began to practice Islam and connect them with their main roots introducing them History of Islam. Tell your child the stories of Companions of Prophet Mohammad ﷺ. Use these gadgets, as a tool in knowing of their religion from an early age, will surely develop their strong relationship with Islam. They need motivations these real personalities can easily become their role models.

I can imagine Hafsa RA, a teenager getting married to Khunais (RA) bin Hazafa Sahmi. He was also a brave man who made a difference in the events of Islam. It was the time when Pagans in Makkah were targeting muslims. It pushed many of them to migrate Abyssinia. Hafsa and her husband also migrated where Khunais (RA) could not get along with Abyssinia’s different climate and environment and decided to return Makkah. Since Muslims were still going through extreme opposition in Makkah. Khunais and Hafsa now migrated to Madina where they were welcomed by Rafa’s bin Abdul Munthir and stayed at his place as his guests. Hafsa was going through difficult times as traveling back and forth and facing opposition to save one’s faith was a big task. Hafsa was facing all these tribulations during her Youth.

Allah SWT said the believers upon their arrival at Madina, to be patient, forgiving until He brought His awaited support.

 وَإِن تَصْبِرُوا وَتَتَّقُوا فَإِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ مِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ

“ but if you persevere patiently, and have Taqwa, then verily, that will be a determining factor in all affairs.”

 [Surah Ale-Imran: 186]

Such Quranic Verses were also peaceful for Hafsa RA against such suffering from opposition and migration.

Another amazing perspective of her personality that appears in this age strikes one’s heart. All these issues with life had not kept Hafsa (RA) from Learning. She was a very intelligent girl with an excellent memory. She managed to learn each new verse that was coming down through revelation those days. She was not only memorizing Quran but pondering over it too, which helped to build her character with great attributes.

Sadly, nowadays it has been considered that youth is for fun and enjoyment only. The majority tends to postpone learning knowledge of Deen for future years to come. Here we see Hafsa RA had wisely used peak time of her. Adolescence is the time to explore one’s inner and outer world. A real education of minors must start with “why” questions and then begin to help young people develop their own identity, sense of purpose, and understanding of the world and their place in it.

We can see later, how this hard work and effort of Hafsa RA will be adorned by Allah SWT by blessing her with incomparable Honor of being Mother of Ummah.

The Khunais (RA) fulfilled his duty as a devoted believer during the Battle of Badar and fought against enemies to defend the believers. He could not recover from serious injuries during the war and died few days after Battle of Badar. Hafsa showed extreme care for her husband during his illness and remained calm on his death. Instead of complaining her fate or going in the phase of depression, she held on to the patience and intensified her relationship with the Creator. She began to spend more time in Ibadah. Her devotion to the Ibadah helped to come out of this huge pain.

الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَتَطْمَئِنُّ قُلُوبُهُم بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ ۗ أَلَا بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ

Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.”

(Surah Ar-Ra’ad : 28)

The remembrance of Allah was slowly removing the traces of the distress from her heart. However, for her father, it was very painful to see his young daughter at the age of 19 to be a widow. Her silent courage under these circumstances, her patient prayers and her study of the Quran brightened her countenance with a spiritual beauty and innocence, but there was also sadness because of the harsh loneliness that had become part of her life.

[1] After deep thought ‘Umar RA decided to approach ‘Uthman bin Affan, whose wife Ruqayyah the Prophet’s daughter, had passed away. He thought that sharing a common bond would help to alleviate their sorrow in losing worthy spouses. But he refused that he presently was not planning on marriage. From there he went to Abu Bakr Siddiq and offered him his daughter in marriage. He too lowered his gaze and did not answer him.

In the distress when Umar RA complained about the strange behavior of his beloved friends Abu Bakar and Uthman ibn Affan to Prophet ﷺ. He ﷺ smiled and said,

“Hafsa will marry one better than Uthman and Uthman will marry one better than Hafsa.” [2]

After every night there appears the bright day. This day turned out to be brighter than ever. Allah SWT gifted Hafsa (RA) with the companionship of his beloved Prophet. The marriage was taken place in the 3rd year of migration after the 6 months of Khunais (RA) death. Hafsa RA was 20 years old at the time of her 2nd marriage.

The family of Umar ibn-al-Khattab was honored by having ties with Prophet and Umar Ib-al Khattab could not even imagine that he ﷺ himself will marry his daughter.

[1] After the marriage, Abu Bakr Siddiq RA met with Umar RA and told him the truth, which was that the Prophet ﷺ had mentioned to him that he planned to marry Hafsa RA. That was the reason he had remained silent, as it would not have been proper to betray his confidence. If matters were different he would have been only too happy to accept her hand in marriage. Umar RA open-heartedly accepted his reason.

Allah SWT has promised that He will test each of us, whether we remain grateful or ungrateful, and whoever is grateful truly, his gratitude is for himself; and whoever is ungrateful, it is for the loss of only himself.

TO BE CONTINUED ………………

 

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with her (RA)” each time with Hafsa’s RA name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


Compiled by Binte Abdul Waheed

References:

 

HUDHAYFAH IBN AL-YAMAAN

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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

“If you wish you may consider yourself among the Muhajirin or, if you wish, you may consider yourself one of the Ansar. Choose whichever is dearer to you.”

With these words, the Prophetﷺ addressed Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan when he met him for the first time in Makkah. How did Hudhayfah come to have this choice?

Name and Lineage:

His full name was حذيفة بن اليمان العبسي الغطفاني القيسي Hudhayfah bin Al-Yamaan Al-Absi Al-Aghutfaani Al-Qaysi. His father, حسيل بن جابر بن عمرو الیمان Husail Bin Jabir Bin Amr Al-Yamaan  was a Makkan from the tribe of Abs. He  had been forced to leave Makkah. He had settled down in Madina, becoming an ally (halif) of the Banu Al-Ash’hal and marrying into the tribe (حليف لبني عبد الأشهل من الأنصار). A son named Hudhayfah was born to him. The restrictions on his returning to Makkah were eventually lifted  but stayed more in Madina and was more attached to it.

He born in Makkah and grew up in a Muslim household and was taught by both his mother and father who were among the first persons from Madina to enter the religion of Islam. He, therefore, became a Muslim before meeting the Prophet ﷺ .

Hudhayfah longed to meet the Prophetﷺ. From an early age, he was keen on following whatever news there was about him. The more he heard, the more his affection for the Prophetﷺ grew and the more he longed to meet him.

First Battle:

At Madinah, after the Hijrah, Hudhayfah became closely attached to the Prophet. He participated in all the military engagements except Badr. Explaining why he missed the Battle of Badr, he said

حُذَيْفَةُ بْنُ الْيَمَانِ قَالَ مَا مَنَعَنِى أَنْ أَشْهَدَ بَدْرًا إِلاَّ أَنِّى خَرَجْتُ أَنَا وَأَبِى(حُسَيْلٌ) قَالَ فَأَخَذَنَا كُفَّارُ قُرَيْشٍ قَالُوا إِنَّكُمْ تُرِيدُونَ مُحَمَّدًا فَقُلْنَا مَا نُرِيدُهُ مَا نُرِيدُ إِلاَّ الْمَدِينَةَ. فَأَخَذُوا مِنَّا عَهْدَ اللَّهِ وَمِيثَاقَهُ لَنَنْصَرِفَنَّ إِلَى الْمَدِينَةِ وَلاَ نُقَاتِلُ مَعَهُ فَأَتَيْنَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَخْبَرْنَاهُ الْخَبَرَ فَقَالَ انْصَرِفَا نَفِى لَهُمْ بِعَهْدِهِمْ وَنَسْتَعِينُ اللَّهَ عَلَيْهِم

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It has been reported on the authority of Hudbaifa bin Al-Yamaan who said: Nothing prevented me from being present at the Battle of Badr except I was out with my father [Husail], but we were caught by the disbelievers of Quraish. They said: (Do) you intend to go to Muhammad? We said: We do not intend to go to him, but we wish to go (back) to Madina. So they took from us a covenant in the name of Allah that we would turn back to Madina and would not fight on the side of Muhammad ﷺ. So, we came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and told the incident to him. He said: Both, of you, go back (to Medina); we will fulfill the covenant made with them and seek Allah’s help against them.

His father’s martyrdom in Uhud:

Hudhayfah participated in the Battle of Uhud with his father. The pressure on Hudhayfah during the battle was great but he acquitted himself well and emerged safe and sound. A rather different fate, however, awaited his father.

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ لَمَّا كَانَ يَوْمُ أُحُدٍ هُزِمَ الْمُشْرِكُونَ هَزِيمَةً بَيِّنَةً فَصَاحَ إِبْلِيسُ أَيْ عِبَادَ اللَّهِ أُخْرَاكُمْ فَرَجَعَتْ أُولَاهُمْ عَلَى أُخْرَاهُمْ فَاجْتَلَدَتْ أُخْرَاهُمْ فَنَظَرَ حُذَيْفَةُ فَإِذَا هُوَ بِأَبِيهِ فَنَادَى أَيْ عِبَادَ اللَّهِ أَبِي أَبِي فَقَالَتْ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا احْتَجَزُوا حَتَّى قَتَلُوهُ فَقَالَ حُذَيْفَةُ غَفَرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ قَالَ أَبِي فَوَاللَّهِ مَا زَالَتْ فِي حُذَيْفَةَ مِنْهَا بَقِيَّةُ خَيْرٍ حَتَّى لَقِيَا اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ

Narrated `Aisha: On the day of the battle of Uhud when the pagans were defeated completely. Then Satan shouted loudly, “O Allah’s slaves! Beware the ones behind you!” So the front files turned back and started to kill them. Then Hudhaifa looked and saw his father, and said loudly, “O Allah’s slaves! My father! My father!” By Allah, they did not stop till they killed him (i.e. Hudaifa’s father). Hudhaifa (only) said, “May Allah forgive you!”

The sub-narrator ( Hisham’s father `Urwa) said, “By Allah, “Hudhaifa continued to say the good words Allah ( for the killers of his father) till he met Allah Azza wa Jalla.

مجھ سے اسماعیل بن خلیل نے بیان کیا ، کہا ہم سے سلمہ بن رجاء نے ، انہیں ہشام بن عروہ نے ، انہیں ان کے والد نے اور ان سے عائشہ رضی اللہ عنہا نے بیان کیا کہ احدکی لڑائی میں جب مشرکین ہارچکے تو ابلیس نے چلا کر کہا اے اللہ کے بندو ! پیچھے والوں کو ( قتل کرو ) چنانچہ آگے کے مسلمان پیچھے والوں پر پل پڑے اور انہیں قتل کرنا شروع کر دیا ، حذیفہ رضی اللہ عنہ نے جو دیکھا تو ان کے والد ( یمان رضی اللہ عنہ بھی وہیں موجود تھے انہوں نے پکار کر کہا اے اللہ کے بندو یہ تو میرے والد ہیں میرے والد ! عائشہ رضی اللہ عنہا نے بیان کیا اللہ کی قسم ! اس وقت تک لوگ وہاں سے نہیں ہٹے جب تک انہیں قتل نہ کر لیا ، حذیفہ رضی اللہ عنہ نے صرف اتنا کہا اللہ تمہاری مغفرت کرے ، ( ہشام نے بیان کیا کہ ) اللہ کی قسم ! حذیفہ رضی اللہ عنہ برابر یہ کلمہ دعائیہ کہتے رہے ( کہ اللہ ان کے والد پر حملہ کرنے والوں کو بخشے جو کہ محض غلط فہمی کی وجہ سے یہ حرکت کربیٹھے ) یہ دعا مرتے دم تک کرتے رہے ۔

(Sahih al-Bukhari 3824)

There was so much chaos after the mushrikin returned to the battlefield. And like it is said once the wheel starts rolling it is difficult to stop it, the muslims attacked Hudhayfahs father by accident and even though Hudhayfah stopped them, they did not.  The old man fell, killed in error by the swords of his own brothers in faith. They were filled with pain and remorse. Grieved as he was, Hudhayfah said to them: “May Allah forgive you for He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy.”It was a mistake, he forgave them and asked Allah to forgive them also! When we forgive others, we unburden ourselves actually.

Because of this attitude, Hudhayfah’s stature grew in the eyes of the Prophetﷺ.

His character and Noble qualities:

Hudhayfah had three qualities which particularly impressed the Prophet ﷺ; his unique intelligence which he employed in dealing with difficult situations; his quick-wittedness and spontaneous response to the call of action, and his ability to keep a secret even under persistent questioning.

Nothing was hidden in his life nor in his inner self. He was truthful and trustworthy. He liked the strong in righteousness and detested those who were not straightforward, i.e. the hypocrites and deceivers.

His role in Khandaq (Battle of Trench) and his Intelligence:

A noticeable way of the Prophet ﷺ was to bring out and use the special qualities and strengths of each individual companion of his. In deploying his companions, he was careful to choose the right man for the right task. This he did to excellent advantage in the case of Hudhayfah.

One of the most testing occasions, which required the use of Hudhayfah’s intelligence and his presence of mind, was during the Battle of the Trench. The Muslims on that occasion were surrounded by enemies. The siege they had been placed under had dragged on. The Muslims were undergoing severe hardship and difficulties. They had expended practically all their effort and were utterly exhausted. So intense was the strain that some even began to despair.

The Quraysh and their allies, meanwhile, were not much better off. Their strength and determination had been sapped. A violent wind overturned their tents, extinguished their fires and pelted their faces and eyes with gusts of sand and dust.

In such decisive moments in the history of warfare, the side that loses is the one that despairs first and the one that wins is the one that holds out longer. The role of army intelligence in such situations often proves to be a crucial factor in determining the outcome of the battle.

At this stage of the confrontation, the Prophet ﷺ felt he could use the special talents and experience of Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan. He decided to send Hudhayfah into the midst of the enemy’s positions under cover of darkness to bring him the latest information on their situation and morale before he decided on his next move.

Let us now leave Hudhayfah to relate what happened on this mission fraught with danger and even death.

۔۔۔۔ رَأَيْتُنَا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِالْخَنْدَقِ وَصَلَّى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مِنْ اللَّيْلِ هَوِيٍّا ثُمَّ الْتَفَتَ إِلَيْنَا فَقَالَ مَنْ رَجُلٌ يَقُومُ فَيَنْظُرَ لَنَا مَا فَعَلَ الْقَوْمُ يَشْتَرِطُ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنَّهُ يَرْجِعُ أَدْخَلَهُ اللَّهُ الْجَنَّةَ فَمَا قَامَ رَجُلٌ ثُمَّ صَلَّى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلمهَوِيٍّا مِنْ اللَّيْلِ ثُمَّ الْتَفَتَ إِلَيْنَا فَقَالَ مَنْ رَجُلٌ يَقُومُ فَيَنْظُرَ لَنَا مَا فَعَلَ الْقَوْمُ ثُمَّ يَرْجِعُ يَشْرِطُ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم الرَّجْعَةَ أَسْأَلُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يَكُونَ رَفِيقِي فِي الْجَنَّةِ فَمَا قَامَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ الْقَوْمِ مَعَ شِدَّةِ الْخَوْفِ وَشِدَّةِ الْجُوعِ وَشِدَّةِ الْبَرْدِ فَلَمَّا لَمْ يَقُمْ أَحَدٌ دَعَانِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلمفَلَمْ يَكُنْ لِي بُدٌّ مِنْ الْقِيَامِ حِينَ دَعَانِي فَقَالَ يَا حُذَيْفَةُ فَاذْهَبْ فَادْخُلْ فِيُ الْقَوْمِ فَانْظُرْ مَا يَفْعَلُونَ وَلَا تُحْدِثَنَّ شَيْئًا حَتَّى تَأْتِيَنَا قَالَ فَذَهَبْتُ

[23334:مسنداحمد]

Hudhayfa b. Yamaan reported, we saw in Khandaq, that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ lead the people in Isha prayer late in the darkness of the night, he then turned to us and said, Who is it that will get up and go see what the people (enemy) are doing? Whoever it is will return and the Prophet ﷺ promised his safe return. (And said) Allah will make him enter paradise. But no one got up. After some part of the night had passed, the Prophet ﷺ again lead the people in prayer and turned towards us and asked, Who is it that will get up and go and see what the people are doing? He will return, and the Prophet ﷺ promised his safe return. (And said) I ask Allah that this person should be my close companion in Paradise.

But no one got up out of extreme fear, hunger, and severe cold. When nobody got up, the Prophet ﷺ called me. At that time I had no choice but to get up. He ﷺ said, O Hudhayfah! Go and see the situation of the enemy, and do nothing else until you return to me. So I went.

 This does not mean that the Iman of other Sahabah was not there. They were human, sometimes things are very tough, and we think others may be able to do the work better.

What happened to Hudhaifah that night was amazing. He covered the distance between the two armies and penetrated the surrounding enemy camp of the Quraish. A violent wind had put out the camp’s fires, so the place was enveloped in darkness. Hudhaifah took his place amidst the lines of the fighters. The leader of the Quraish, Abu Sufyaan, was afraid that darkness might surprise them with scouts from the Muslim camp. He stood to warn his army, and Hudhaifah heard his loud voice saying,

“O people of the Quraish, each one of you should know who is sitting next to him and should know his name.” Hudhaifah reports, “I hastened to the hand of the man next to me, and said to him, Who are you?

He said, `Such and such a person!'”

He therefore secured his being with the army in peace! Abu Sufyaan resumed his talk to the army, saying,

“O people of the Quraish, by Allah, you are not in a place to settle. The horses and the camels are exhausted. The tribe of Bani Quraidah has reneged on us and we learned about them what we hate, and we suffer from the violent wind as you see. No food can be cooked, no fire can blaze for us, and no structure can hold. You have to leave, for I am leaving.” He then mounted his camel and started moving, followed by the fighters.

Hudhaifah then returned to the Messenger ﷺ and gave him the information and happy news.

Most Knowledgeable regarding the times of Trial:

Hudhayfah lived in constant dread of evil and corrupting influences. He felt that goodness and the sources of good in this life were easy to recognize for those who desired good. But it was evil that was deceptive and often difficult to perceive and combat.

عن أَبی إِدْرِيس الْخَوْلَانِيُّ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ حُذَيْفَةَ بْنَ الْيَمَانِ يَقُولُ كَانَ النَّاسُ يَسْأَلُونَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَنْ الْخَيْر  وَكُنْتُ أَسْأَلُهُ عَنْ الشَّرِّ مَخَافَةَ أَنْ يُدْرِكَنِي

Abu Idrees Khawlani narrated that he heared Hudhaifa bin Al-Yamaan, he used to say: The people used to ask Allah’s Messenger ﷺ about good, but I used to ask him about evil for fear that it might overtake me.

 [Sahih Al-Bukhari : 3606]

قال حذيفة :قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لَيَأتِيَنَّ على أمتي زمانٌ يتمنون فيه الدجال. قلتُ : يا رسول الله بأبي و أمي! مِمَّ ذَاكَ ؟!

[قال مما يَلْقونَ من العناء أوالضنا [ السلسلة الصحيحة :3090 

The Prophet ﷺ said, A time will come for my Ummah that they will wish for Dajjal. Hudhayfah asked, may my mother and father be sacrificed, why is that so? He said, because of difficulties and diseases.

Hudhayfah lbn Al-Yamaan lived open- eyed and insightful with regards to temptations and the paths of evil so that he might avoid them and warn people of them. This gave him insight of the world, experience with people, and knowledge of the times. He would contemplate matters in his mind as a philosopher would and with the sound judgment of a wise man.

The secret keeper of the Prophet ﷺ:

One of the gravest problems the Muslims of Madinah had to face was the existence in their midst of hypocrites (munafiqun) particularly from among the Jews and their allies. Although many of them had declared their acceptance of Islam, the change was only superficial and they continued to plot and intrigue against the Prophet and the Muslims.

Because of Hudhayfah’s ability to keep a secret, the Prophet ﷺ confided in him the names of the munafiqin. It was a weighty secret which the Prophet ﷺ did not disclose to any other of his companions. He gave Hudhayfah the task of watching the movements of the hypocrites, following their activities and shielding the Muslims from the sinister danger they represented. It was a tremendous responsibility. The hypocrites, because they acted in secrecy and because they knew all the developments and plans of the Muslims from within presented a greater threat to the community than the outright hostility of the kuffar.

From this time onwards. Hudhayfah was called “The Keeper of the Secret of the Messenger of Allah“. Throughout his life, he remained faithful to his pledge not to disclose the names of the hypocrites. After the death of the Prophet ﷺ, the Khalifah Umar RA often came- to him to seek his advice concerning their movements and activities but he remained tight-lipped and cautious.

وهو صاحب سر رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم في المنافقين ، لم يعلمهم أحد إلا حذيفة ؛ أعلمه بهم رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، وسأله عمر : أفي عمالي أحد من المنافقين ؟ قال : نعم ، واحد . قال : من هو ؟ قال : لا أذكرہ۔۔۔۔۔

He was the secret keeper of the Prophet ﷺ regarding the hypocrites. None knew them except Hudhayfah, and the Prophet ﷺ had told him about them. Umar RA asked him, Are any of my workers of the hypocrites? Hudhayfah replied yes, one of them. Umar asked, who is he? Hudhayfah said I will not tell you.

وكان عمر إذا مات رجل يسأل عن حذيفة ، فإن حضر الصلاة عليه صلى عليه عمر ، وإن لم يحضر حذيفة الصلاة عليه لم يحضر عمر.

[اسلام سوال جواب]

Whenever someone would pass away, Umar would enquire about Hudhayfah RA, if he participated in the janazah, Umar RA would also participate, and if Hudhayfah RA  did not participate, then Umar would not do so either.

There are few lessons for us to learn from Hudhyfah’s gentle character.

  • Do not discuss the corruption of others. It is concealed, let it remain concealed. Talk about good things, not the faults of others. If you talk about other’s good qualities, what will be the impact? There will be Motivation to do good.
  • Develop positive thinking. And if we choose to talk about other’s faults, what will be the impact? Horrible. Negative.
  • Also, it will be considered as backbiting (Gheebah) that is like eating the flesh of the dead – there will be negativity, uneasiness. So no matter what gathering you are in – phone, WhatsApp, living room, etc.  Always speak well.

His Eminence:

The Prophet’s ﷺ prayer for his forgiveness and for his mother:

عن حذيفة بن اليمان قال أتيت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فصليت معه المغرب ، فلما فرغ صلى فلم يزل يصلي حتى صلى العشاء ثم خرج ، فتبعته ، قال : من هذا ؟ قلت حذيفة قال اللهم اغفر لحذيفة و لأمه

 [۲۵:السلسلة الصحيحة]

Hudhayfah RA narrated: I came to the Prophet ﷺ and prayed Maghrib with him. After salah the Prophet ﷺ began praying until it was Isha time. When the Prophet ﷺ ended the prayer and left, Hudhayfah said I followed him. The Prophet ﷺ asked, Who is it? [It was dark] He said, Hudhayfah. The Prophet ﷺ said, O Allah forgive Hudhayfah and his mother.

He did not disturb Prophet ﷺ in his prayer, waited for him to finish his Ibadah. When we see people praying, doing dhikr then let them complete it, if we stand in front of them and let them know we are waiting, they won’t be able to do it properly. Also, we should adopt the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ by supplicating for others in their presence or in their absence. Every time one makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: `Ameen!

Also, we should adopt the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ by supplicating for others in their presence or in their absence. Every time one makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says Ameen!

His status near Umar RA:

عن عمر رضي الله عنه أنه قال لأصحابه تمنوا فقال بعضهم أتمنى لو أن هذه الدار مملوءة ذهبا أنفقه في سبيل الله وأتصدق وقال رجل أتمنى لو أنها مملوءة زبرجدا وجوهرا فأنفقة في سبيل الله وأتصدق ثم قال عمر تمنوا فقالوا ما ندري يا أمير المؤمنين فقال عمر أتمنى لو أنها مملوءة رجالا مثل أبي عبيدة بن الجراح ومعاذ بن جبل وسالم مولى أبي حذيفة وحذيفة بن اليمان [مستدرک حاکم: 5005 ] ‘اسناده حسن

Once Umar RA was sitting with his companions and said, what do you wish for? One said I wish this house was full of gold so I could spend it in the way of Allah and give it in charity. Another said, I wish this house was filled with precious stones, so I could spend that in the way of Allah and give in charity. Umar asked, what else do you wish for? They said we do not know O Leader of the believers. Umar said, I wish this house was filled with men like Abu Ubaydah, Muadh bin Jabal and Salim Mawla of Abu Hudhayfah and Hudhayfah bin Yamaan, (so I would use them in Allah’s way).

Hudhayfah was made governor of important places like Kufa and Ctesiphon (al-Madain). When the news of his appointment as governor of Ctesiphon reached its inhabitants, crowds went out to meet and greet this famous companion of the Prophet of whose piety and righteousness they had heard so much. His great role in the conquests of Persia was already a legend.

As the welcoming party waited, a lean, somewhat scrawny man with dangling feet astride a donkey approached. In his hand, he held a loaf of bread and some salt and he ate as he went along. When the rider was already in their midst they realized that he was Hudhayfah, the governor for whom they were waiting. They could not contain their surprise. What manner of man was this! They could, however, be excused for not recognizing him for they were used to the style, the pomp and the grandeur of Persian rulers.

Hudhayfah carried on and people crowded around him. He saw they were expecting him to speak and he cast a searching look at their faces. Eventually, he said: “Beware of places of fitnah and intrigue.” “And what,” they asked, “are places of intrigue?” He replied: “The doors of the rulers where some people go and try to make the ruler or governor believe lies and praise him for (qualities) he does not possess.”

With these words, the people were prepared for what to expect from their new governor. They knew at once that there was nothing in the world that he disliked more than hypocrisy.

Death:

One day in the year A.H. 36 in Mada’in, he was called to meet his Lord. While he was getting ready for the last journey, some of his companions came to see him. He asked them, “Have you brought a shroud with you?” They said, “Yes.” He said, “Show it to me.” When he saw it, he found it was new and too long. One last sarcastic grin was drawn on his lips, and he said, “This is not a shroud for me. Two white wraps without a shirt are sufficient for me. I will not be left in the grave for a long time, but will be offered a better place or a worse one!

He then murmured a few words which, when they listened to them, they discerned the following: “Welcome O death! A dear thing coming after longing. The one who repents now prospers not.”

One of the best human souls was raised to Allah, one the most pious, illuminating, and humble spirits

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with him (R.A)” each time with Hudhayfah Ibn Al-Yamaan R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


 References:

  • Based on Notes and Lecture of Ustadhza Farhat Hashmi “Sahih Bukhari – Kitab ul Munaqib
  • Men around the Prophet ﷺ By Khalid Muhammad Khalid
  • Hayat e Sahaba Kai Darkhshan Phelu by Mahmood Ahmed Ghazanfar

     
     

AMMAR BIN YASIR رَضِی اللہُ عَنھُما

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In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

One of the companions who has several narrated merits pertaining to his faith, personality and resilience are ‘Ammar bin Yasir raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him). Ammar bin Yasir (radiyallahuan’huma) is one of the most famous Sahaba and was among the slaves freed by Abu Bakr RA. Ammar belonged to Banu Makhzum tribe and born in Makkah. His father, Yasir ibn Amir, was from the tribe of Qahtan in Yemen and migrated to Makkah and settled down there by marrying Sumayyah bint Khayyat, a slave woman; Ammar and his parents, Yasir and Sumayyah, were slaves to Abu Huzaifa, but upon his death, Abu Jahl -who became later one of Islam’s most brutal enemies, took them over as his slaves.

Abu Jahl killed his mother Sumayyah RA and she became the first martyr in the cause of Islam. There was none among the Immigrants whose mother and father had embraced Islam except for Ammar bin Yasir.

Name and Lineage:

 His full name was  Ammar bin Yasir Al-Aansi Al-Muzhaji  ﻋمار ﺑﻦ ﻳﺎﴎ اﻟﻌﻨسی المذﺣﺠﻲ . His Kunya was Abu al-Yaqzan اﺑﻮ اﻟﯿﻘﻈﺎن . He embraced Islam in childhood along with his father.

 ﺳﺎﺑﻘﻮن اﻻوﻟﻮن From the Foremost  

Ammar’s trust in and knowledge of Prophet ﷺ, even before his prophethood, encouraged him to follow Muhammad’s ﷺ prophetic visions as one of the earliest converts.
حَدَّثَنِي عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ حَمَّادٍ الآمُلِيُّ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى بْنُ مَعِينٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ مُجَالِدٍ، عَنْ بَيَانٍ، عَنْ وَبَرَةَ، عَنْ هَمَّامِ بْنِ الْحَارِثِ، قَالَ قَالَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ رَأَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَمَا مَعَهُ إِلاَّ خَمْسَةُ أَعْبُدٍ وَامْرَأَتَانِ، وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ‏.‏

Narrated `Ammar bin Yasir: I saw Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) , and the only converts (to Islam) with him, were five slaves, two women and Abu Bakr.

عمار بن یاسر رضی اللہ عنہما نے کہا کہ میں نے رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کو اس حالت میں بھی دیکھا ہے جب آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کے ساتھ پانچ غلام ، دو عورتوں اور ابوبکر صدیق رضی اللہ عنہم کے سوا اور کوئی ( مسلمان ) نہیں تھا ۔

(Sahih al-Bukhari 3857)

Ammar bin Yasir’s other slave companions were Suhaib RA and Bilal RA

[وَسُبِيَ عَمَّارٌ وَصُهَيْبٌ وَبِلَالٌ [باب ، صحیح البخاری

`Ammar, Suhaib, and Bilal were imprisoned.

One who suffered a great deal in the way of Islam:

The Makhzum clan used to take out Ammar bin Yasir with his father and mother in the heat of the day and expose them to excessively hot environment of Makkah and torture them in the scorches of the open fire, and Prophet ﷺ used to pass by them and say,

(عن جابر : أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم مر بعمار وأهله وهم يعذبون فقال (أبشروا آل عمار وآل ياسر فإن موعدكم الجنة 

[صحيح السيرة النبوية – الألباني]

Jabir reported that once the Messenger of Allah (s) passed by Ammar and his family while they were being tortured, he said: “Rejoice o family of Ammar and family of Yasir! for you are promised paradise.”

Eventually, Ammar was tortured until he did not know what he was saying, persecution has reached its extent! The Prophet ﷺ said, “O Abu Yaqdhan, be patient!

Migration:

After much persecution, Ammar with other companions migrated to Abyssinia finding protection under a just Christian king though ibn Ishaq disputes that he was one of those companions in Abyssinia. He later migrated with other companions to Madinah making him within a select group of companions that made two migrations for the sake of Allah SWT.

وَالَّذِينَ هَاجَرُوا فِي اللَّهِ مِن بَعْدِ مَا ظُلِمُوا لَنُبَوِّئَنَّهُمْ فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً ۖ وَلَأَجْرُ الْآخِرَةِ أَكْبَرُ ۚ لَوْ كَانُوا يَعْلَمُونَ

And those who emigrated for [the cause of] Allah after they had been wronged – We will surely settle them in this world in a good place; but the reward of the Hereafter is greater, if only they could know.

[Surah Nahl : 41]

(247/3شهد عمار بدرا ، والمشاهد كلها مع رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وهاجر إلى أرض الحبشة ، ثم إلى المدينة . (سير أعلام النبلا  

Ammar RA participated in all battles including Badr, he first migrated to Habashah and then to Madinah.

أَنْبَأَنَا أَبُو إِسْحَاقَ سَمِعَ الْبَرَاءَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ أَوَّلُ مَنْ قَدِمَ عَلَيْنَا مُصْعَبُ بْنُ عُمَيْرٍ وَابْنُ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ ثُمَّ قَدِمَ عَلَيْنَا عَمَّارُ
[ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَبِلَالٌ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ [صحیح البخاری: 3924

Narrated Abu Ishaq that I heared Bara (bin `Azib): The first people who came to us (in Medina) were Mus`ab bin `Umar and Ibn Um Maktum. Then came to us `Ammar bin Yasir and Bilal.

Important achievements

Ammar RA also has the honor to participate in the battle of Badr, and Uhud. He was of one of those beloved companions who took Bay’ah Ridwan (Pledge of Ridwan) was a pledge that was sworn to the Prophet ﷺ by his Sahaba (companions) prior to the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah (6 AH). The pledge, sworn under a tree, was to avenge the rumored death of Uthman ibn Affan RA.

At the time of Abu Bakr’s RA caliphate, Ammar RA took part in the Battle of Yamamah to eliminate the threat of Musaylamah al-Kaddhab. He was also appointed as Ameer of Kufah in the caliphate of Umar bin Khattab RA.

The command to follow his way:

Ammar RA was blessed with best qualities that Rasoolullah ﷺ commanded us to follow his distinctive character.

[اقتدوا باللذين من بعدي من أصحابي أبي بكر وعمر واهتدوا بهدي عمار وتمسكوا بعهد ابن مسعود [السلسلة الصحيحة: 1233

The Messenger of Allahﷺ said: “Follow the two after me from my Companions, Abu Bakr and ‘Umar. And act upon the character of ‘Ammar, and hold fast to the covenant of Ibn Mas’ud.”

Good character consists of defining your values and integrity based on time-tested principles and self-reflection and having the courage to live your life accordingly. As a Muslim, we believe whatever Prophet ﷺ has suggested is for our own benefit. We Muslims ask in our daily prayers that may Allah SWT keep us on the path of those whom Allah favored, Ammar bin Yasir RA was one of those whom Allah favored.

His Great Status:

Once there was a dispute between Ammar and Khalid b. Waleed, he said something harsh to Ammar RA, so he approached Prophet ﷺ and related whole incident. Prophet ﷺ asked Khalid RA, and he admitted his guilt. He ﷺ said:

عَنِ الْأَشْتَرِ قَالَ كَانَ بَيْنَ عَمَّارٍ وَبَيْنَ خَالِدِ بْنِ الْوَلِيدِ كَلَامٌ فَشَكَاهُ عَمَّارٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّهُ مَنْ يُعَادِ عَمَّارًا يُعَادِهِ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَمَنْ يُبْغِضْهُ يُبْغِضْهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَمَنْ يَسُبَّهُ يَسُبَّهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ ۔۔۔

[مسند احمد: 16821]

Whoever keeps enmity for Ammar, Allah will be his enemy. He who who hates Ammar then Allah will hate him. He who abuses him verbally, Allah will do the same to him.

Khalid said when I left nothing was dearer to me than to please Ammar b. Yasir. So I met him and made him happy.

Dear readers, it is worth to note that difference and disputes happen as its human nature, and much good can come from conflict and differences. But in some situations our nafs becomes arrogant and while knowing that the other party is right, one continues to dispute. Sometimes shaytan comes in. So do not delay in resolving the conflict.  If you are wrong, quickly admit it and take responsibility. Even if you’re NOT wrong, at least give them the benefit of the doubt, “I may be wrong, let’s look at the facts together.” It’s hard to argue with that!

His strength in Iman:

أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، وَعَمْرُو بْنُ عَلِيٍّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي عَمَّارٍ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ شُرَحْبِيلَ، عَنْ رَجُلٍ، مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ مُلِئَ عَمَّارٌ إِيمَانًا إِلَى مُشَاشِهِ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

It was narrated from ‘Amr bin Shurahbil,: That one of the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ said: “The Messenger of Allah [ﷺ] said: ‘Ammar’s heart overflows with Faith.'”

[Sunan an-Nasa’i 5007]

[1]  Manaawi Rahimullah said it means, Iman had mixed with his flesh blood and bones and has blended with him such that it shall never leave. And this quality can only be in the one whom Allah has protected against the shaytan.

He was upon the fitrah:

[ أبو اليقظان على الفطرة، لا يدَعُها حتى يموت، أو يمسَّهُ الهرم).. [السلسلة الصحيحة: 3216)

The Messenger of Allahﷺ said: Abu Al Yaqzan (Ammar bin yasir) is upon Fitra and he will not leave it until death or extreme old age.

The Prophet’s  ﷺ praise for him:

 عَنْ عَلِيٍّ قَالَ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّصلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ائْذَنُوا لَهُ مَرْحَبًا بِالطَّيِّبِ الْمُطَيَّبِ

[سنن ترمذی: 3798]

Narrated ‘Ali: that ‘Ammar bin Yasir came seeking permission to enter upon the Prophet ﷺ so he said: ‘Permit him, greetings to the pure one, the purified.”

أَبُو نَوْفَلِ بْنُ أَبِي عَقْرَبٍ قَالَ جَزِعَ عَمْرُو بْنُ الْعَاصِ عِنْدَ الْمَوْتِ جَزَعًا شَدِيدًا فَلَمَّا رَأَى ذَلِكَ ابْنُهُ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَمْرٍو قَالَ يَا أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ مَا هَذَا الْجَزَعُ وَقَدْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُدْنِيكَ وَيَسْتَعْمِلُكَ قَالَ أَيْ بُنَيَّ قَدْ كَانَ ذَلِكَ وَسَأُخْبِرُكَ عَنْ ذَلِكَ إِنِّي وَاللَّهِ مَا أَدْرِي أَحُبٍّا ذَلِكَ كَانَ أَمْ تَأَلُّفًا يَتَأَلَّفُنِي وَلَكِنِّي أَشْهَدُ عَلَى رَجُلَيْنِ أَنَّهُ قَدْ فَارَقَ الدُّنْيَا وَهُوَ يُحِبُّهُمَا ابْنُ سُمَيَّةَ وَابْنُ أُمِّ عَبْدٍ فَلَمَّا حَدَّثَهُ وَضَعَ يَدَهُ مَوْضِعَ الْغِلَالِ مِنْ ذَقْنِهِ وَقَالَ اللَّهُمَّ أَمَرْتَنَا فَتَرَكْنَا وَنَهَيْتَنَا فَرَكِبْنَا وَلَا
[ يَسَعُنَا إِلَّا مَغْفِرَتُكَ وَكَانَتْ تِلْكَ هِجِّيرَاهُ حَتَّى مَاتَ [مسند احمد: 1781

When Amr b. al-As was near his death, he was in extreme worry. When his son Abdullah saw him in that condition he asked O AbuAbdullah, What is this worry? While the Prophet ﷺ kept you close to himself, and assigned you different tasks? He said, O my son, This is true however let me tell you, by Allah I do not know whether he ﷺ dealt with me in this manner out of love for me, or out of the intention to soften my heart [ta’leeful qalb]. Though I can testify that the Prophet ﷺ loved two people until he passed away, one was the son of Sumayya (i.e., Ammar) and the other was the son of Umm Abd (i.e., Abdullah b. Masud). After this he placed his hand under his chin and said, O Allah, You commanded us and we abandoned Your command! You forbade us and we continued, and nothing but Your forgiveness can cover us. He kept repeating these words until he passed away.

What a great example of humbleness!  Iman makes a person humble. He doesn’t look at his good deeds / qualities in admiration, rather he is worried about his deficiencies and faults. Ask yourself – who am I? What do I think of myself? What do I see in myself? Only good, or some faults also? Or do I not even think about myself? Too busy to analyze me critically. Always remember, good people keep themselves accountable. We say very often, ‘Im so bad!’ – but do we mean it? The Sad fact is, We don’t check our faults very often, realize our mistakes, and when don’t, we cannot correct ourselves. It is similar that if we don’t see the mess and dirt in our house, we will not clean it. So, we need to identify our faults and work on them for the improvement.

Allah says about the Sahabah, that He has beautified Iman in their hearts, or adorned their hearts with Iman. Everyone else likes to beautify their hearts, but it requires efforts and determination that Sahabah RA had.

His Character and noble Qualities

Sometimes, when faced with a choice between two options, the better of the two is obvious. These are easy situations to deal with: one simply chooses the option that will be the most beneficial (or least harmful, as the case may be). But what about situations in which the right decision is less obvious? In these circumstances making a decision can be difficult, sometimes so difficult that we are paralyzed by indecision and allow unwanted outcomes to befall us.[1] .

Ammar RA had a great inner vision and  his decisions were on correct intuition.

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ “‏ عَمَّارٌ مَا عُرِضَ عَلَيْهِ أَمْرَانِ إِلاَّ اخْتَارَ الأَرْشَدَ مِنْهُمَا ‏”‏ ‏.‏

It was narrated that Aishah RA said: ‘The Messenger of Allah said: ”Ammar- no two things were shown to him but he chose the better of the two.”
[Sunan Ibn Majah: 148]

One who desired Allah’s approval and the home of the hereafter

عن قيس بن أبي حازم قال: قال عبد الله ما أعلم أحد أخرج في الفتنة يريد به وجه الله تعالى والدار الآخرة إلا عمار  بن ياسر

 [مستدرک حاکم: 5686]

Abdullah said, I do not know anyone who has survived a great tribulation and he wanted only Allah’s approval and the home of the hereafter, except for Ammar bin Yasir.

One who desired his reward from Allah alone

عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ أَنَّ ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ لَهُ وَلِابْنِهِ عَلِيٍّ انْطَلِقَا إِلَى أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ فَاسْمَعَا مِنْ حَدِيثِهِ قَالَ فَانْطَلَقْنَا فَإِذَا هُوَ فِي حَائِطٍ لَهُ فَلَمَّا رَآنَا أَخَذَ رِدَاءَهُ فَجَاءَنَا فَقَعَدَ فَأَنْشَأَ يُحَدِّثُنَا حَتَّى أَتَى عَلَى ذِكْرِ بِنَاءِ الْمَسْجِدِ قَالَ كُنَّا نَحْمِلُ لَبِنَةً لَبِنَةً وَعَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسرٍ يَحْمِلُ لَبِنَتَيْنِ لَبِنَتَيْنِ قَالَ فَرَآهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَجَعَلَ يَنْفُضُ التُّرَابَ عَنْهُ وَيَقُولُ يَا عَمَّارُ أَلَا تَحْمِلُ  لَبِنَةً كَمَا يَحْمِلُ أَصْحَابُكَ قَالَ إِنِّي أُرِيدُ الْأَجْرَ مِنْ اللَّهِ ۔۔۔

[مسند احمد: 11861]

Ikrimah reported that Ibn Abbas told him and to his son Ali to go to Abu Saed Khudriy to listen to hadith from him. So we both went and he was in his garden and when he saw us he took his shawl and came and sat with us. He began narrating hadith to us and mentioned the construction of the Masjid. He said we would carry one brick at a time, and Ammar bin Yasir would carry two bricks at a time. The Prophet ﷺ saw him do that so he began removing dust from his head and said, O Ammar will you not carry one brick like your companions? He said I desire reward from Allah.

ُHere few things are required to reflect that Ibn Masud sent his son to sit in a gathering of hadith. This was always the way of the righteous. It is Allah’s blessing on us if we get to sit in a gathering of hadith and Quran. Secondly, When we want reward from Allah, then we will not consider our work to be a mere job.

One who remembered the instruction of the Prophet ﷺ

The Sunnah of the Prophetﷺ is a ship of salvation and a haven of safety. The Prophet ﷺ urged us to adhere to it and not neglect it. We can see in the character of Ammar RA that he was a true follower and he had the sound understanding of faith.
حَدَّثَنِي سُرَيْجُ بْنُ يُونُسَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ أَبْجَرَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ وَاصِلِ بْنِ حَيَّانَ، قَالَ قَالَ أَبُو وَائِلٍ خَطَبَنَا عَمَّارٌ فَأَوْجَزَ وَأَبْلَغَ فَلَمَّا نَزَلَ قُلْنَا يَا أَبَا الْيَقْظَانِ لَقَدْ أَبْلَغْتَ وَأَوْجَزْتَ فَلَوْ كُنْتَ تَنَفَّسْتَ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ إِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏ “‏ إِنَّ طُولَ صَلاَةِ الرَّجُلِ وَقِصَرَ خُطْبَتِهِ مَئِنَّةٌ مِنْ فِقْهِهِ فَأَطِيلُوا الصَّلاَةَ وَاقْصُرُوا الْخُطْبَةَ وَإِنَّ مِنَ الْبَيَانِ سِحْرًا ‏”‏ ‏.‏
Abu Wa’il reported: Ammar delivered to us the sermon. It was short and eloquent. When he descended (from the pulpit) we said to him: 0 Abd al-Yaqzan, you have delivered a short and eloquent sermon. Would that you had lengthened (the sermon). He said: I have heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: The lengthening of prayer by a man and the shortness of the sermon is the sign of his understanding (of faith). So lengthen the prayer and shorten the sermon, for there is charm (in precise) expression.
[Sahih Muslim: 869]

We should develop a habit of talking less with effective words. So that listener can focus on what is said and learns from it.

His Intelligence

 “.قال الشعبي: ” سئل عمار، عن مسألة فقال: هل كان هذا بعد ؟ ، قالوا: لا، قال : فدعونا حتى يكون ، فإذ ا كان تجشمناه لكم ”

 [(256 /3)سير أعلام النبلاء]

Ammar b. Yasir was asked about a matter, so he asked, has this occurred? They said not yet. He said, then leave me until it happens, when it will occur we will let you know what to do.

Hypothetical questions- are typically too difficult for respondents since they require more scrutiny. Avoid asking these types of questions because Hypothetical questions generate hypothetical answers, which do not provide clear, consistent data, representing the real opinion. That’s why it is not intelligent to delve into such discussions.

His Simplicity

“.[(256 /3وقال عبد الله بن أبي الهذيل :” رأيت عمارا اشترى قتا بدرهم وحمله على ظهره وهو أمير الكوفة  [ سير أعلام النبلاء 

Abdullah b. Abi Hudhayl narrated: I saw Ammar purchasing some food with one dirham and then he carried it on his back, and at the time he was the Ameer of Kufah.

Humility is a great attribute of companions of Prophet ﷺ. We saw in the life of Ibn Umar RA as well that he built his house without any help. Similarly, Ammar RA also carried his own food.

Hence, Simplicity and Humility are the two greatest virtues of life and the key for one to be successful and be genuinely loved and respected by people of all ages, caste, creed, religion, race, generations, etc. These virtues always keep you Grounded and prevent you from being Arrogant.

One who spoke little

وقال أبو نوفل بن أبي عقرب كان عمار بن ياسر قليل الكلام طويل السكوت
[(256 /3) سيرأعلام النبلاء] 

Ammar bin Yasir spoke little and observed silence for long

We’ve been blessed with a very precious gift of talking. The gift of being able to express our feelings, emotions, ideas or plans. But, alas, as with every gift, overusing it may lead to unexpected results. Important is do not speak of that which does not concern you, and guard your tongue like you guard your money. When you speak less, you do more. It’s obvious. Your focus switches from talking to doing.

His death

He received the good news of martyrdom from the Prophet ﷺ and died in the battle of Siffeen.

 عَن أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلمأَبْشِرْ عَمَّارُ تَقْتُلُكَ الْفِئَةُ الْبَاغِيَةُ

[ السلسلة الصحيحة : 710 ]

Narrated Abu Hurairah رضی اللہ عنہ that the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه) said: O Ammar! Glad tidings, a group of rebels would kill you.

۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ وَعَمَّارٌ لَبِنَتَيْنِ لَبِنَتَيْنِ، فَرَآهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَيَنْفُضُ التُّرَابَ عَنْهُ وَيَقُولُ ‏ “‏ وَيْحَ عَمَّارٍ تَقْتُلُهُ الْفِئَةُ الْبَاغِيَةُ، يَدْعُوهُمْ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ، وَيَدْعُونَهُ إِلَى النَّارِ ‏”‏‏.‏ قَالَ  يَقُولُ عَمَّارٌ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الْفِتَنِ‏.‏

Narrated from Abu Sa ‘eed al-Khudri, in the report about the building of the mosque (in Madinah), that he said: We would carry one brick at a time, but  ‘Ammaar would carry two bricks at a time. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) saw him and brushed the dust from him, saying: “Woe to ‘Ammaar; he will be killed by the transgressing group; he will be calling them to Paradise and they will be calling him to Hell”. ‘Ammaar said: I seek refuge with Allah from tribulation.

[Sahih Al-Bukhari :447]

[2] What is meant by calling to Paradise in this hadith is calling to the means of attaining it, which is obedience to the caliph (Ameer al-Mu’mineen), and what is meant by calling to Hell is calling to that which leads to it, which is opposing the caliph and rebelling against him. But whoever did that on the basis of ijtihad and valid interpretation is excused.

Ibn Battaal (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The words “he will be calling them to Paradise and they will be calling him to Hell” can only be correctly applied to the Khawaarij to whom ‘Ali RA sent ‘Ammaar to call them to join the jamaa‘ah (main body of the Muslims); they cannot be correctly applied to any of the Sahaabah, because it is not possible for any of the Muslims to interpret any of their actions except in the best manner, because they were the companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, whom Allah praised and testified to their virtue, and said (interpretation of the meaning): You  are the best of peoples ever raised up for mankind”. [Aal ‘Imraan 3:110].

 استشهد يوم صفين وله إحدى وتسعون سنة وقيل أربع وتسعون عام 37 ه. حمله علي بن أبي طالب فوق صدره وصلى عليه والمسلمون معه, ثم دفنه في ثيابه

He passed away in Siffeen battle, at the age of 91 or 93. Ali RA carried him on his chest and prayed for him with the Muslims, and buried him in the clothes he was wearing.

What is required is to think positively of those whom Allah chose to accompany His Prophet ﷺ: for they are the best companions of the best Prophet, and it is not permissible to say anything of them but the highest words of praise; if anyone criticises them, then this gives rise to suspicion about the sincerity of his religious commitment.

 Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with him (R.A)” each time with; Ammar Ibn Yasir R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


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ABDULLAH BIN OMAR

bismillah2

In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful

Abdullah ibn Umar was born in Mecca one year before the Prophethood of Muhammad ﷺ۔ He was the son of Umar ibn al-Khattab and Zaynab bint Madhun.His full siblings were Hafsa  R.A (wife of Prophet ﷺ) and Abdulrahman.

Name and Lineage:

 His full name was  Abdullah bin Omar bin Al-Khattab Al-Qureshi Al-Ad’wi عبد الله بن عمر بن الخطاب القرشي العدوي . His Kunya was Abu Abdur Rahman أبوعبد الرحمن . He embraced Islam in childhood along with his father.

First Battle:

 صغار صحابی – Of the younger companions: Abdullah Ibn Umar RA determination to fight for the course of Islam begins at the tender age of 13 years old. He first presented himself for the battle of Badr, not allowed then came for the battle of Uhud, but again Prophet ﷺ sent him back due to his young age.

حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي نَافِعٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَرَضَهُ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَهْوَ ابْنُ أَرْبَعَ عَشْرَةَ سَنَةً، فَلَمْ يُجِزْنِي، ثُمَّ عَرَضَنِي يَوْمَ الْخَنْدَقِ وَأَنَا ابْنُ خَمْسَ عَشْرَةَ فَأَجَازَنِي‏.‏

Narrated Ibn `Umar رضی اللہ عنہماthat Allah’s Messenger ﷺ called me to present myself in front of him on the eve of the battle of Uhud, while I was fourteen years of age, and he did not allow me to take part in that battle, but he called me in front of him on the eve of the battle of the Trench when I was fifteen years old, and he allowed me (to join the battle).”

ہم سے عبداللہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ ہم سے ابواسامہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے عبیداللہ نے بیان کیا ، کہا کہ مجھ سے نافع نے بیان کیا ، انہوں نے کہا کہ ہم سے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے بیان کیا کہ احد کی لڑائی کے موقع پر وہ رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کے سامنے ( جنگ پر جانے کے لیے ) پیش ہوئے تو انہیں اجازت نہیں ملی ، اس وقت ان کی عمر چودہ سال تھی ۔ پھر غزوہ خندق کے موقع پر پیش ہوئے تو اجازت مل گئی ۔ اس وقت ان کی عمر پندرہ سال تھی ۔

(Sahih al-Bukhari 2664)

You would be thinking that Ibn Omar would have very extraordinary potential. You are not completely wrong, but it is also note-worthy that any fourteen or fifteen-year-olds who develops strong relationships and receives adequate opportunities can have a sense of hopeful purpose, express caring values, also can actively be engaged at school, home etc. It can slowly make one able to take on leadership roles.
As a parent,  we  should not pity them and let them waste the time. We should motivate them by recognizing their potential. When they finally understand how something benefits them, they will do it long term. If the reason your child does something is only because it’s important to you, that is short term motivation and that will end. The reason also needs to be important to your child, not just important to you. Ibn Omar was persistently presenting himself for the battles as he knew benefits. Finally, he got permission to join the ranks of the men not only for the digging of the trench but for the battle when it came.

The way how we treat our children does affect them, we see how gentle Prophet ﷺ was with everyone. His way of teaching was effective and influential. The Prophet would not speak in a way that would break anybody’s heart۔

Mujahid reported that Ibn Omar was present at the occasion of the Conquest of Makkah, he was twenty years old at that time. He had a stubborn horse and a heavy spear, so he went to cut some grass for his horse (while cutting grass in Makkah is forbidden), so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ (lovingly stopped him), that O Abdullah, O Abdullah!

(Musnand Ahmed: 4600)

His Great Status:

From the time of his Hijrah till the time of his death more than seventy years later, Abdullah ibn Omar distinguished himself in the service of Islam and was regarded among Muslims as “the Good One, son of the Good One”. He was known for his knowledge, humility, generosity, piety, truthfulness, and his constancy in acts of Ibadah.

حَدَّثَنَا مُعَلَّى بْنُ أَسَدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ رَأَيْتُ فِي الْمَنَامِ كَأَنَّ فِي يَدِي سَرَقَةً مِنْ حَرِيرٍ لاَ أَهْوِي بِهَا إِلَى مَكَانٍ فِي الْجَنَّةِ إِلاَّ طَارَتْ بِي إِلَيْهِ، فَقَصَصْتُهَا عَلَى حَفْصَةَ‏.‏ فَقَصَّتْهَا حَفْصَةُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّ أَخَاكِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ‏”‏‏.‏ أَوْ قَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ رَجُلٌ صَالِحٌ ‏”‏‏.‏

I saw in a dream a piece of silken cloth in my hand, and in whatever direction in Paradise I waved it, it flew, carrying me there. I narrated this (dream) to (my sister) Hafsa and she told it to the Prophet (ﷺ) who said, (to Hafsa), “Indeed, your brother is a righteous man,” or, “Indeed, `Abdullah is a righteous man.”

(Sahih al-Bukhari 7015, 7016)

His Knowledge:

A scholar and jurist: 

كان من فقهاء الصحابة ومتقيهم وزهادهم  He was of the knowledgeable, righteous, ascetic Companions.

وكان أحد العبادلة الأربعة المشهود لهم بالفضل والعلم، حتى أن اجتماعهم على رأى يعد حجة ويقال فيه:هذا قول العبادلة

(لمحات تربوية من سيرة الصحابي عبد الله بن عمر)

Abdullah bin Omar was one of the four famous ‘Abadilah’ (i.e., Abdullah b. Omar, Abdullah b. Abbas, Abdullah b. Mas’ud and Abdullah b. Amr b. Aas), whose knowledge and excellence is established, so much so that their agreement over a matter is considered proof and it was said,‘This is the statement of the Abadilah)

وهو من المكثرين من رواية الحديث عن النبي ﷺ، روى ألفاً وستمائة  وثلاثين حديثاً عن رسول الله تفرد البخاري منها بنحو من ثمانين حديثاً، ومسلم بنحو واحد وثلاثين حديثاً.

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

He is of those who narrated many ahadith from the Prophet ﷺ  i.e 1630 ahadith. In Bukhari alone, there are 80 narrations, and in Muslim, there are 31. Abdullah was extremely cautious, even afraid, of reporting the sayings of the Prophet. He would only relate a hadith if he was completely sure that he remembered every word of it.

Similarly, he was extremely cautious and reluctant to make legal judgments (fatwas).’ Once someone came to him asking for a judgment on a particular matter and Abdullah ibn Umar replied: “I have no knowledge of what you ask.” The man went on his way and Abdullah clapped his hands in glee and said to himself: “The son of Umar was asked about what he does not know and he said: I do not know.”

The people used to feel at ease with his legal verdicts, because Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was so strict in following what Rasulullah ﷺ had said and when delivering verdicts, he would always refer to the Book of Allah SWT and if he did not find what he wanted, he would refer to Sunnah of Rasulullah ﷺ and if he did not find what he sought there, he would refer to the juristic reasoning of the Companions, and he would follow them if they were unanimous in their view. However, if they differed, he would choose from among their opinions what seemed right to him.

Because of this attitude, he was reluctant to be a judge (qadi) even though he was well qualified to be one. The position of qadi was one of the most important and esteemed offices in the Muslim society and state bringing with it an honor, glory and even riches but he declined this position when it was offered him by the Khalifah Uthman. His reason for so doing was not that he underestimated the importance of the position of qadi but because of his fear of committing errors of judgment in matters pertaining to Islam. Uthman R.A made him agree not to disclose his decision lest it might influence the many other companions of the Prophet who actually performed the duties of judges.

A great Follower of Prophet  اِتباعِ رسول ﷺ :

عن عائشة قالت ما كان أحد يتبع آثار النبي ﷺ في منازله كما كان يتبعه بن عمر۔ 

Aisha R.A reported, “No one followed the Messenger of Allah (s) in his footsteps like Ibn Omar”.

[طبقات ابن سعد]

Abdullah Ibn Umar RA, continued to demonstrate his love for Rasulullah ﷺafter his demised and whenever Rasulullah ﷺ was mentioned, his eyes would fill with tears; Asim bin Muhammad Al-Amri RA narrated from his father that he said: ”Whenever l heard Abdullah Ibn Umar RA mention Rasulullah ﷺ, he would weep.

We can see with the following hadith that he was very keen observer. He was always eager to know about the actions of Prophet ﷺ

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو النُّعْمَانِ، وَقُتَيْبَةُ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَدِمَ مَكَّةَ، فَدَعَا عُثْمَانَ بْنَ طَلْحَةَ، فَفَتَحَ الْبَابَ، فَدَخَلَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَبِلاَلٌ وَأُسَامَةُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ وَعُثْمَانُ بْنُ طَلْحَةَ، ثُمَّ أُغْلِقَ الْبَابُ، فَلَبِثَ فِيهِ سَاعَةً ثُمَّ خَرَجُوا‏.‏ قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَبَدَرْتُ فَسَأَلْتُ بِلاَلاً فَقَالَ صَلَّى فِيهِ‏.‏ فَقُلْتُ فِي أَىٍّ قَالَ بَيْنَ الأُسْطُوَانَتَيْنِ‏.‏ قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَذَهَبَ عَلَىَّ أَنْ أَسْأَلَهُ كَمْ صَلَّى‏.‏
 Ibn `Umar said, “The Prophet (ﷺ) arrived at Mecca and sent for `Uthman bin Talha. He opened the gate of the Ka`ba and the Prophet, Bilal, Usama bin Zaid and `Uthman bin Talha entered the Ka`ba and then they closed its door (from inside). They stayed there for an hour, and then came out.” Ibn `Umar added, “I quickly went to Bilal and asked him (whether the Prophet (ﷺ) had prayed). Bilal replied, ‘He prayed in it.’ I asked, ‘Where?’ He replied, ‘Between the two pillars.’ “Ibn `Umar added, “I forgot to ask how many rak`at he (the Prophet) had prayed in the Ka`ba.”
ہم سے ابوالنعمان محمد بن فضل اور قتیبہ بن سعید نے بیان کیا کہ ہم سے حماد بن زید نے ایوب سختیانی کے واسطہ سے ، انھوں نے نافع سے ، انھوں نے عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما سے کہ نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم جب مکہ تشریف لائے ( اور مکہ فتح ہوا ) تو آپ نے عثمان بن طلحہ رضی اللہ عنہ کو بلوایا ۔ ( جو کعبہ کے متولی ، چابی بردار تھے ) انھوں نے دروازہ کھولا تو نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ، بلال ، اسامہ بن زید اور عثمان بن طلحہ چاروں اندر تشریف لے گئے ۔ پھر دروازہ بند کر دیا گیا اور وہاں تھوڑی دیر تک ٹھہر کر باہر آئے ۔ ابن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ میں نے جلدی سے آگے بڑھ کر بلال سے پوچھا ( کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے کعبہ کے اندر کیا کیا ) انھوں نے بتایا کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اندر نماز پڑھی تھی ۔ میں نے پوچھا کس جگہ ؟ کہا کہ دونوں ستونوں کے درمیان ۔ عبداللہ بن عمر رضی اللہ عنہما نے فرمایا کہ یہ پوچھنا مجھے یاد نہ رہا کہ آپ نے کتنی رکعتیں پڑھی تھیں ۔ 
(Sahih al-Bukhari 468)

Keen observation is all about alertness, focus, and attention. It is a mind game.You have to be childlike who is curious enough to remember small details which others skip.Also, your mind should be active all the time.To attain this quality, it is important to pay attention to every single detail.

Abdullah R.A would observe and scrutinize closely every saying and action of the Prophet ﷺ in various situations and he would practice what he observed closely and with devotion. For example, if Abdullah saw the Prophetﷺ performing Salat in a particular place, he would later pray in the same place. If he saw the Prophet ﷺ making g a supplication while standing, he would also make a dua while standing. If he saw him making a dua while sitting, he would do the same. On a journey, if he saw the Prophet ﷺ descend from his camel at a particular place and pray two rakats, and he had occasion to pass on the same route, he would stop at the same place and pray two rakats.

Bearing hardship in order to follow the way of the Prophet ﷺ:

عن الطفيل بن أبي بن كعب: أنه كان يأتي عبد الله بن عمر، فيغدو معه إلى السوق، قال: فإذ ا غدونا إلى السوق لم يمرّ عبد الله بن عمر على سقّاط ولا صاحب بيعة، ولا مسكين، ولا أحدٍ غلا يسلم عليه قال الطفيل: فجئت عبد الله بن عمريوماً. فاستتبعني إلى السوق. فقلت: ما تصنع بالسوق؟وأنت لا تقف على لبيع ولا تسأل عن السلع، ولا تسوم بها، ولا تجلس في مجالس السوق، فاجلس بناها هنا نتحدث. فقاللي عبد الله: “يا أبابطن! ( وكان الطفيل ذابطن)- إنما نغدو من أجل السلام[نسلم] على منلقينا”.

(صحیح الادب المفرد: 774)

At-Tufail bin Ubayy bin Ka’b reported: he used to visit ‘Abdullah bin Omar in the morning and accompany him to the market. He says: when we went to the market, ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar offered greetings of peace to every one he met on the way, be they sellers of petty goods, traders or poor people. Tufail says: One day when I came to Ibn ‘Omar, he asked me to accompany him to the market. I said to him: “What is the point of your going to the market? when you do not stand on sale, nor ask about articles, nor offer a price for them, nor sit down in any gathering of market. So sit down here with us and we will talk.” So ‘Abdullah said to me: “O Abu Batn (belly)! (Tufail had a large belly), we go to the market to greet everyone we meet.

When you greet someone in Arabic you don’t say, have a nice day, you say “peace be with you,” which is the essence of this religion. Peace is not only something that we get, it is an ongoing objective…

[757/ عن بشير بن يسار قال: ما كان أحدٌ يبدأ أو يبدر ابن عمر بالسلام . [صحيح الأدب المفرد: 982

Bashir ibn Yasar said, “No one preceded or got ahead of Ibn Omar when giving the greeting.”

Thus, he was following the teachings of Prophet ﷺ and his actions clearly explain that how much he loved to spread love and brotherhood. So, Ibn Omar never missed his chances of gaining reward by reviving sunnah of Prophet ﷺ.

Noble character:

عن سالم بن عبد الله قال: ما سمعت عبد الله لاعناً أحداً قط، ليس إنساناً. وكان سالم يقول: قال عبد الله بن عمر: قال رسول الله ﷺ : لا ينبغي للمؤمن أن يكون لعاناً

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 235]

Narrated Salim ibn ‘Abdullah, he said, “I never heard ‘Abdullah ever curse anyone, not even humans.” Salim used to mention that ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “It is not fitting for a believer to be a curser.”

Salim was his son. He was also a great scholar, a narrator, at the top compared to his other children. His son Salim testified to his father’s noble character. Here we learn some good aspects from children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing.

Here we learn some aspects of children upbringing. As parents and guardians, we should set good examples for children, so that they may be acquainted with goodness from an early age and acquire good qualities and gentle characters. Children do what they see their elders doing. Secondly, it is also important to discipline them. When it comes to disciplining children, there is no quick fix and no magic bullet. Our own behavior does give our children the pattern for how we want them to end up.

[ عن نافع قال: ” كان ابن عمر يضرب ولده على اللحن”. [صحیح†الادب المفرد: 680

* Nafi’ said, “Ibn ‘Umar used to strike his son on a bad tune.”

Thus, it is expected that the children may commit unintentional mistakes, which should be corrected, rather than ignored. We consistently need to show them the right behavior. Similarly, it is important to help children learn to be organized and manage their time.

عن نافع”أن عبد الله بن عمر كان إذا وجد أحداً من أهله يلعب بالنرد ضربه، وكسرها”.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 965]

Nafi’ narrated that if ‘Abdullah ibn Omar found any of his family playing with dice (backgammon/ cube), he would beat them and break the board.

It’s not like that he was a very harsh person, but he actually knew how to usefully utilize time and talents. We should not forget this rule for ourselves in order to be a good role model and more productive. If our kids see us following our own rules, then they will be more likely to follow.

Hard worker:

He never felt ashamed to work from his hands, it is a true example how hard working he was that he built his house without any help or labor.

عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ رَأَيْتُنِي مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بَنَيْتُ بِيَدِي بَيْتًا يُكِنُّنِي مِنْ الْمَطَرِ
[ وَيُظِلُّنِي مِنْ الشَّمْسِ مَا أَعَانَنِي عَلَيْهِ أَحَدٌ مِنْ خَلْقِ اللَّهِ [صحیح البخاری: 6302

Narrated Ibn Omar: During the life-time of the Prophet ﷺ I built a house with my own hands so that it might protect me from the rain and shade me from the sun; and none of Allah’s creatures assisted me in building it.

His Asceticism:

Abdullah Ibn Umar RA was extremely ascetic regarding the life of this world; we have seen how he refused appointments as an administrator and a judge. And he was not happy with his wealth unless he gave it to charity.

[قال بن مسعود إن من أملك شباب قريش لنفسه عن الدنيا لعبد الله بن عمر [تهذيب التهذيب 

Ibn Masud said, “Of the youth of Quraysh Abdullah bin Omar disciplined his nafs the most”.

[قال جابر ما منا أحد أدرك الدنيا إلا مالت به ومال بها إلا بن عمر[تهذيب التهذيب

Jabir (r) said, “There was none of us who got some dunya except that the dunya made him incline towards it, and he made the dunya incline towards it, except Ibn Omar”.

On one occasion, the slave of Abdullah bin Omar R.A arrived from Iraq and he came to give salutations to him and he said: ‘I have brought you a gift. Abdullah Ibn Omar asked: ‘And what is it?’ He replied: ‘Jawarish.’ He asked: ‘And what is Jawarish?’ He said: ‘It helps the digestion of food’. Abdullah Ibn Umar RA said: ‘I have not filled my stomach with food for forty years, so what will I do with it?’

Intelligent and Respectful:

عن ابن عمر قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم “أخبروني بشجرة مَثَلُها مثَلُ المسلم، تؤتي أكلها كل حين بإذن ربها، لا تحُتُّ ورقها”فوقع في نفسي النخلة، فكرهت أن أتكلم، وثم أبو بكر وعمر رضي الله عنهما، فلما لم يتكلما.قالالنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم “هي النخلة”. فلما خرجت مع أبي قلت: يا أبت! وقع في نفسي النخلة. قال: ما منعك أن تقولها؟لو كنت قلتها، كان أحب إلي من كذا وكذا. قال: ما منعني إلا لم أرك، ولا أبا بكر تكلمتُما، فكرهت.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 276]

Ibn Omar said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘Tell me which tree is like the Muslim? It gives fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord and its leaves do not fall.‘ (Ibn Omar says that) It occurred to me that it was the palm tree, but I did not want to speak as Abu Bakr and’Umar, رضی اللہ عنہما were present. When they both did not speak, the Prophet ( صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, ‘It is the palm tree.’ When I left with my father, I said, ‘O my Father, I thought that it was the palm tree.’ He asked, ‘What kept you from saying that? If you had said so, I would have preferred that to such-and-such.’ He said, ‘What kept me from doing so was that I did not see you or Abu Bakr speak, so I did not like to speak out.’”

 There were elders in the gathering so out of respect he remained quiet. Also, it shows that he was a patient listener and he knew when to speak. Similarly, he didn’t try to impress gathering by showing off his knowledge. It indicates his maturity in front of his seniors.

His Worship:

Consistent in the night prayer

He was once described as the “ brother of the night.” He would stay up at night performing Salat, weeping and seeking Allah’s forgiveness and reading Quran.

[ قَالَ سَالِمٌ فَكَانَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لَا يَنَامُ مِنْ اللَّيْلِ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا [صحیح البخاری: 3738

Salim said, “Abdullah used not to sleep at night but very little.”

Frequently performed Hajj Umrah and gave charity

Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A used to worship Allah SWT much and he was God-fearing; he would stand in prayer at night often and he would fast frequently and he performed Hajj many times and remembered Allah always.

ابن عمر –رضي الله عنهما-حج ستين حجة، واعتمر ما يقرب من ألف عمرة، فكان مولعاً بالبيت
وحَمل على ألف فرس في سبيل الله، يعني: يحمل الناس في سبيل الله للجهاد، وكان كثير الإنفاق
والصدقة

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

Abdullah b. Omar performed 60 Hajj, and performed more than 1000 Umrahs, and he dearly loved the House of Allah, and he mounted (people on) 1000 horses in the way of Allah. He would give much in charity.

Spent a lot in the way of Allah

He was kind and generous and would not refuse any petitioner and he would distribute charity as one who did not fear poverty, seeking thereby the reward which is with Allah, as he preferred the life of the Hereafter over the life of this world.

كان كثيراً ما يتقرب إلى الله بما يعجبه من ماله

Often he would be eager to draw close to Allah through the wealth that he loved.

 لما نزلت : لن تنالوا البر حتى تنفقوا مما تحبون أعتق جارية عنده كان يحبها لله تعالى

When this verse was revealed he gave away his slave woman whom he loved.

Ibn ‘Umar would not eat unless there were poor and needy persons sitting with him at his table who would eat with him.

عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ لَا يَأْكُلُ حَتَّى يُؤْتَى بِمِسْكِينٍ يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَدْخَلْتُ رَجُلًا يَأْكُلُ مَعَهُ فَأَكَلَ كَثِيرًا فَقَالَ يَا
نَافِعُ لَا تُدْخِلْ هَذَا عَلَيَّ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلميَقُولُ الْمُؤْمِنُ يَأْكُلُ فِي مِعًى وَاحِدٍ وَالْكَافِرُ يَأْكُلُ فِي سَبْعَةِ أَمْعَاءٍ
[5393: صحیح البخاری:]

Narrated Nafi`: Ibn `Umar never used to take his meal unless a poor man was called to eat with him. One day I brought a poor man to eat with him, the man ate too much, whereupon Ibn `Umar said, “O Nafi`! Don’t let this man enter my house, for I heard the Prophet ﷺ saying, “A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with a little food), and a kafir (unbeliever) eats in seven intestines (eats much food).

This Hadith does not indicate that eating to one’s fill is something prohibited. Actually, it is not prohibited; rather, scholars stated that it is prohibited to eat more than one’s fill because it is a form of extravagance and causes harm in most cases.

His Love and Focus for Quran:

In the stillness of the nights, he would remember Allah SWT much, perform Salat and read the Quran and weep. Like his father, tears came readily to his eyes especially when he heard the warning in the verses of the Quran.

عَنْ نَافِعٍ قَالَ كَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا إِذَا قَرَأَ الْقُرْآنَ لَمْ يَتَكَلَّمْ حَتَّى يَفْرُغَ مِنْهُ فَأَخَذْتُ عَلَيْهِ يَوْمًا فَقَرَ أَ
سُورَةَ الْبَقَرَةِ حَتَّى انْتَهَى إِلَى مَكَانٍ قَالَ تَدْرِي فِيمَ أُنْزِلَتْ قُلْتُ لَا قَالَ أُنْزِلَتْ فِي كَذَا وَكَذَا ثُمَّ مَضَى

[صحیح البخاری : 4526]

Narrated Nafi`:Whenever Ibn `Umar رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا recited the Qur’an, he would not speak to anyone till he had finished his recitation. Once I held the Qur’an and he recited Surat-al- Baqara from his memory and then stopped at a certain ayah and said, “Do you know in what connection this ayah was revealed?” I said, “No.” He said, “It was revealed in such-and-such connection.” Ibn `Umar then resumed his recitation.

Ibn Al-Musayyab said: ‘If I were to testify that anyone was one of the people of Paradise, it would be Ibn Omar.’ And it was said to Nafi: ‘What did lbn Omar use to do in his house?’ He replied: ‘You cannot do it; he used to perform ablution for every prayer and read the Quran between the ablution and the prayer’.

Strict in teaching people:

عن عطاء بن أبي رباح؛ أن رجلاً كان يمدح رجلاً عند ابن عمر، فجعل ابن عمر يحثُ التراب نحو فيه، وقال:
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ” إذا رأيتم المداحين، فاحثوا في وجوههم التراب”.

[صحیح الادب المفرد: 259]

‘Ata ibn Abi Rabah reported that a man was praising another man in the presence of Ibn Omar. Ibn Omar began to throw dust towards his mouth. And he said, “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, ‘When you see those who praise people, throw dust in their faces.’”

It is customary to compliment people you admire and want to befriend, but there are differences between a compliment meant to flatter and a compliment to express appreciation. The motives behind flattery can sometimes be selfish, while the motive for showing appreciation is gratitude.

To praise someone and to take it to an extreme and to describe him in a way that he is not worthy of. This is prohibited and it is lying and deception. For example mentioning a leader or minister or someone of this rank and extolling him and describing him with praiseworthy characteristics which he does not possess. This is not permissible and is harmful to the one being praised. That’s what Ibn Omar was pointing by his actions.

عن سعيد المقبري قال: مررت على ابن عمر ومعه رجل يتحدّث، فقمت إليهما، فلطم في صدري، فقال : “إذا
وجدت اثنين يتحدثان فلا تقم معهما، ولا تجلس معهما، حتى تستأذنهما “. فقلت: أصلحك الله يا أبا عبد
[ الرحمن! إنما رجوت أن أسمع منكما خيراً. [صحیح الادب المفرد: 893

Sa’id al-Maqburi said, “I passed by Ibn ‘Umar who had a man with him with whom he was conversing. I went and stood by them, and he struck me on the chest and said, ‘When you find two men conversing, do not go up to them nor sit with them until they give you permission.’ I said. O Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! ‘May Allah make you prosper. I hoped that I would hear something good from you.’”

It’s against etiquettes to interrupt or try to hear someone’s private conversation. While the person who was passing by and stood by Ibn Omar, didn’t have bad intention. But since it was very rude, so he mentioned him to avoid whether how good one’s intentions are.

One who called himself to account:

عن زاذان أبي عمر، قال: كنا عند ابن عمر، فدعا بغلام له كان ضربه فكشف عن ظهره، فقال: أيوجعك؟ قال  لا. فأعتقه، ثم رفع عوداً من الأرض فقال: ما لي فيه من الأجر ما يزن هذا العود؟ فقلت: يا أبا عبد الرحمن ! لم تقول هذا؟ قال: سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول – أو قال – من ضرب مملوكه حداً لم يأته، أو لطم وجهه، ( وفي لفظ: ” من لطم عبده أو ضربه حداً لم يأته فكفارته أن يُعتقه”.

[ صحيح الأدب المفرد: 133]

Abu ‘Umar Zadhan said, “We were with Ibn Omar when he summoned a slave of his whom he had beaten and he uncovered his back. ‘Does it hurt?’ he asked. ‘No,’ he replied. Then he set him free. He picked up a stick from the ground and then said, ‘I do not have a reward (for him) worth as much as the weight of this stick.’ I asked, O ‘Abu ‘Abdu’r-Rahman! why do you say this?’ He said, ‘I heard the Prophet ﷺ, say,The expiation of someone who beats a slave more than he deserves or slaps his face is that he must set him free.”

Abdullah Ibn Omar was honest himself. His actions  reflect that when you hold yourself accountable to doing the things you know you should do, you will distinguish yourself from the crowd. In the same manner, if you want to advance your life personally or professionally, you must hold yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals.

Martyrdom:

In the year of martyrdom, he was in Makkah during the days of Hajj and Abdul-Malik bin Marwan was the Umayyad Caliph at the time and he had sent Al-Hajjaj bin Yusuf Ath-Thaqafi to lead the Hajj. The Hajj pilgrims were gathered around Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A, for in the hearts of the people, he has a high rank. And they had left Al-Hajjaj, although he was in charge of the Hajj.

مات بمكة في قصة مشهورة معروفة، فقد وقع له مع الحجاج شيء من المخاصمة، وكان الحجاج فيه صلف وعنت وظلم، فتكلم عليه الحجاج، فقال له ابن عمر: أنت سفيه، وتكلم عليه بنحو هذا، فأمر أحد جنوده فوضع له سماً في زج الرمح، فكان يطوف بجانبه ويزاحمه، ويفتعل الزحام معه حتى جرحه في رجله، فتسمم فمرض، وعاده الحجاج في بيته، فلم ينظر إليه، ولم يكلمه، ولم يرد عليه، ومات بعد أيام -رضي الله تعالى عنه وأرضاه- وقد عمّر كثيراً، وكان عمره ستا وثمانين سنة.

[ترجمة عبد الله بن عمر رضي لله عنه]

He passed away in Makkah. He had a disagreement with Hajjaaj ibn Yousuf and Hajjaaj had much hate, rebellion, and injustice in himself…. Hajjaj ordered his soldier (to kill Abdullah) so he applied poison on the tip of a spear, and followed him in Tawaf. He would bump into him during Tawaf, and eventually poked him with the spear in his foot. The poison entered his body and he fell severely ill…. after a few days he passed away.

He was buried in the graveyard of the Muhajirun in Fakh Dhi Tuwa may Allah SWT have mercy on him. He died in the year 73 AH, aged eighty-six years, may Allah have mercy on him.

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with him (R.A)” each time Abdullah Ibn Omar R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


* Nafi’ was Ibn Omar’s freed slave

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AISHA BINT ABI BAKR – THE MOTHERS OF BELIEVERS

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In the Name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, All- Merciful

Aisha radiullahu-anha, a respected name of a noble woman who was an intelligent, brave and knowledgeable scholar of Islam. A personality who requires almost no introduction. She is renowned as a “ Mother of Mo’mineen ”, the beloved wife of the last messenger Muhammad ﷺ and the daughter of the first caliph of Islam Abu Bakr Siddique (R.A).

Abu Bakr (R.A) was the first Person in men who accepted Islam and remained side by side to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ during the early times of Tribulations and Hardships; when Islam was going through its Introductory stages in Makkah.

She was Sister of a Courageous Lady of Islam Asma (R.A) who kept the secret of Prophet ﷺ Migration to Madina with Abu Bakr (R.A) and was amongst those who accepted Islam first.

‘Aisha (R.A) was Daughter of Righteous Mother Umm-e-Rumman (R.A) who was praised by Prophet ﷺ. At the time of her Death, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ entered her (R.A) grave and asked Allah (S.W.T) to forgive her by saying,

” O Allah, you know well what Umm-e-Rumman suffered for the sake of you and your Messenger”

Life before marriage:

‘Aisha (R.A) was born in Makkah in around 613 or 614 CE. She had lots of Significant qualities and special Blessings of Allah in regards to the progress of the religion Islam. She was chosen by Allah (S.W.T) as a leader for Muslim ummah to convey correct and authentic Knowledge. Since Islam was a newly grown flower that needed fresh water to keep it blossoming. It was possible due to the sacrifices and efforts of devoted people who would benefit others with their knowledge and wisdom.

‘Aisha was educated in early childhood by her father.  She was raised in a Muslim family being born a Muslim. As the daughter of Abu Bakr (RA), she had the same strength and characteristics of leadership as her father. It was her unique virtue in early times of Makkah when people were accepting Islam. It was rare to have a complete Muslim family during that age of Islam. ‘Aisha (R.A) was among those who acknowledged Islam by birth. She grew up at a time when teachings of Islam were fresh and new which is a major factor of her becoming a great scholar of Islam. ‘Aisha (R.A) Narrates about herself:

‘Aisha (R.A) Narrates about herself:

“I never saw my parents practicing anything other than Islam”

‘Aisha (R.A) as a Wife:

Another blessing of Allah (S.W.T) on her was being the youngest and the only virgin wife of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.The marriage of ‘Aisha to Prophet is nothing less than the best love story ever written. An important thing to clarify here is that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not marry Aisha (R.A) when she was an immature little girl. Her parents offered their daughter in marriage to Prophet, as was customary in their culture at the time. However, the Prophet ﷺ, did not accept this and they waited for a few of years, and then again offered their daughter to him in marriage.

From the hadeeth narrated by Aisha herself, it appears she was at the age of 6 when her mother came to her while she was playing outside. Her mother took her into their home where her father, who was a lifelong best friend of Prophet ﷺ , was sitting with him, and the offer of marriage was being discussed. She then tells us she went back outside. This was at the age of six.

Cleary she was offered to him in marriage, but obviously, it was not accepted until some years later, when she again narrates a similar incident and at that time she was married to the Prophet ﷺ. She tells us they had consummated the marriage when she was old enough and ready (and she tells us she was very pleased about the whole entire thing). It shows that the girl must be old enough to have children and to be able to determine what her will is.

The early years of their marriage began quite innocently. Although ‘Aisha was a young bride, she carried on with the many joys of childhood and fortunate for her, as she had a husband gentle and kind enough to understand this. When she first came to live in the Prophet’s household as a young girl, a strong and lasting friendship grew up between her and Sawdah (R.A), and Sawdah took care of her along with the rest of the household.

Rather than throwing all the responsibilities of a wife on her at once, the Prophet made the marriage and its duties a gradual process for Aisha and ensured that she made a smooth transition into her new life. ‘A’isha was also content to manage his household.

He ﷺ taught her wisdom, manners, etiquette, public dealings, economic and domestic laws and ways of living in very light and natural ways. She also owned the honor of being the most beloved wife after Khadija (R.A). Once he ﷺ was asked by a companion “Who do you love the most in the world?” He responded by saying “ ‘Aisha”. She was regarded as superior over other women after Maryam (A.S), Asia (A.S) and Khadija (R.A). He ﷺ also said on a certain occasion,

“The excellence of ‘Aisha over other women is like the excellence of Tharid (a type of food) over other types of food”. 

This great love was limitless. It transcended material feelings to things that are higher and more sublime: the soul, the heart, and the mind. The emotional example of this love reflects the picture of the distinctness in the Prophetic household and in the heart. It then preserved this uniqueness in order to present it as a lively and wonderful model for us.

Brilliant Student & Great Scholar:

A crucial dimension to their equation was the student-teacher relationship they shared. ‘Aisha’s enthusiastic and inquisitive nature made her one of the foremost students of the Prophet.

She was devoted to learning Islam keenly from its beginnings. Her intelligence and curiosity for knowledge played an important role for her being a great Muslim woman scholar. Her marriage to our Prophet ﷺ led to further moral and intellectual growth, maturity and depth. She received so much Islamic knowledge through the words and actions of the Prophet, that she transmitted faithfully throughout the years of her life to the believers. For instance, once she asked the Prophet ﷺ about neighbor’s rights. She said,

“O Allah’s Apostle! I have two neighbors and would like to know to which of them should I give presents”.

He ﷺ replied,

“ To the one whose door is nearer to yours”.

We can see how much she had the desire to learn. Aisha bint Abu Bakr was the voice of authority for many of the hadith known today and she was responsible for the transmission of thousands of sayings after the Prophet’sﷺ death.  She is known to have narrated 2,210 Hadith. Those are a treasure for the guidance of Muslim Ummah. She served Muslims for 44 years after the Prophet’s ﷺ death. Islamic scholars acknowledge her remarkable efforts for Islam. Imam Zuhri, a leading jurist says:

“ ‘Aisha (R.A) was the most learned person among the people, senior and learned companions used to consult her.”

Her being a major part of some of the milestone events, left a huge impact on her personality by enhancing  wisdom and light of truth in her.

Dear reader, here we can see how much Islam encourages us to seek knowledge and to value education regardless of gender. We should offer girls and women the opportunity to learn the religion as well as what will benefit them among the worldly sciences.

Another point to be noted, that the prominence of ‘Aisha in the most reliable of hadith and her playing a role in the important political developments of her time are clear attestations to the fact that Islam does not seek to lock women behind closed doors. Those who have been confined today, are women who have been imprisoned in the name of religion and confined by the cages of prejudice.

Aisha (R.A) and Prophet ﷺ – A Romantic Couple:

It is important to keep the romance alive once the relationship is officialized through nikah/marriage, because without this effort, the marriage will go stale. There will be no emotional fulfillment in your life after marriage without romance. And before nikah, romance will lead to haram only. It is more of your responsibility and your spouse’s right, that s/he enjoy romantic gestures from your end. To elaborate it, we can see how romantic this couple was!

Messenger of Allah like to eat and drink from his wife – Aisha’s  (R.A) used plate and cup without feeling uncomfortable. He also had eaten meat that was bitten by ‘Aisha. (Sahih Muslim, 300)

From ‘Aisha RA, she said,

“I used to drink from the same glass even when on menstruation, and the Prophet pbuh take the glass and put his mouth in same spot where I put my mouth, and then he drank.”

(Sahih Muslim 300)

Prophet ﷺ once raced her and she won. This was an example of the fact that it is okay and in fact your responsibility and right to have fun with your spouse and arouse romance. On some later day, the Holy Couple happened to again cross that path and they raced again and this time, the Prophet ﷺ won, and he cheekily said to his wife “Tit for Tat.

She used to hide behind Prophet’s back to protect herself from her father Abu Bakr (R.A), if he got angry on her some innocent mistake due to her being very young.  She was obedient towards her Husband and was understanding to please him. It was the blessing of this beautiful relationship where love for each other was abundant. ‘Aisha (R.A) was an example of a pious wife. She was very cautious about having anyone to enter her house in the absence of Prophet ﷺ. It was her simplicity and comfortable presence that keep him relaxed in her company.

Photogenic Memory:

‘Aisha’s early life in Madinah also had its more serious and anxious times. Once her father and two companions who were  staying with him fell ill with a dangerous fever which was common in Madinah at certain seasons. One morning ‘Aisha went to visit him and was dismayed to find the three men lying completely weak and exhausted. She asked her father how he was  and he answered her in verse but she did not understand what he was saying. The two others also answered her with lines  of poetry which seemed to her to be nothing but unintelligible babbling. She was deeply troubled and went home to the  Prophet saying:

” They are raving, out of their minds, through the heat of the fever.”

The Prophet asked what they had said and was somewhat reassured when she repeated almost word for word the lines they had uttered and which made sense although she did not fully understand them then. This was a demonstration of the great retentive power of her memory which as the years went by were to preserve so many of the priceless sayings of the Prophet.

Surviving Hardships:

There was something quite distinct about ‘Aisha (R.A) which drew the Prophet ﷺ so close to her. Her quality of being content regardless of circumstances helped her overcome many challenges she faced as the Prophet’s wife.

There was a time in the Prophet’s home when they had no fire or food for cooking and they simply lived off of dates and water. Yet ‘Aisha went through this hardship and showed the mark of a true companion — one who can offer unrelenting support even under the most trying circumstances. ‘Aisha endured poverty and hunger with the Prophetﷺ.

Once the Prophetﷺ stayed away from his wives for a month because they had distressed him by asking him that which he did not have. This was after the Khaybar expedition when an increase of riches whetted the appetite for presents. Returning from his self-imposed retreat, he went first to Aisha’s apartment. She was delighted to see him but he said he had received revelation which required him to put two options before her.”Do not make a hasty decision,” he said, “and consult your parents first.” He then recited the ayahs of Surah Al-Ahzab:

O Prophet, say to your wives: ‘If you desire the life of this world and its adornments, then come, and I will make you content, and I will release you with a fair release. But if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the next world, then truly Allah has prepared an immense reward for those of you who do good.’ (Qur’an  33:28-29)

Her reply was:

“Is there any need to consult my parents?” . “Indeed I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the next world.”“Indeed I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter,”

And her response was followed by all the other wives. It was during the course of their marriage that, amongst others, the battles of Badr, and Uhud, and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch) were fought. These were the three major battles against the Quraish, that shifted the balance of power out of the hands of the disbelievers and into the hands of the Muslims. Although she was still very young, Aisha participated in them all, bringing water for the Muslims warriors, and helping to look after the wounded. She witnessed life, and she witnessed death – both in the way of Allah and in the way of the disbelievers – and she understood both. Indeed one of the meanings of her name, Aisha, is

It was during the course of their marriage that, amongst others, the battles of Badr, and Uhud, and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch) were fought. These were the three major battles against the Quraish, that shifted the balance of power out of the hands of the disbelievers and into the hands of the Muslims. Although she was still very young, Aisha participated in them all, bringing water for the Muslims warriors, and helping to look after the wounded. She witnessed life, and she witnessed death – both in the way of Allah and in the way of the disbelievers – and she understood both. Indeed one of the meanings of her name, Aisha, is ‘life’.

Her Generosity and Simple Lifestyle:

 

Once, when the Muslims were favored with great wealth, she has given a gift of one hundred thousand Dirhams. She was fasting when she received the money, and distributed it to the poor and needy, even though she had no provisions in her house. Shortly after that, her maidservant said to her, “Couldn’t you have brought a dirham’s worth of meat with which to break your fast?” “If I had thought of it,” she replied, “I would have done so!”

She developed the nickname the Mother of Fragrance, for every time a beggar knocked on her door, she would touch the money with perfume before giving it to him. When asked why, she explained that the charity would reach Allah before it reached the beggar’s hands, and she wanted the charity to be given to Allah in a fragrant condition.

In another report, a needy person knocked on the door. She only had one grape, and gave it to him. When asked what the value of a single grape was as a charity, she quoted the following ayahs of Surah Az-Zalzalah from the Qur’an:

So whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it, And whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.”(Qur’an 99:7 – 99:8)

She rationalised – how many atoms are there in a grape?

How many of us are of such a status, where our vigilance, thinking and even the smallest action is completely for the pleasing of Allah, and reflected by the Qur’an and teaching of the Prophet ﷺ.

True Example of Companionship:

Now we call attention to something very interesting about the subject of a friendly relationship between husband and wife. Once a group of Jews entered upon Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and they said,

“ As-Saum Alaik (death be upon you) ” Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “ Wa Alaik (and upon you)” So ‘Aisha (R.A) said,Rather (upon you be death and curse)” So the Prophet said, ‘Aisha! Indeed Allah (S.W.T) loves gentleness in every matter”. ‘Aisha (R.A) said, Did you not hear what they said? ” In response, he said to her,And I replied! Upon you”.

(Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2701)

This incident shows‘Aisha was a truly dynamic woman, complete with the qualities of virtue, intelligence and even possessiveness over her husband . She noticed, how Jews said against him, so instantly defended him out of her love. This hadith does depict that a person should be humble to correct one’s faults yet having the confidence to inquire about any doubts regarding matters to remove any confusion.

During the last days, it was noticed that Prophet’s ﷺ desire was to stay with ‘Aisha (R.A). All wives agreed for him to stay with ‘Aisha (R.A). Heﷺ chewed a Siwak that was softened by ‘Aisha’s saliva before leaving this world. In his last moments of life, his head was on ‘Aisha (R.A) lap. She remained with Prophetﷺ for nine years until his death. At the time of the Holy Prophet’s death, she was only eighteen years old.

You could really say about their story – “..and they all lived happily ever after – in Paradise.”
This represents the very best of marriages between a man and a woman in human history.

In the current era, the concept of having relationships with opposite sex is common before marriage and such relationships are defined as love or romance. ‘Aisha (R.A) gave a beautiful account of marriage to the Prophet ﷺ. She mentioned the detailed descriptions of events and happenings before and during their marriage.

And very important – she demonstrated here continued commitment to the memory of her husband ﷺ , and her firm belief about being reunited with him in the Paradise.

These glimpses of this blessed couple’s life leave a beautiful impression of Islam presenting a very charming and serene family life. Islam encourages a strong relationship between spouses where both partners understand each other’s need and desires.

We need to ponder over the lives of our role models to improve our living standards.

‘Aisha (R.A) as a Mother of Momineen

Allah (S.W.T) honored her to be beneficial for Muslim ummah in many ways. The ummah was benefited through her by having relief of Tayammum. Once, she lost her necklace during a Journey when the whole crew had to wait till they would find her necklace at a place where water was unavailable to perform ablution. Allah (S.W.T) revealed divine ayahs in Surah Al-Maida of Tayammum on this incident, while after this necklace was found underneath a Camel. Usaid bin Hudair said

“O the family of Abu Bakr! This is not the first blessing of yours.”

‘Aisha (R.A) stands superior to other women in regards to her special honor of having ayahs about her in the Quran.

‘Aisha (R.A) was vindicated by Allah (S.W.T) against a slander that was spread by the hypocrites during a campaign when she accompanied the Prophet ﷺ in a caravan. Her Piety was expressed in Quran giving a strong message for Muslim ummah to defend their brotherhood keeping strong ties and trust on each other. This bears testament to Aisha’s (R.A) trust in Allah as well as her humility. In fact, twenty verses of Surah An-Nur in the Quran  were revealed about this incident is indicative of its importance and is also a reminder to us of the high status of ‘Aisha (R.A).

This great lady, the mother of Muslims fulfilled her responsibility  and conveyed a big portion of knowledge throughout her Life. ‘Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) died in Madina at her home on 17 Ramadan, 58 AH at the age of 64.  She was buried in Jannat-al-Baqi. Muslim Ummah will continue to quench the thirst of knowledge from the knowledge conveyed by her following the recommendation of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ saying:

“Learn a portion of your religion from this Humayra (red colored lady).”

Look at the ultimate wisdom of Allah. Abu Bakr sacrificed his entire life in the path of Allah, and Allah granted him a beautiful gift which was to let his daughter be the most beloved wife of Rasulullah SAW after Khadija, and decorate his daughter Aisha with the charm, intelligence, and integrity.

She carried the in-depth legacy and knowledge of Rasulullah’s ﷺ memory. One cannot open Islamic books about the Qur’an, the biography of Muhammad ﷺ or jurisprudence, without finding Aisha’s name referenced in there. What a great honor for such a woman.

‘Aisha, Umm-Al-Mu’minin, even though she never had a single child, yet she is the Mother of Believers.

May Almighty Allah make the women of today act upon the life of  ‘Aisha (RadhiyallahuAnha) Ameen.

Note: For ease of reading, we have not inserted “May Allah be pleased with her (R.A)” each time Aisha’s R.A name or the name of each Companion is mentioned, but please take it that the salutations apply to all of them, may Allah be pleased with them all.


Compiled by Bint Abdul Waheed

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Khadija Bint Khuwalid The Mother of Believers

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In the Name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, All- Merciful

Khadija bint Khuwalid(RA) is the name of Noble Lady who is famous for intelligence, wealth, humbleness, and for her love and devotion to her Husband Prophet Mohammadﷺ She stands on the highest place when it comes to the Foundation of Islam. Khadija Bint Khuwalid was the greatest Support, being a First Person and First women to accept Islam. She was also the First wife of Prophet Mohammadﷺ who gained an honorable Title of Umm-Al-Momineen (The Mother of Believers)She stands as a Role Model for Women in this age and Time due to her well-organized, educated, and simple personality, elegance, confidence were her trademarks. She was strong enough to support her family economically, emotionally and being a housewife, she took good care of her Husband and Children.

Khadija bint Khuwalid was also famous as Ammerat­-Quraysh (the Princess of Quraysh) and Khadija Al­-Kubra (Khadija “The Great) due to her prodigious success in business and generous attitude towards needy and poor in Makkah. She was also renowned as Al­-Tahira (the Pure One) due to her Noble and Modest Personality.

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ  entitled Khadija bint Khuwalid R.A by saying

“Maryam the Daughter of Imran, was the best among the women (of the world of her time) and Khadija is the best among the women of (this nation).”

(Sahih Bukhari, Book 58­ Hadith 164) 

Her Family:

Khadija Bint Khuwalid RA was born in Makkah. Her Mother name was Fatima Bint Zayd and her Father was Khuwalid bin Asad. He was a famous leader among the tribes of Quraysh and a successful Businessman.

Khadija Bint Khuwalid married Abu Hala Malak and had two Sons Halah and Hind. After her first Husband died, She married Atique bin Aith and had a daughter Hindah. Her second Husband also died shortly after. She then started focusing towards raising her children and nourishing her business in Makkah which embarked on the highest scale due to her hard work , intelligence and wisdom blessed from Allah SWT.

Khadija Bint Khuwalid as a successful Business Woman:

She was a role model for women in the Desert of Arabia where there was no educational institute for business and accounting to perform well in the Field of Merchandise.

In Arabia, women had no social status and were treated as a minority and slaves. At a time when people buried their infant daughters, her parents gave her confidence to build her character and encouraged her skills so that she inherited her Father’s Business. Eventually, managed it to grow and attained prominence in Makkah using some wise techniques of business.

This wise lady employed trade agents to travel with her caravans and trade on her behalf. These agents received commissions as per their sales upon their return from trips.

It is said that when Banu Quraysh’s trade caravans gathered to embark on their lengthy journey either to Syria during the Summer or Yamen in the winter, Khadija’s Caravan equaled the Caravans of all Quraish put together.

Her wise and pure-mannered personality attracted Noble rich of society to propose her for marriage. But it seemed that her previous marriage experiences made her refuse to agree to any of the proposals. Her pre-occupation with her business and other obligations might also have been another reason for her refusal of these proposals. She remained unmarried until she got older and approached the age of forty.

The popularity of the name of the Trustworthy (Mohammad) ﷺ who was a model of good conduct reached her. Khadija Bint Khuwalid had keen observational skills in choosing wise and intelligent employee for her business. She decided to hire Prophet Mohammad ﷺ as a trade agent for her next Business trip to Syria.

What she heard from her servant, Maysarah regarding Mohammad’s excellent manners in buying and selling and how he made big profits, created in her a great interest in him. This led her to send someone to him to indirectly express her interest in marrying him.

Marriage with Prophet ﷺ :

The marriage took place between her and Muhammad ﷺ and both were delighted because of the same conducts they shared and their hearts also shared the same feeling. Their marriage is enough to break stereotypes about Islam, it might intrigue you to know that she was 40 years old when she married Prophet ﷺ who was just 25.

If we look with Khadijah’s (may Allah be pleased with her) perspective, it is clear that she preferred uprightness and noble integrity to the wealth. It enlightens Khadija’s insight that Allah SWT had blessed her for all affairs.

As A Wife:

“Your wives are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.”

(Surah Baqarah:187)

In Arab culture, taking multiple wives was a common practice, yet Khadija and Mohammad’s ﷺ marriage was monogamous until her death 25 years later. Mohammad’s prophethood began during his marriage to Khadija, when he received the first of Allah’s revelations through the Angel Gabriel that left him frightened, strained and feeling alone when no one believed in him. Khadija comforted her husband and encouraged him during the most difficult days of his life. Her kind words acted like a soothing rain on Prophet’s ﷺ heart which made him relaxed and calm. She said ,

“Never! By God, God will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your relatives, help the poor, serve your guests generously, and assist those hit with calamities.”

(Sahih Al-Bukhari)

She was an intelligent lady. She recognized her Husband was not an ordinary man, he possesses some special characteristics. Since he does not harm others and instead keeps a soft heart for Humanity. Allah will suffice him. She had an unforgettable place in Prophet’s life even after her death. She had very soft and loving heart for her Husband.

 Aisha (RA) reported that once she hurt Prophet’s feelings on this issue but He ﷺ replied:

” Allah (SWT) has blessed me with her (Khadijah (RA)) love”.

As A Mother:

Khadijah RA bore him 6 children. She had two sons Al-­Qasim and Abdullah. Both died in infant age. Later they were blessed with four Daughters successively Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm­e­ Kulthoom and Fatima (may Allah SWT Pleased with them all). In everyday life, parents commonly put their efforts to raise children to attain worldly rewards.Khadija Bint Khuwalid raised her daughters in such manners as they ranked among the best women. In an hadith , Prophet Mohammad mentioned the rank of Fatima (RA) among ladies with the highest status than others dues to their piety and  modesty.These are historical words about Khadija Bint Khuwalid and her daughter Fatima (RA), Prophet Mohammad ﷺ once said,

“The best women of Paradise are Khadija bint Khuwalid, Fatima bint Mohammad, Aasiya bint Mazzahim (the wife of Pharoah), and Maryam bint Imran.”

(Sahih by Al-Tirmidhi, 3878)

Best Supporter in the time of trial:

During harsh times, Khadijah remained a loyal and patient companion and wife, often giving Mohammad ﷺ wise and compassionate counsel, which reinforced him emotionally. Her support would constantly strengthen him in his mission to spread the Message.
For three years the small Muslim community lived in exile, cut off from their kith and kin and enduring a life of hardship and deprivation. However, although they suffered from hunger and thirst, and from exposure to the elements, this was a time in which the hearts of the first Muslims were both purified and also filled with the light of knowledge and wisdom. The Muslims knew that they were following the truth, and so nothing else mattered. Sadly, these long and difficult months left Khadijah physically weakened.
Finally, the boycott was lifted and the Muslims were allowed to re-enter the city; but the three years of hardship had taken their toll on her health. She spent her last days in the loving care of her husband and daughters. Here was one of the wealthiest women in the Arabian Peninsula, who had spent all she had of her material wealth in the path of Allah that she did not even have a piece of bread in her house when she died.

In some narrations, it was said that in the final moments of her life, angel Jibreel AS descended, giving her (through the Messenger ﷺ) greetings from Allah Himself, with the glad tidings of her palace in Jannah.

Why was she so exalted and elevated in the eyes of Allah SWT?

Let us pause and take a look at our lives today. The husband and wife keep careful count of their spending, and very few women would willingly give up their wealth in supporting their husbands’ noble causes. How many women would be willing to sacrifice personal luxuries for a higher cause?

Khadijah went further than sacrificing her material comforts; she gave all that she had in the path of Allah. Instead of complaining about the hardship of her situation, she supported her husband. She did not demand gifts, vacations, or even attention; for she knew that she had a higher cause than to indulge in the mere trivialities of the world. She put the needs of her husband above her personal needs for the sake of Allah, and as a result, the Prophet’s ﷺ love and admiration for her overshadowed those that he bore for the wives that he married after her death. He loved no one more than Khadija during his lifetime. A true friend is one who stands with one in the times of turmoil and afflictions. Khadija RA was there with him in these times with full eagerness and love. Theirs was a true love story.

On one occasion Aisha (RA) asked him ﷺ if she had been the only woman worthy of his love and the Prophet ﷺ replied:

“She believed in me when no body else did, she embraced Islam when people disbelieved me and she helped and comforted me when there was none to lend me a helping hand”.

We wish for the glory of having her as our companion in Jannah, but how many of us have the sincerity to emulate her exemplary behavior and sacrifice even a fraction of what she did for Islam, financially, physically and emotionally?

Khadija RA continues to inspire people to this day who admire her for taking great care of the Prophet of Islam and for showing the world, through her behavior, what a pious, modest and courageous woman can accomplish. The example she left for mankind remains timeless.

May Allah SWT shower His blessings on her and grant us courage and Faith to follow her footsteps. Ameen


Compiled by Bint e Abdul Waheed 

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RAMADAN WITH KIDS – 30 ACTIVITIES FOR 30 DAYS

Ramadan is around the corner and parents must be looking some fun and productive activities for their kids. So, here we designed 30 activities for our little munchkins 🙂 hope they like them and ll have very happy ramadan insha’Allah.

Please print the Activity sheets given below, you can make changes as per kid’s age and interests. You can cut them out of the paper, and challenge them with daily task.

We make sincere dua that each of one of us witnesses this special month and utilises it, so it benefits us on the Day when Allah will announce for the blessed souls to enter Jannah from the gate of Ar Rayyan. Ameen.

 


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DHUL HIJJAH – VIRTUES OF FIRST 10 DAYS

Alhamdulillah, we are now approaching the month of Dhul-Hijjah, the month of Hajj. This is the month upon which Allah has bestowed the days of `Arafah, `Eid Al-Adha, and the Days of Tashreeq, which are the three days following `Eid. This is a special month, a month in which we are encouraged to double our efforts in performing our acts of worship and our good deeds.

If we have missed the opportunity to increase our worship during the last Ramadan, or if we have missed the opportunity to fast the six days of Shawwal, then let it be known, that right now there is a golden opportunity in front of us, an opportunity to be closer to Allah and to increase our worship.

This golden opportunity is the first 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah. Let us grab this opportunity before it leaves us. Let us do more dhikr, more Prayer, and more fasting. Let us recite Al-Qur’an more. Allah says in Surat Al-Fajr: “And by the ten nights”

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) testified to that. He said:

“There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days.” The people asked, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?” He said, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.” (Bukhaari)  

Subhaan Allaah wal-Hamdulillaah! What a blessing!

Obviously, Hajj is one of the best deeds that one can do during these ten days. However for those of us who were not invited to His House this year, there are still many, many good deeds that one can do and earn the Pleasure of Allaah. Some of these are:

  1. Fast all nine days and especially fast the Day of ‘Arafah
  2. Do a LOT of Dhikr and Takbeer
  3. Stand in Night Prayers
  4. Make Sincere Repentance
  5. Recite more Qur’aan
  6. Generally increase in doing ALL good deeds
  7. Get the reward of Hajj wherever you are
  8. Slaughter an animal and distribute the meat
  9. Attend Eid prayers
  10. Thank Allaah SWT

We Ask Allah (SWT) to accept our Ibadah, noble deed, charities, prayers in the month of Dhul Hajj. May Allah SWT make these days of yours, and every day of your life filled with joy, love and happiness. Ameen


 

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10 WISDOMS OF RAMADAN

 1. Taqwaa – this is explicitly mentioned in the Qur’an as one of the purposes of fasting.  For 30 days we lesson our desires and by abstaining from them and show Allah that we are able to live without our most essential items for a period of time.

Gem: if you can live without your most essential things (food) for a time, then how about the sins which we do not need?

2. The Poor – we are reminded of those who abstain from these essentials throughout most of the year.  Through this we come to appreciate the blessings of things like water.

Gem: We also come to realize the even the smallest blessings that we take for granted.  Like being able to fall sleep, to urinate.

3. Lessens our physical desires and increases our spiritual ones – During this month there is less emphasis on the body and more on the soul.  By lessening our physical appetite we actually increase our spiritual capacity.

Gem: the Qur’an is a source of nourishment.  The next time you feel hungry, pick up a Qur’an and it will satiate your appetite.

4.  Attendance at the masaajid– they are generally empty during most of the year except Jumu’ah, but for this time they are full. You can really feel the blessings of Allah by these houses of worship.

Gem: it’s not ‘ramadanians/munafiqs’ who come to the masjid, it’s those who are practicing already but make extra time for the masjid.

5. Brotherhoo d and Sisterhood   – related to point 4, it causes us to intermix with all the Muslims around us.  When we help one another break our fasts we discover the bond that brings us together.

Gem: you begin to realize the masjid as the focal point of brotherhood i.e. ‘meet me at the masjid after Asr and we’ll go for so and so…’

6. Prayer Times – it inculcates in us the prayer and their times.  At no other point in the year do we monitor Fajr and Maghrib times to the millisecond!  In Ramadan, we learn to guard the prayers.

Gem: what happens on Eid?  1 day after Ramadan is done, do we pay the same diligence?

7. Attachment to the Qur’an – we turn to it in the morning and the evening.  We hear it in taraweh and in tahujjud.

8. Charity – many Muslim choose to give their zakah in Ramadan, and at least everyone pays the zakatul fitr. Everyone also at some point tries to hold an iftar party to gain extra reward.

In a Hadith the prophet (sallahu alayhi wa-sallam) taught us that the one who helps the faster break his fast gets the reward of both.

9. Dua’ – especially before iftaar time and in the night prayer.

Gem: in the time right before iftaar everyone is busy chit chatting and awaiting the food—imagine the reward of the one who is still remembering Allah in those moments right up until he breaks his fast.

10. Realization– think about this one: Ramadan affords us the opportunity to realize that “yes indeed I can be a better Muslim.”  We can pray more, do more dhikr, read more Qur’an and with more focus and desire.

Gem: Ultimately Ramadan extracts the inner core of goodness from us, allows us to benefit from us and sustains us at a higher level afterwards than when we began.  It is like a ladder, we go up 20 steps and sure we come down 10 afterwards, but we’re 10 higher than when we started.


Source: http://www.alhudainstitute.ca/

Compiled from a Conference Call with Sh. Yasir Qadhi

For all the audio and reading material you can visit the link:

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May Allah help us to grow closer to Him in this blessed month, increase our worship, purify our niyyah, forgive our sins, and make us among the people of Jannah , and may Allah SBT make this Ramadan even better than the last and give us all the opportunity to be steadfast and regular in our ibadaat, Ameen

 

Polygamy in Islam – The Marriages of Prophet Muhammad — Verse By Verse Qur’an Study Circle

Our beloved Prophet salAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam is often criticized for having more than one wife. A man having excellent virtues as himself was not sent to the world for any other purpose than spreading Islam, purifying the people and teaching the Qur’an. He, by his word and deed, made the teachings of Islam radiate all over […]

via Polygamy in Islam – The Marriages of Prophet Muhammad — Verse By Verse Qur’an Study Circle

Being a True Servant of Al-Haqq

The name, Al-Haqq, is one of the ninety-nine beautiful names of Allah (ta’ala) and it means “The Truth”.

Allah (ta’ala) mentions the name in the Quran, and in one place, He says: “For that is Allah, your Lord, the Truth. And what can be beyond truth except error? So how are you averted?” (Quran 10:32)

Many times when we see the names and attributes of Allah (ta’ala), what comes to your mind is the promise that whoever memorizes them will enter Jannah.

But beyond their benefit when memorized, knowing the names and their meanings serves more purposes for us as Muslims.

We know that Allah (ta’ala) is the Truth. But how do we apply this knowledge in our own lives? How do we live as servants of “The Truth” such that we are an embodiment of this attribute?

Believe that Allah is True

A Muslim is someone who believes in Allah, the five articles of faith, etc. This belief in Allah (ta’ala) also translates to a belief in the truthfulness of the existence of Allah (ta’ala), as well as a belief in His supremacy.

As a true servant of Al-Haqq, you should believe that Allah (ta’ala) exists. You should believe in all His attributes, His signs, creations, and promises. Being true servants of Al-Haqq means that we don’t lend ourselves to doubting if there is a God or not. It means that we don’t doubt those things that are in the realm of the unseen, spending our time wondering about the possibility of there not being a Day of Judgment. And it also means that we believe everything that Allah (ta’ala) has told us about Himself in the Quran and through His Messenger (SAW)

“That is because Allah is the Truth, and that what they call upon other than Him is falsehood, and because Allah is the Most High, the Grand.” (Quran 31:30)

With this, a true servant of Al-Haqq believes that Allah (ta’ala) is the only true God and that everything He has told us is true.

Whenever the Prophet (ﷺ) offered the night (Tahajjud) prayer, he used to say, “O Allah! All the Praises are for You; You are the Light of the Heavens and the Earth. And all the Praises are for You; You are the Keeper of the Heavens and the Earth. All the Praises are for You; You are the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth and whatever is therein. You are the Truth, and Your Promise is the Truth, and Your Speech is the Truth, and meeting You is the Truth, and Paradise is the Truth and Hell (Fire) is the Truth and all the prophets are the Truth and the Hour is the Truth. O Allah! I surrender to You, and believe in You, and depend upon You, and repent to You, and in Your cause I fight and with Your orders I rule. So please forgive my past and future sins and those sins which I did in secret or in public. It is You Whom I worship, None has the right to be worshipped except You .” (Bukhari)

Be Truthful in Your Affairs

The literal meaning of Haqq is “truth,” and a Muslim who wants to reflect this attribute should strive to be truthful in their own lives.

Being truthful means that you do not tell lies and you do not give false witness. It means that you do not say things the way that they haven’t happened. All of these can seem like what you would tell a toddler, but the reality is that we have gotten comfortable with lies in all the different forms that it manifests.

People tell what they regard as “small lies” just to get out of uncomfortable situations. You tell your buddy that you are on your way when you are actually just getting into the shower. Or you sell an item without letting the buyer know the hidden defects. Or distort the truth to suit your own agenda, and make promises even when you have no intention of fulfilling them.

Whatever your excuse for lying, or for not saying the truth as it should be, remember that lying is a sin and that the true servant of Al-Haqq speaks the truth no matter how uncomfortable.

“It is obligatory for you to tell the truth, for truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise, and the man who continues to speak the truth and endeavours to tell the truth is eventually recorded as truthful with Allah, and beware of telling of a lie for telling of a lie leads to obscenity and obscenity leads to Hell-Fire, and the person who keeps telling lies and endeavours to tell a lie is recorded as a liar with Allah.” (Muslim)

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Encourage Others Towards the Truth

The responsibility of speaking the truth also involves us encouraging others towards the truth. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) was not only known for his truthfulness, he was also known for encouraging others to speak the truth.

Encouraging others to speak the truth means raising your children to recognize the importance of being truthful as Muslims. It means advising people when you have caught them in a lie, and it also means standing up in the face of what is not the truth.

The last option, standing up in the face of what is not true, may be the most difficult for us to do. Especially when the situation does not concern us. But it is also one of the most important. Because in our societies nowadays, many problems have occurred because of people’s lies going unchallenged.

Families have been torn apart, communities broken and people’s lives ruined because people who are not truthful have not been cautioned.

As servants of Al-Haqq, we know the truth, and we have a duty to guard it. Call people to the truth of Islam and also call them to speaking the truth in everything they say.

Do this verbally and also do it with your actions. Because when people have come to know you as a truthful person, they become endeared to you and can become influenced by your character.


Originally shared by Quran Academy

Looking Through My Window

Looking Through My Window

Many a long hour I sit in my chair
The window open to let in God’s good
It’s a picturesque view for all to see
Especially the lovely,

Tall ash tree
In the spring it was late starting to sprout
But at last the buds just opened out
Now it is standing majestic and tall
Covered in green leaves,

From which the birds call
I watch it each day in the breeze blowing
Without human aid it simply keeps growing
Telling us God’s help is always there
For everyone who really cares
So look out of your window,

All day long
Then you will feel like singing a song
Of thanks and praise for the one above
Giving us everything,

Especially His love

Source: Looking Through My Window

To Pray or Not to Pray, That is the Question? (Part 3)

In this article we will discuss some possible reasons for spotting along with my opinion as to whether it is considered HAIZ or ISTHIHAAZA, and whether in that particular situation you can or cannot pray:

1. It’s your first period. EVER. For many girls, your first few years of menstruating are very new and confusing marked by painful feelings like cramps, tampons and pads, and irregular menstrual cycles. Not only do girls experience these off-schedule menstrual periods, many girls experience spotting. This is normal and is usually just a hormonal misstep that makes our uterine lining shed at the wrong time of the month. Essentially, this means our bodies are trying to understand this new “feature” and work out all the nuances of our reproductive system and “becoming a woman.” This would be considered HAIZ, and so you cannot pray.

2. You have done something new with contraceptives. Many of us might use some form of birth control at some point in our lives. Spotting is a common and normal side effect if you are starting, stopping, or switching birth control medications. Estrogen helps keep the lining of the uterus in place. Changing or messing with the estrogen levels in your body as a result of varying your birth control use could lead to spotting in between periods. This type of spotting does not last for longer than 1-3 months as your body tries to adapt to the new estrogen levels. Spotting can also occur with birth controls such as an intrauterine device (IUD). An IUD is a device that is inserted into the uterus and left to prevent pregnancy. The hormones in the IUD are slowly released, which controls the menstrual cycle and reproduction abilities. However, in the first three to six months, it is very common to spot from an IUD, even if the doctor has used a hormonal or copper IUD. The spotting should subside over time though and is a completely normal side effect. I believe the spotting here would be considered ISTHIHAAZA.

3. You just took the morning after pill. Emergency contraception, AKA the morning after pill, can cause light spotting. Although it is not a side effect, the hormones in the medication (either progestin alone or progestin combined with estrogen) can cause women to bleed at off menstrual cycle times. This type of spotting is completely normal. However, it is important to note that this does not indicate you have your period, and therefore does not signify you are not pregnant. This is ISTHIHAAZA.

4. You have implantation spotting. If you are spotting, but your period isn’t due for another few weeks, it could be because of implantation spotting. Implantation spotting, or implantation bleeding, is when a fertilized egg attaches itself to the inside wall of your uterus. When the embryo implants in the uterus, tiny blood vessels can erupt and cause the expectant mother to spot, usually a pink or brown type of discharge. Implantation spotting usually occurs before your next period and five to ten days after conception. Approximately 1/3 of women who reported having experienced implantation spotting claimed that this type of spotting was different than menstrual spotting. Reasons included the different color in the spotting (blood is darker than period blood), texture (more discharge like), and pain associated with spotting (cramps at the same time). The risk level is low, but if you are unsure if you are pregnant, consult a doctor. This would be ISTHIHAAZA

5. You are experiencing ovulation spotting. Ovulation spotting is very regular for certain women and is nothing to be worried about. Women can notice spotting a day or two into ovulating. When you ovulate, it is common to experience light spotting, usually pale pink in color. There are several potential reasons for ovulation spotting. For example, it can be caused by the surfacing of ovarian follicles. When a follicle matures and bursts, it can cause mild pain and some light bleeding. An increase in your estrogen levels during ovulation can result in light spotting or bleeding. It is also important to note that ovulation time is when you are most fertile. Be sure not to mistake this type of spotting with menstrual spotting! This is ISTHIHAAZA

6. You are perimenopausal. When you approach menopause, you may start to experience pink or brown spotting and even light bleeding before your period. During this transitional stage, your periods may be more irregular, sometimes heavier, and you may have occasional spotting about a week before your period. Ovulation occurs in the middle of your cycle, followed by menstruation approximately 2 weeks later. When you are in perimenopause, your hormone levels may become irregular and not follow this usual pattern. Once you enter menopause, all menstrual bleeding stops. However, if you are bleeding into this stage, it is important to consult your doctor and seek immediate attention. Hormonal replacement can be a common cause of vaginal bleeding in menopause, but spotting could also be a sign of cancer or other serious conditions that require medical attention.

7. You have vaginal dryness. Vaginal dryness, or vaginal atrophy, is a common cause of spotting. It occurs when vaginal tissue is no longer moist and elastic, and becomes irritated due to a change in estrogen. When the production levels of estrogen are disrupted, it can cause the vagina to feel itchy, dry and irritated. Women who are in menopause tend to experience vaginal dryness more often than women who are not. This is because their ovaries are producing less estrogen, which leads to a thinner vaginal tissue layer and a reduction in the number of lubricating glands. However, that does not mean women not in menopause can experience vaginal dryness. For women who are experiencing vaginal dryness and are definitely not near perimenopause, there are many factors that can create this condition. Childbirth and its aftermath, friction during sexual intercourse, hormone treatments, contraceptives, medications such as antidepressants, and reactions to substances such as alcohol can trigger vaginal dryness. If you are still menstruating, vaginal dryness is usually nothing to worry about. If you are spotting during menopause from vaginal dryness, consult a doctor immediately. this is ISTHIHAAZA

8. You are stressed. Stress can cause about almost anything in your body. It can create many imbalances in your body and spotting is no exception. Emotional stress (depression, anxiety, worry, insomnia) and physical stress (weight loss or gain, illness, poor diet, over exercising) can affect your period cycle. This is because extreme stress can cause your body to release more amounts of the hormone cortisol, which then causes your body to release less estrogen and progesterone. This hormonal imbalance can mess up your period cycle, and can make them irregular or late, and cause spotting in between. While exercising is a good reliever of stress, over-exercising can also cause an absence of menstruation (amenorrhea) and cause you to spot.

9. You have a decline in estrogen. One out of ten women experience light spotting during ovulation in their menstrual cycle because of a brief decline in their estrogen levels that happens when an egg is released from an ovary. This type of spotting usually occurs about ten to fourteen days before your next period. The decline in estrogen causes women to experience brown vaginal discharge, or spotting. They can also experience cramping and slight pain. This is ISTHIHAAZA

10. You’re experiencing delayed ovulation. If you are a woman who ovulates later in your cycle, it may lead to mittelschmerz. Mittelschmerz is one-sided, lower abdominal pain that is associated with ovulation in the middle of your menstrual cycle, usually about fourteen days before your next period. The pain lasts from a few minutes to hours, but can continue on-and-off for a few days. It usually is on the side of the ovary that is releasing an egg. Aside from mild pain, mittelschmerz can cause mild vaginal bleeding, or spotting. Delayed ovulation can also mean you have a small cyst on the surface of your ovary, which leads to the egg breaking through, causing vaginal spotting. This is ISTHIHAAZA

11. You have a delayed or partial period. During a normal period, the blood coming from the vagina consists of old blood, endometrial lining, and dead tissue. When you have a delayed or partial period, your monthly flushing does not complete and leaves a small amount of lining behind. This lining is left in the uterus for up to a month. When this remaining tissue finally expels, it leaves behind a brownish or pinkish color, or spotting. Again, while you may be alarmed and confused, this type of spotting is normal. As we discussed above, if this type brown spotting occurs after you have bathed (Ghusl), you can ignore it and continue to pray and fast. This would be considered ISTHIHAAZA.

12. You have inserted an object into your vagina or experienced a vaginal injury. If you have just inserted something into your vagina (recent sexual intercourse, etc), you could cause spotting. If you just had sex and your vagina isn’t lubricated enough, the friction can cause you to spot. Cervical bleeding can occur if you have deep penetration during sex. Inserting when you are too dry or too forcefully can also cause spotting. This is ISTHIHAAZA

13. You have a urethral prolapse. The urethra is a tube that connects your bladder to the outside of your body which carries urine from the bladder to the urethral opening. Urethral prolapse occurs when the inner lining of your urethra protrudes through the opening of the urethra. Because of this, the opening of your urethra can resemble a pink donut or ball and seem larger and more swollen than normal. This can cause irritation in the vagina, causing small amounts of blood, or spotting, to occur. This is easily treatable with treatments such as estrogen cream, sitz baths, and antibiotics. This is ISTHIHAAZA

*14. You are impregnated. If you are newly pregnant, chances are you will experience spotting. In the first few months of your pregnancy, it is normal to experience spotting due to all the new hormonal changes. If you are unsure if you are pregnant, take a pregnancy test or consult your gynecologist right away. A doctor can help guide you in the right direction for your pregnancy and confirm the spotting is normal and not caused by an ectopic pregnancy, which if not treated, can be life threatening. This is ISTHIHAAZA.

15. You have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal imbalance that interferes with normal ovulation and can cause abnormal bleeding, or spotting between periods. It can also cause annoying things like unwanted hair and acne. It is very common in teen girls and young women. One out of every 10 women has PCOS. If you have PCOS, your ovaries are not getting the right hormonal signals from your pituitary gland. Without these signals, you can’t ovulate every month, which affects your menstrual cycle. This causes your period to be irregular and spotting in between. Ask your health care provider if you are experiencing symptoms such as irregular periods, extra hair on your face and other parts of your body, acne, weight gain, and patches of dark skin on the back of your neck and other areas. The most common treatment for PCOS is birth control or other types of hormonal therapy. The spotting due to this condition would be ISTHIHAAZA.

16. You have inflammation or infection in your cervix (cervicitis). Cervicitis is the inflammation or irritation in your cervix. The symptoms are very similar to vaginitis, such as vaginal discharge, itching, pain with intercourse, and spotting. If the urine tube, or ureter, gets infected, you can feel pain and burning when you pee, which also can be a sign of cervicitis. Cervicitis can be caused by non-infections such as trauma, frequent douching, or exposure to chemical irritants. Cervicitis can be also by infections, such as certain sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). A doctor can diagnose and treat cervicitis in just a few days. The most common reason for cervicitis are sexually transmitted diseases, so the best prevention method is using a condom and being protected during intercourse- ISTHIHAAZA

17. You have an ovarian cyst. Spotting between periods can also be caused by ovarian cysts. Ovarian cysts are small sacs that develop in your ovaries and are filled with fluid. You may not know you have ovarian cysts until one rupture. If one ruptures, you can experience lower pelvic pain, spotting, and severe discomfort. It is important to go immediately to the doctor if you are in extreme pain. Normally, doctors will wait and see if the cysts resolve themselves. If they don’t, they can be surgically removed. This is usually more of an emergent case. It is considered Isthihaaza

18. You have Uterine Fibroids. Uterine Fibroids (also known as leiomyomas or myomas) are noncancerous growths of the uterus that can occur during your childbearing years. They can range in size from tiny growths that are almost undetectable to the human eye, to large, bulky growths that can alter and enlarge your uterus. You can also have more than just one fibroid at a time. It is common for women to have fibroids at some point in their life, as they show no symptoms and can be so small it is undetectable. However, some women who experience uterine fibroids have symptoms such as heavy menstrual bleeding, spotting between periods, pelvic pressure or pain, frequent urination, and constipation. Although uterine fibroids are not usually dangerous, they can cause pain and discomfort and can lead to complications, such as anemia from heavy blood loss. See a doctor if you are experiencing pelvic pain that won’t go away, overly heavy, prolonged painful periods, or spotting between periods. The spotting here is ISTHIHAAZA.

Vaginal spotting between periods has many potential causes. They can be normal and just a part of life or they can be serious and even life-threatening. It is important to understand your symptoms and body and routinely go to the doctor.

Disclaimer: The article does not replace an evaluation by a physician and that it should not be used for personal medical decision making.

PART 1     PART 2


Written by FeatherB – (She is a Medical Graduate)

Sources:

buoycurrent

Islam QA

The Book of Cleanliness: Compiled by Iqbal Kailani. Translated by Khaja Abdul Muqtader.

To Pray or Not to Pray, That is the Question? (Part 2)

What is that Spotting I get in between my Periods?

This is ISTHIHAAZA.

Like I mentioned earlier in the previous part of this article, a normal menstrual cycle occurs every 28 days, where menstrual bleeding usually lasts for about 4-7 days (+/-). Some women experience menstrual cycles for longer times, some women experience less. Spotting is the vaginal bleeding after your menstrual period has ended and before your next period starts.

You may not notice this spotting (mild bleeding) because it can be light or heavy. It can be a pink or brown spot on your underwear or toilet paper while wiping. Spotting can also be noticed as a blood spot or two, or more, and can even potentially resemble a menstrual period. Spotting can occur for many reasons, ranging from normal to abnormal.

Our main concern here is, can we or can we not pray when this happens? Let’s first recall the definition of HAIZ: HAIZ (menses) literally means something that issues forth or is in running state. It refers to that flow of blood which women experience every month for a given period. Simply put, HAIZ is your period. This is the time that a woman cannot pray, fast, have sexual relations with her husband. Why? Because the blood that is being expelled is your menstrual blood. Meaning it is the blood that your uterus wall is shedding, due to the fact that no fertilization of the egg occurred. It is the discarding of the endometrium. This blood contains cell debris, dead cells, and waste products as your uterus sloughs off the wall/womb it had prepared in case your egg gets fertilized. And since it didn’t (meaning you are not going to be pregnant) your body sheds off that uterus lining. This is your menstrual blood. Since there are cell debris and waste products in it, this blood is considered unclean and impure. And therefore we cannot pray (or fast, etc) during this time.

ISTHIHAAZA is the name given to describe the flow of blood which is not in continuation of menses discharge. It is any blood that is discharged that is not part of menstruation. It is sometimes for a few days and sometimes it covers the rest remaining days of the month. It is a disease/illness and one suffering from it is called a “Mustahazza.” So basically this refers to the bleeding outside of the monthly menstruation.

Another term for this is Abnormal Uterine bleeding (AUB). This can be due to many reasons. The main cause for it these days is a bad diet. Unlike HAIZ (menses), the state of ISTHIHAAZA is a state of purity. Why? Because in AUB or ISTHIHAAZA, the wall of the uterus is not being sloughed off. Here the main problem is due to the fragility of the blood vessels (veins) of the uterus. It can be due to a number of reasons.

It is basically blood leaving from blood vessels (the veins in particular.) It is NOT due to the shedding of the uterus wall. In ISTHIHAAZA, the uterus wall is very much intact, and therefore this blood/spotting is NOT unclean or impure.

Ayesha (RA) narrates:

Fatima bint Abi Hubaish (RA) came to the Prophet (saw) and submitted: Oh Messenger of Allah, I am unable to attain purity from menses, should I give up prayers? Prophet (saw) informed her that it was only blood from the vein and not menses discharge. Therefore when the menses starts, give up prayers and after the usual menses have passed, wash off that blood and resume prayers.

( Bukhari)

OK, so what does that mean for me, a Muslim woman?

We all know (or should know) the duration and details of our menses. If the blood/ spotting continues beyond menses, it comes under ISTHIHAAZA. After the usual days of menstrual bleeding have passed a Mustahaaza (one experiencing spotting/AUB) can take her bath (Ghusl) and carry on with the routine acts of Ibadah. This includes praying, fasting, and even having sexual relations with the husband. It is important to note here, that a woman suffering from ISTHIHAAZA should still perform wudu before each prayer. If she wants to wear a pad, she can put a clean one on before each prayer, wudu, and pray. The discharge/spotting/ISTHIHAAZA that occurs while praying is fine and not considered impure.

Fatima bint-e-Abu Hubaish (RA) relates that she had a prolonged flow of blood (after menses) and the Messenger of Allah stated to her:

During menses the color of blood is dark which can be recognized and when that is the case, then avoid prayer. Otherwise, (when the color of the blood ceases to be dark) then perform ablution and observe prayer for that is the blood from the vein.

( Abu Dawood)

A woman suffering from ISTHIHAAZA can perform all worships in the usual manner after the bath (Ghusl)

Ayesha (RA) relates: Among the consorts of purity, some performed I’tikaaf during the state of Isthihaaza

(Bukhari)

It is also lawful to have sexual intercourse with the wife who is suffering from Isthihaaza after her bath.

Ikrima states: Umme Habiba (RA) was suffering from Isthihaaza. Her husband Abdur Rahman bin Auf (RA) sued to have sexual intercourse with her ( after her bath).

(Abu Dawood)

 

How can I tell the difference between HAIZ (menstrual) blood and ISTHIHAAZA (nonmenstrual or AUB) blood?

HAIZ (menstrual) blood will have the following features:

  •  Darker in color ‧ may contain clots
  •  thicker (due to dead cells, cellular debris etc)
  • may contain an odor
  • may be warmer in temperature
  • some say there will be slight pressure.

ISTHIHAAZA (non-menstrual) blood will have the following features:

  • Bright red in color ‧ thinner (because its blood from a blood vessel) ‧ usually will no odor
  • it is cooler in temperature

What if I still can’t tell the difference?

Sometimes there are situations where we cannot tell whether the blood being discharged is part of our menstrual flow or part of ISTHIHAAZA. Meaning sometimes our menstrual cycles (and menstrual flows) are so habitually irregular each month, that we cannot differentiate when our menstrual flow ended and when ISTHIHAAZA has started. And so in this situation, you’ve already observed the blood for the key features (color, thickness, and odor) but still cannot tell.

What to do here? In this situation, you must recall the date of your last normal period. It might have been several months ago, but try to recall the date of that last normal period/menstrual cycle/menstrual flow. Using that earliest date, try to calculate forward from then, when your period would occur in the subsequent months until today. And depending on that, you can determine what state you are in currently. (HAIZ or ISTHIHAAZA)

(I hope that made sense)

What if my menses have never been normal?

Ok so what if you cannot even recall a time when your menstrual cycle has been normal. Meaning from the day that you first got your period, you have experienced irregular cycles. Always. In this situation, you will not be able to calculate anything, because you have never had a normal cycle. In this situation, one will look to her sisters or mother (closest female blood relative) and follow their cycles. Because if anything your cycles will resemble theirs.

What if I see brown discharge?

So now let’s say, a few days after attaining purity from the menses (after ghusl, after you’ve started to pray) you see some brownish discharge. What does that mean? This is not to be assumed that your period is starting over. This brown discharge usually represents left over menstrual blood that is just being discharged a little late. Brown or even blackish discharge appears towards the end of your period. It just means that the blood is flowing out of the body at a slower rate. Older blood turns brown- or even black and is typically not a sign that anything is wrong. This is basically the tail of your menstrual flow. If you see brownish discharge after you have taken a bath (Ghusl) you can continue to keep praying and fasting.

Umm Atiyya (ra) relates: We did not attach any importance to brown or yellow colored water if it appeared after attaining purity from menses.

(Abu Dawood)

It’s therefore, also important to note, not to hurry into prayers and fasting. As much as we would like to get back to our daily acts of Ibadah, we should give our menses the days they deserve. Our menstrual flow usually starts out as Red/Dark Red, eventually becoming Brown/black, then light brown, deep yellow and then eventually white or colorless. It’s important to wait until you see the white/clear discharge before you resume praying and fasting.

The ladies used to send to Ayesha (RA) a small box containing cotton wool which was slightly tainted yellow.

Ayesha (RA) stated: Until you see clear and clean water do no hurry (in acquiring purity). From this statement Ayesha(RA) meant attaining purity from menses.

(Bukhari) 

What if the bleeding just never stops?

Hamna bint Jahash (RA) relates: I was undergoing constant flow of Isthihaaza blood and I decided to raise this subject before the Prophet ﷺ. According for this I waited on him when he happened to be in the house of my sister Zaineb int Jahash. I said, O Messenger of Allah! I suffer from Isthihaaza and on that account there is incessant and profuse bleeding which is keeping me from prayers and even fasting. What is your verdict? He ﷺ said: I advise you to use a cotton wool for it will absorb the blood. I said: it will not do. He said: Place a tight apparel over it. I said: That too will not help. He said: Use cloth instead of coot wool. I said: even that has failed as the bleeding is so copious.

Then, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: I tell you two things, you may act on both or either of the two, as you wish, and that will serve you. Isthihaaza is a blood from the devil. Haiz condition lasts for six or seven days, that is destined by Allah. Therefore, leaving this much number of days, have a bath, cleanse yourself free to offer prayers and to observe fast. You may follow this routine in the same manner as other women do in the ordinary circumstance.

(Tirmidhi)

From this, we learn that some women experience some type of bleeding at all times of the month or even continuous profuse bleeding. It goes without saying that in these circumstances, it is important to consult your physician.

But when it comes to your Ibadah, and according to the above hadith, you can do either of two things:

  •  6-7 days can be set as your period. Then you must bath and cleanse yourself (Ghusl), and then the rest of the 23-24 days of the month you may pray and fast.
  • Or you can follow the cycles of your closest female blood relatives (mother or sister) So there you have it. I hope, insh’Allah that this kinda clarified some of your common questions and concerns when it comes to our menstrual cycle, spotting and praying. Again, it is incumbent upon every woman that she track her cycle, know her period/ menstrual flow, and consult a physician for any irregularities.

 …………………………….TO BE CONTINUED………………………….

PART 1 


Written by FeatherB – (She is a Medical Graduate)

Sources:

buoycurrent

Islam QA

The Book of Cleanliness: Compiled by Iqbal Kailani. Translated by Khaja Abdul Muqtader.